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Columbia is killing me. Last one I’m waiting on that would be a contender still. At this point I want the rejection so I can start making life plans, etc

Thank you so much, @renea! I am also very very relieved to hear that you’re already expecting your last snow. I’ve been reading online about how Michigan is in a near-constant state of winter, and though I suspected it was perhaps a bit overstated, it’s nice to have this confirmed, ha. I also tend to dress very casually (probably because I’m tall and can’t do heels), so it’s good to have some context on what you’ve seen in your experience! Also that dress is super cute!

Guys, I don’t want to sound silly, but I have never attended a recruitment weekend and have no clue what to expect. I have some questions: 1. What are some things I should be asking POIs in one on one meetings? 2. How much of this will be awkward small talk? 3. What do I wear? Lol mainly asking for Michigan, because I’m worried it’ll be colder than I’m ised to at the end of March and I know I’m going to want to wear three sweatshirts (but I won’t, because I’m a Serious Academic or whatever). 4. Suggestions on whether or not to bring my boyfriend? Obviously he can’t come to meetings / departmental stuff, but I’d like him to be able to weigh in. I don’t currently have plans for him to join me, but I’m wondering what you all have done. @punctilious, what are your plans for visiting with your husband?

@FishNerd thank you so much for this! People here and elsewhere have been saying that it’s silly to make long term plans based on someone I am not like, married to, and I should be “following my dreams,” but my success will not be worth it to me if I lose this person. I have other goals outside of academia, and of course I would factor those in, you know? Anyway, we’re going to make it work, but I’m already kind of dreading it. Also, I worry about bringing him up too (it’s different because you two are trying to move to the same program) to my current mentors when discussing my hopes etc. One of my professors very generously gave me this advice, which I’m going to pass along: “everyone says that rankings matter most and that you should be selfish in your decision, but you’re not going to do well in school if you’re unhappy. If you need to be a certain place for your sanity and other personal reasons, do it.” (He then recounted how he turned down two top-five schools to attend a program ranked in the mid-50s and could not be happier as a result.)

What do you mean by “primary home”? I don’t currently live with my boyfriend, but he is planning to move wherever I end up at in about a year and a half.

I’m leaning towards it, yeah. Higher rank, better funding, I think the vibe is a good fit for me, etc. My boyfriend swears that we won’t break up and that he’ll move after he finishes his respective grad program in a year, but I’m worried. My family is very excited for me, but I can tell that they’re sad. I know that you’re right, and I needed to hear this, but gooooood. I feel so whiny, but it’s hard. Ideally, I’d like to marry this dude and have children eventually and all that, and I know if we can’t make it work than it won’t be right anyway, but it’s still scary.

I’m feeling such pressure from everyone to stay in CA and it’s killing me. I feel so so so fortunate to have three amazing schools to consider and I feel like Michigan is the obvious choice... but I’m scared about leaving my family and boyfriend.

Columbia isn’t out either! They do NOT interview everyone. Don’t give up yet!

First: congrats on UNC! Second, for y’all: the email was pretty generic and unpersonalized

In at Michigan! Will change sig when not on mobile. My concentrations are Brit Modernism and DH.

and omg, congrats to everyone who received an acceptance or waitlist today!

email with attached letter. i was really surprised, as i had seen that someone else received an email a few days ago. i think they're staggering them.... and thank you @Warelin, @Crow T. Robot, @FreakyFoucault, @LeeLeeCzechIrish, @punctilious, @Wooshkuh, @Mellowyellow, @Yanaka, @LibraryLivingJT!

GOT INTO UCSB!!!!!! I had completely given up!

Thank you @Crow T. Robot,@Mellowyellow, @punctilious, @Axil, @LibraryLivingJT, @Wooshkuh, @unicornsarereal, @mk-8, @Warelin, @FreakyFoucault, @clinamen, @M(allthevowels)H, and anyone else I might have missed! And congrats to everyone else who got some good news this weekend!

GUYS. Just got a call from USC. My first acceptance. Glad I let it go to voicemail because I would have cried :')

This is not my experience, but I imagine the anger would come from feeling abandoned? I must admit that I felt lowkey resentful of some of my friends who were able to move away for college, and a lot of it was jealousy.

Congrats! Was it a call? An email?

on a weekend no less! ugh.

SAME. Going to give it two whole days before calling it an implied rejection. Damn.

I’m in for this group, lol. After finding a major error in my SOP, I sure as hell need it hahaha

Been averaging two a night, my guy. Last night I dreamt that this prof I know at USC came to my work to give me an acceptance and I shrugged and said “sick,” then went back to my mindless work.

How do you know they’re not sending out official acceptances until then? also, I’ll take an unofficial acceptance too, ha

That UCSB acceptance is giving me stomach cramps

No advice from me, as I’m 21 and in a similar position. You’re not alone, friend! (My plan is to dress super professionally. My one woman mentor once suggested that that’s the best way for women to project their authority)

I'm personally gonna call it a rejection now so I can move on and stop feeling poorly about it...