LittleDarlings

I mean I can start conversation with anyone which is good I assume right? I'm a people person

What makes me husband bait? I have no idea in all honesty. I'm funny, cute, and I have a personality where I can talk to people and actually hold a decent conversation even if I'm not interested at all. I do know what I want and I know how I'm going about getting it. Beyond that I have no clue, I would just be a great wife and mother

I'm sorry that this has gone on 8 pages, I didn't expect it to. I have kind of cut back my responses but I want everyone to know I am reading them and I appreciate them. I guess for me I'm not like out there now I have no real way to meet guys at this moment because I'm pretty much at home all day. What if my grad school life is like that?! I feel like I am kind of using grad school to meet guys because there isn't a way for me to right now, unless I meet him at the gas station on my way to another date or at Walmart or maybe Christmas shopping:)

... You don't have to be rude.

I mean I do have some standards I don't just accept every single thing lol I mean I'm not as selective as I could be but I wouldn't put up with cheating I don't think...

4 years

A Mrs. Degree! I never heard that under my senior year of undergrad, in all honesty I went to college for that... I left with a degree and no boyfriend :/ but hey whatever. I feel like the program I'm applying for is intense but not so intense that it'll take up every moment of my life. Dating and finding someone is important to me and I will specifically make time for it. I'm probably going to try Eharmony because they have people who actually want marriage. As far as my friends.. I don't feel bad distancing myself from them, it isn't fun being the single friend sitting there listening to all that crap all the time.

I'm hoping by the end of my 2 year program my life won't suck as much. Also I'm still working on myself I still am in therapy and I hope by the end of that which will be around the time I go to school things will be much better for me.

I have made some improvements (I know it totally doesn't seem like it). There are some many factors that add to my need to not be alone, when I get a guy I mean I hang on desperately because them leaving is the worst thing that could happen. When I was with my ex and he suggested a break I literally freaked out I mean crying and panicking. After we did end I had an actual panic attack, I just can't handle rejection from guys (I can handle rejection from schools and everyone else). The measuring stick thing, I agree and my life would be much much better if I could just care about what other people are doing but it isn't that easy. It is hard to not be bitter or jealous or whatever.

Lol ok it might sound bad but I didn't get pregnant in high school, so I passed that point. I went to college and graduated, yay, and she's been married like almost 20 years she's like in her late 30s I think so I mean while divorce is a possibility I doubt it would happen. At least after all that she got the husband, the babies and the career. That's the idea I guess. She managed all that before 35 She is a really great therapist I mean she has a ton of life experience. She has said a lot of what you all have said

Ok I don't know how to multi quote so I will just address people by username. ZeChocMoose: I have totally been there with dating awful guys... I was talking to this guy and he was perfect until I found out about his domestic violence history (well it was once against his sons mom) but he had a slew of assault charges from bar fights and stuff, of course it scared the crap out of me and we kind of stopped talking, he is now got a new gf and they are having a baby after like 5 months together :/ I thought that me going to therapy would help that self esteem process along, and it kind of hasn't and now I am kind of wondering if it will ever happen. I'm sure it will and I know I have the ability to not worry about guys.. I interned for 3 months away from home and when I had to be on my own my priorities were totally different, I was always busy and had no time to really think about it. I just want to be like that again. ExcusemyFrench: I am going for social work and I have a feeling there won't be a ton of single, attractive, straight men in that program. I personally wouldn't mind it but I doubt it'll happen in my department. I do want to possibly meet someone in other departments, like maybe engineering or someone in medical school or I mean anything honestly. I think I can go to school and focus on that but that doesn't mean my social life should die. CageFree: Ok so... My aunt, maybe what I said was a little harsh but like I said she was engaged at different points in her life, obviously she wanted to be married and for whatever reason it didn't happen. I don't know what someone would do after that? I would die if I was engaged and expecting to be married and then it just ended. I'm not saying that I would go into a marriage that has a lot of problems just to be married but I would certainly work as hard as I could to not have it end. I worked hard to not have my boyfriend of 3 months leave me, if he would have wanted to marry me (later down the road) I would have REALLY tried to salvage the relationship. I respect her and her decision I mean she seems happy, I don't necessarily admire her because that would mean I would want to be like her and I don't want to be. I would maybe like to accomplish some of what she has done but I would also rather marriage and babies. I don't think that people can't be happy after 30, I think that if I was 30 I would be HAPPIER married compared to not. I know 30 is not old in the whole scheme of life as a whole but it isn't young either. I mean I am 22 now so maybe I think it is much older than it is but I'm 23 and freaking out about being 2 years from 25 because I haven't accomplished what my friends have and what I want which is a relationship that will lead to marriage. Even my little brother whose 18 has had a girlfriend 2 years that he talks about marrying after graduation (I doubt that'll happen but still) do you know how that feels? My brother has a serious relationship and I can't keep a boyfriend for longer than 3 months. Thats messed up. I don't EXPECT to be a stay a home mom and marry rich, I would LOVE more than anything for that to happen but I highly doubt it will. I just want to go to school meet someone marry them and start a family. I can work while being a wife and mother too, that is fine. I know social workers don't make a ton of money so I do hope whoever I end up with can provide, I mean I don't want to live in poverty. As far as my friends of course I like my friends, I distance myself when they get relationships because it is annoying to hear about. Are you trying to make me feel bad because you have what I don't? Ok well I would hope that you would have that... I don't want to get a bunch of married people telling me stories about how they met their spouse in high school or college is that supposed to make me feel better? No. I just want everyone in life to be as miserable as me because my life sucks. Anyways, I don't even ask my current group of friends to hook me up because they do a bad job, but I just figure living in a new place with new friends we are all there to get an education but networking is important so why not network with attractive single men? I don't feel like an adult, my life doesn't consist of doing adult things, at least going to grad school ensures that I will be living on my own paying my own bills, working (possibly) and just doing what adults do). Sure I could be doing that now but i want to go to school and do it, I don't want to get a job now, if I really wanted to get a job now I would have put much more effort into finding one. I mean it is obvious some people found their significant other while in school, I am at least going to try because I don't want to be forever alone. Perfect scenario: I mentioned that I am going to therapy. My therapist had somewhat of the ideal situation kind of.. She had her first kid at 17 (not ideal) the dad left (not ideal) she met her husband at a bar at like 19 or 20 (would be ideal if it happened to me but I'm oh I'm 22 and never meet anyone in the bars worth dating), she married him at like 21 (ideal) had a baby at 22 (ideal) then stayed home with her kids (ideal) started and dropped out of school.. undergrad mind you (not ideal), stayed home more with her kids, became their preschool teacher, then she finally went back to school because one parents that she let her kids play with was going back basically and she was bored. I mean ideally that would be great even though she was an untraditional student with 2 kids and a husband but that is ideal. That won't happen for me because I am way past that point but hey.

I mean I guess it is true I don't know how things will work out. I'm pretty determined just in this year alone I probably went out on like 20-30 dates and had 2 boyfriends.. Even though they didn't last. I did read what you wrote and I get it but I feel like so many people on here and ones who have responded are in relationships and were in them by 23 so you don't understand the desperate need I have to be in one. I couldn't see myself dating a man who wasn't ready for marriage, I think it depends on how long it would take him to be ready because I couldn't see myself dating for 5 years maybe if I met them at like 18 or 19 that would be fine but I'm almost 23. You're right about the comment, but it isn't as if she didn't date and she has been engaged so obviously it was something she wanted at one point. I just don't know how I personally could be happy without a husband and kids, that is all I want. A career is great and I want that too but I want to be a mom. Anyways, the whole being "comfortable with myself" I'm still working on that. I do hope that going to grad school and being an actual adult will help me do more than just meet a guy.

You're probably just a little older than me or you were the same age as me when you met her (or she was the same age as me when she met you) and that is great you found someone but I haven't and it isn't looking super hopeful so I have to do what I have to do to get and keep a guy and if that means going to school, and then not necessarily using the degree I get then.. it happens I assume. I would hope I would get my degree and use it and meet someone and still be able to use my degree and just have it all! The fact is I am almost 23 with NO prospects.. like ZERO, NONE, NOT ONE. If I expect to even be married by 30 I need to meet someone soon, and Lord knows I hope I am married way before 30, even though 30 isn't old necessarily but it certainly is not the youngest, and it really isn't young to be unmarried, not dating anyone who could potentially marry you. My friends and I used to always joke that if we were 30 and single would would just adopt kids because its so old lol I just think once you hit 30 if you are single (completely single and not dating anyone) it is downhill like there is nothing to do with yourself. I mean a career would be great but that isn't going to fulfill me I could have the best career ever but if I have no husband or babies then my life is going to be crap. My aunt is in her 50's she has an awesome career makes tons of money and she seems happy I guess (I don't know why) she is also unmarried and has no kids.. It's just really sad to me. I feel kind of bad for her sometimes. I'm just starting to get super bitter and like desperate (which I can totally admit) and I don't want to be single, being single is awful and at 23 almost being single is just embarrassing. I will continue looking for jobs but I just think grad school is what I want to do. ** Actually I mentioned a guy in another post, that I stated talking to. So I guess I don't have 0 prospects but I don't know where this will go so I don't know if I consider it was prospect. Just thought I would clear that up

Doesn't it bother you to not live with you husband? I feel like I couldn't have a marriage like that, I would want to be with my partner no matter what. I mean I can't see me getting a job THAT great that would make me move away from my significant other. I just started kind of talking to a new guy who lives here in my hometown and I'm wondering if I should toss in an app near home so I don't have to possibly leave a potential relationship. I just feel like it would be so hard to not be with my SO, especially being married. I'm kind of a needier gf though like I have to be there and know what's going on all the time that's just me, you probably aren't like that. I do like the idea of military men getting MSW!! Yay!!

Sorry for the confusion, I saw this question when it was in "waiting it out" (I think). Before it was in this specific group. I applied for the Social Work program. Sorry!

What's the two body thing? Someone mentioned that in another post. Nevermind I looked it up. No problem at all, I would live where ever my significant other had to live so if I was in Ohio and he had to move to where ever I would go and just try to find something there. I never want to apart from my SO when I get one.

I am a faithful girlfriend, I wouldn't date someone and then dump them for someone who would be better marriage material... But I admit I really want to be married and start a family soon I know I could truely love someone.. I have. I just don't understand what you want me to say. It isn't bad to want a family. And I have known some undergrad people who got married like right after college so that could happen, especially if they are older undergrad guys

I didn't mean stay married for a short time. I meant be married for a little while then have babies. I obviously should have worded that differently. I highly doubt I will meet a straight attractive man in a social work program, that's why I have to make friends so people can introduce me to people in other programs. That's how my friend met his 3 year girlfriend, despite that fact that he regularly cheats on her but that's not important to my situation

I want to go to grad school because I want to be a clinical social worker. I also really hope that in that time at grad school I meet someone and marry them sooner rather than later. That is what I would like to happen. I mean I get that maybe my motivation isn't ideal but it's my motivation and it's what I want and I'm not going to give up on trying to find someone to marry and have a family with. Obviously other people do it... I don't want to know about all the already married people lol I have thought of that. Believe me I think about how and when I'm going to find someone EVERY SINGLE DAY. I mean at least I will be in the college setting, I could meet an undergrad guy idk I honestly am focused and I do care about school and grades and I want to be a clinical social worker. I also want to be a wife and mother and I don't think that's a bad thing

I know I judge people, like I did an internship with a group of about 12 people and there was one girl, she was super pretty and super blonde (literally her hair was super blonde not me stereotyping). I remember the moment I saw her I thought she was going to be snobby and stuck up because she was so pretty, she turned out to be one of the sweetest people ever and she and I still occasionally talk.

I think that school is the best way to meet people, I mean look at how many people on this site mentioned meeting their SO in grad school. I have spent my time since May job searching and pretty much hanging out at home and I have no idea how I'm supposed to meet men, there's nothing to do, none of the jobs I interviewed off or looked at were jobs that had a nice pool off single attractive guys. I doubt social work will have that (unless I work in the hospital setting which I hope I do... I can be around cute doctors! Lol) at least I will have a career instead of some job that isn't even remotely related to my degree.

I think academics is most important then field work because to me that falls into academics and then networking

I applied to the MSW program and they has early priority admission, they guarenteed admission to anyone above a 3.3 as long as you got your app in by Nov 30.

I would think that if I found someone who wanted to marry me we would somewhat discuss whatever issues could arise. I don't know I feel like everyone is making this so complicated. I just want to meet someone to date and then hopefully we have common goals and interests and then get married (within 2 years of dating if that) then stay married a little while and have children. None of my friends can offer me actual good advice about relationships, even if they could I don't have a relationship...

I'm going to use my degree. Only time I wouldn't use the degree is if I met a rich man who could pay my debt and I could stay at home and raise a family and we would still live comfortably. I can't even find a regular guy let alone a rich one so I doubt that's going to happen. I graduated in May I have taken the year off. I didn't find a job so I'm going back to school