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  1. I am so tired of being pregnant! This is my third child, so I had a clue going into it as to how much not-fun it is (especially by the end), but still. I want to sleep on my back. Hell, I want to sleep at all. I want to be able to roll over without having to sit up. I want to tie my own shoes again. I am so OVER IT (three weeks, four days and counting.....).

  2. I feel stupid sometimes telling her everything, or like I will offend her.  She kind of has the life that I wanted (want) she got married super young, she had kids super young, she is still married, she even has the career that I am going to school for.  I don't want to offend her or for her to think I am weird or something you know? Which I know she won't because it is her job to not be judgmental. I just worry sometimes and feel like I can't tell her everything because I have done stuff that I feel embarrassed about and I have feelings that make me embarrassed so she might really feel like "what is wrong with this girl?"

     

    I moved so I have the same therapist from back home and only see her once a month a need to get one out here.  

    Check to see if your University has a counseling center, or find a counselor locally. If nothing else, your therapist from back home does not seem like a good therapeutic match for you, if for no other reason than you compare yourself to her. She is also, if I remember correctly, a social worker - I'm not trying to disparage social workers, but the issues you have may be better served by seeing a psychologist. 

  3. I know for 100% fact that a relationship will make me happy.

    A thousand times, no. Relationships are a ton of work. A bad relationship is decidedly worse than no relationship.

     

     

     I know for 100% fact that a relationship will make me happy. 

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    Anyways I went to lunch with this girl recently and got to know more about her... Is it possible to just not like people because you just don't like them much? I mean I don't think I dislike her necessarily but I just can tell that she isn't someone I would try to be friends with outside of school.  I think that I can manage while in school but we have no real common interests.  My views about life and what life should be are totally different than her's.  I can get along with her and be civil but yeah.  I think I can manage being friends with other married people I guess... they aren't my first pick in friends or anything but if I have to be in contact with them I guess I can.

    Point 1: A thousand times, no. No relationship is much better than being in a bad relationship.

     

    Point 2: If you just don't see eye to eye with her, aren't on the same page, etc., then stop trying to force a a friendship. 

  4. I would suggest applying to Master's programs, for a few reasons:

     

    I respectfully disagree with part of what Juillet said: I think your GPA is on the low side for admission directly into a PhD program. It's not impossible, but I think you need to be prepared for that. Get a Master's degree and prove that you are capable of 4.0 grad-level work.

     

    Additionally, a Master's program with a Thesis option will provide you with research experience, shoring up that particular area in your application as well.

     

    In the interests of full disclosure, I earned my Master's degree a year and a half ago before going on for my PhD, so I am quite familiar with this path.

  5. You may need to take some Psych courses, as many programs require some basic coursework, i.e., Intro, Research Methods, Abnormal, Cognitive, and Social. Master's programs may not have as many prerequisites (although I am sure most of them do), and a Master's degree with a Thesis component will give you the opportunity to do some research.

  6. Your verbal is not too terrible when considering the fact that you have a TOEFL score to go with it: I'd guess English isn't your first language. Apply to more than one Master's program, though (I'd tell that to anyone, not just someone with a 144 Verbal).

  7. Much as in undergrad, in grad school you are expected to be your own advocate. None of my professors have given me a hard time about my accommodations. It's been a little different with my cohort, some of whom don't realize that some of how I function in a class is because a need as opposed to a preference (i.e., I bring my laptop to class because the nerve damage in my hands is such that I cannot take notes with a pencil, not because I'm going to browse LOLcats during lecture). Occasionally I feel like I need to prove my capability to my professors, but that's almost certainly due more to my insecurities than it is to something overt on their part.

  8. Relax. Your GPA isn't too bad. As long as you do well on your GREs, you should be okay. Remember to apply to schools that have the people you want - don't apply based on so-called rankings. You may want to apply to a few Master's programs just in case, but I don't see anything that raises red flags based on what you've written here.

  9. Person A has been using school's mental health support and that is where Person A got the antidepressant prescription from. It has reached to the point that everyone in the lab started ignoring Person A's existence -_- . 

    Then there's nothing for you to do. The person is actively under the care of mental health personnel. Unless there is a direct threat to you or someone else, there's no one for you to report it to. 

  10. Here is the recent edition of The Chronicle of Higher Education, highlighting how the importance diversity is emerging in academia: http://chronicle.com/section/Diversity-in-Academe-2014/799/

     

    Access is restricted to subscribers, but if you have library access you can probably read it online through a proxy server.

    I find it worth noting that many of the headlines in the Diversity special edition on Chronicle focus on gender and race, but do not include other markers of diversity (i.e., sexual orientation, physical diversity, neurodiversity, etc.), and only a handful mention SES.

  11. Apply to Master's programs that have a Thesis component. You'll have hands-on research experience, you should be able to publish your Thesis at least as a poster presentation at a conference, and you'll gain additional statistics skills. There are some funded Master's programs in existence (I went to one). PsyD programs vary widely in their quality of education; the ones that are well-regarded by the psychology community (APA-accredited internship match rates over 80%, good EPPP pass rates, etc.) are often just as competitive as PhD programs. 

  12. @Lisa - I think you are probably right, I would have to apply to the psych dept and potentially work with the PI in communication. Though, did the incoming student apply to the Comm dept first as an MA student and then re-apply to the psych dept for a PhD? How would it work otherwise?

     

    @ClinicalPsych - I'm not sure if he is affiliated with the psych dept or not. All I know is that his undergraduate and graduate work is all in psych, and the methods he uses are some of the methods I want to use.

    The person actually has a Master's in Communications, and applied to the PhD program in Psychology. 

  13. Cross-departmental research is not unheard of; however, I think your PI would need to be in the Psych department. Is there someone in Psych who works frequently with the person in Communication? The other side of it is, a Master's in Communication does not prevent you from going on for a PhD in Psych later on (the Psych department here just did this with one of the incoming first-year students, FWIW).

  14. I'm currently a grad student in the process of obtaining my Master's in Counselor Education. I'm a good student, I enjoy the subject matter, and strongly feel that I will one day make a great counselor. However, I'm very disappointed with the program I'm in so much so that I'm considering dropping out.

     

    In particular, I am having a lot of difficulty with this one professor. She got both her Master's & PhD from the same university she is now teaching at, and the program I'm enrolled in. Unfortunately, my advisor was her mentor, and I'm guessing that he likely helped her get hired. I really don't know who to talk to about the issues I'm having with her. I'm frustrated because I'm only a year into the program, and will have to take several more classes from her.

     

    If I do drop out, I plan on writing a letter to both the Department Chair and President of the University addressing the ethical aspects of having hired this woman in the first place. After all, they have plenty of other students graduating with their PhD's from this program. Why should this professor have been given preference in the hiring process? Also, wouldn't "hiring their own" limit diversity and thereby impact the services they're offering students?

     

    If anyone has any advice on this issue, I'd greatly appreciate it. 

    You are assuming that this professor was given preference; perhaps other students from the program did not apply for the job (sentences two and three in your second paragraph). Can you provide evidence that this person was given preference? That is not always what happens when a graduate lands a job at his/her alma mater. Hiring a graduate of a program is not an ethical issue unless you can show blatant favoritism on the part of the University, well above and beyond you (or your classmates) not liking this instructor - you have to be able to prove that all of the other candidates were significantly worse than this individual, both on paper and during their hiring presentations.

     

    Talk to your adviser. That's what they're there for.

  15. At my (very small) undergrad institution, unexcused absences counted against your grade; for example, if you had more than 2 unexcused absences, your final grade at the end of the term would be knocked down by half a grade (for example, B+ to B ).

     

    Is it similar when you're still attending classes for the Master's requirements of your Ph.D. program? Can your grade in a course be affected by too many absences? Do you just have to email your professor if you're feeling sick one day, or do you have to bring a doctor's note proving your need to stay at home (something that was required at my German university)? I'm not talking about a prolonged illness requiring a leave of absence, but simply a cold or flu that knocks you out for three days or less. 

     

    In terms of time off: Is it considered kosher to drive up and visit your family on a long holiday weekend if they're within driving distance? My folks will be 6 hours' drive north of me, which is definitely doable for Thanksgiving and Easter. Do people often do this, or is it frowned upon? 

    Absence policies are dependent on the professor. I have yet to take a grad-level class where absences would count against my grade; however, there is an understanding built into the culture that one is expected to be in class. I usually e-mail my professor if I have to miss a class due to illness; in the case of conferences, I let my professor know as soon as I know I'm going to the conference, and remind him/her again about a week ahead of the conference date.

     

    Yes, people leave town for holidays. If you're TAing, check with your University's policy regarding when grades are due, and when you are allowed to leave; I believe the TAs here need to stay in town through the week after finals week. GAs here get the week between Christmas and New Year's off, as well as the major holidays, but that's it - they work through the end of May (to put in in perspective, graduation is May 10th, but they work through May 31), they do not get Spring Break off, and they work through December until the University closes on Christmas Eve. What GAs do on their time off is their business - if they want to go visit family, that's fine; if they want to stare at a wall, that's fine, too.

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