cinderellasyndrome

I transferred twice in undergrad, and I'm in my MA now, so I'm used to just filling out apps with (all 3 of) my undergraduate schools. So. I'm dumb, and on several of my PhD apps, I left off my current M.A. institution by mistake. I submitted the apps before realizing and now can't change it. The start and end dates (and the name) of the M.A. program are on my CV, and I emailed the requisite department people at each institution where this happened, apologized profusely, and sent my current transcript. My question is, is this such a dumb oversight that I'm totally screwed at these schools right out of the gate? Or have you seen/done something similar and still been admitted? Any insight would be helpful here–I'm panicking a little bit.

Thank you so much for putting so much time into this! It really does help to hear how I come off when speaking about this to someone who doesn't have all the context. I am much more excited about School B and am basically ready to commit. The cost difference is not due to rent, but my parents and I have spoken about it in a way that makes me comfortable accepting some help from them (and it's also nice to hear I'm not the only one in this situation, so thank you for your candor about that). I so agree with the personal growth part and I'm very excited for what's to come.

It's for an MA. My parents are willing to help me somewhat, and as grateful as I am for them, I don't know how comfortable I am accepting that. I'm working on it, though. The $500ish/month would be after rent and utilities only. Out of curiosity, why was School B the clear choice to you? I'm not questioning your judgment at all, only asking because that's much more clarity than I have right now and it'd be interesting to hear that perspective.

Someone please help me. My head is spinning, everything is upside down, and I feel literally paralyzed at having to make this decision. Please assess these on their face and don't go digging through my history. I calculated what I'd be living on based on the stipend divided over 9 months minus roughly what I'd be paying in rent. School A: My alma mater, the flagship school in the state where I currently live. Very cold, very rural – was great for undergrad, but I'm looking at a long commute for grad from a town I really don't love. On the other hand, I have a great mentor there from undergrad (who I have some guilt about potentially turning down), the resources are phenomenal, I have existing connections on campus which is a plus and a minus. The research going on is pretty good. I'd be living on about $1,000/month, but I don't see life in the area being all that great, especially once it gets cold. School B: Large state school about 12 hours (so, a plane ride most likely) from home. Amazing program, top-notch research that relates pretty well to what I'm looking to do, super well-equipped for the thesis I have in mind right now. A lot of faculty I could see myself working with, though none in my exact area. Really gorgeous small city, temperate weather (I love playing tennis and volleyball outdoors when I can). I can really see myself having a life there, but I'd be trying to live on $500/month (y i k e s). Any thoughts? This is an extremely difficult decision and I'd appreciate any input from people who have been there, especially when it comes to the "leaving home" issue.

As far as Storrs, I went to UConn undergrad and I have to agree with the other poster. UConn in particular is huge on the diversity stuff, so you'll be fine campus-wise, and Connecticut is very blue, so there's widespread LGBT acceptance in the overall area as well. The real problem I think you'll face – certainly one that I faced – is that it's just so damn rural. You're not going to find a gay bar (or very many bars at all) – closest would be Boston or Providence, which are not far, but probably not a drive you'll want to be making every weekend just to find something to do. If you have an existing partner you're fine, but if you're trying to date as a lesbian, the pool is going to be very small.

Accepted at Virginia Tech, interviewing for an assistantship next week

I appreciate that! My mentor from undergrad is a prof and I went there for ugrad, so I think I’ve got it - unless you have some insights on the admission cycle! I know it’s rolling but going into March like this has me worried and I can’t really up and ask him. :/ If I do get in, though, I may take you up on that

Ahh when did you get in? I still haven't heard from them and I'm losing my mind

Accepted: Kentucky (MA) – 2/5 via phone Missouri (PhD) – 2/6 via email (personal) Rejected: None so far... anyone heard from UConn? It's my top choice and it's driving me crazy