All my FB friends are being accepted AUGH!

[roguesenna]

Just venting.

 

It's like babies and marriages. Now lately all I'm seeing on my facebook feed are PhD acceptances and half of me is like "Awesome! congrats!" and the other half of me is like "augh why are you getting accepted and not me!!!!?!?!?!"

 

/venting.

[CocoChanell_no5]

I feel you. I've been feeling that for the last few weeks. The worst part is when you see their stuff and you know you're clearly more qualified than them yet here you are. >_> 

[engphiledu]

I know what you mean. I stayed an extra year and a half for undergrad to finish out three degrees, and there are some people who are getting their acceptance/rejection letters before I've heard any word. I'm really excited for them, but at the same time I'm complaining, "But, you're younger than I am! That's no fair!" 

I thought finishing applications was tough enough. I'm not cut out for this waiting game. Don't give up hope, though! What I have been told is to try and keep your mind focused on something else, like getting prepared for graduate school by studying or working on brainstorming ideas for a potential thesis focus. That way, you're still remaining positive about your chances and getting prepared without obsessing over your email/facebook.

Although, I must admit, each time I get a new email I have a mini heart attack. It's always a stupid advertisement or something. *grr* 

[roguesenna]

Although, I must admit, each time I get a new email I have a mini heart attack. It's always a stupid advertisement or something. *grr* 

 

augh yes, that little push notification makes my heartbeat double.

[MoJuiced]

We all know from popular culture that the best talent doesn't usually get the proper recognition.

 

You're just like Kendrick Lamar losing to Macklemore at this point. 

[roguesenna]

ugh. that whole Kendrick/Macklemore thing pisses me off. but not for the reasons you think.

[MoJuiced]

ugh. that whole Kendrick/Macklemore thing pisses me off. but not for the reasons you think.

 

I'm pretty well versed on the various angles of it. I like both artists, find both deserving, find the Grammy's to be stupid in general, and find the cultural commentary to be troubling in several ways. I'm interested in what you think. 

 

My point remains though, even if the topical analogy rankles.

[the_sheath]

For me facebook has always been a way to feel behind everyone else in life. Everyone always seems happier on there! But no one in my year took a gap year who has also heard back, so that's a relief. It's crickets chirping for now.

[starofdawn]

Facebook is a place where people only report their highlights, but not their downfalls. For example -  I'm waiting until I decide where to attend before announcing my plans (on Facebook) for graduate school. People won't know that I scored 3 points less on my GREs the second time I took them, despite studying close to 70 hours - they also don't have to know that my MS degree will take ~3 years since I need to take make-up courses - and even if I only get accepted to one school, they won't know about the other 5 schools that rejected me. They will only hear that I've been accepted to a great school and that I'm excited to attend.

 

I don't filter to intentionally make myself look better - I would rather share good news than bad news, especially with acquaintances. I share bad news with family and close friends, people who I can confide for sound advice and who can lift my spirits.

 

So when you scan your Facebook feed, just know that for every victory, there were many more failures.

Edited February 24, 2014 by starofdawn

[roguesenna]

I'm pretty well versed on the various angles of it. I like both artists, find both deserving, find the Grammy's to be stupid in general, and find the cultural commentary to be troubling in several ways. I'm interested in what you think. 

 

My point remains though, even if the topical analogy rankles.

 

theoretically your point is still solid, yeah. In fact considering I'm multiracial and most of my PhD Accepted friends are white, it goes that much futher.

 

I'm just annoyed with the people who claim that there's no *possible* way that Macklemore actually deserved the award and that the only reason he won is because he's a popular white rapper and blah blah blah. Not denying there is racial privelege out there and also not denying that the Grammys may include institutionalized racism (I don't really know much about the grammys, honestly, so I can't aruge either way). But I think there's a lot of emotion mixed into most people's arguments on this topic therefore I can't take them seriously as objective analysts of the situation.

 

 

Facebook is a place where people only report their highlights, but not their downfalls.

 

I actually tend to vent and gripe a lot on Facebook too, so long as I know the subject of my venting/griping/ranting/whatever can't read my FB. But to be fair, I might use it way differently than other people. When i first started using it, only my college friends could even see my profile. (I actually had an RA tell me during orientation "You gotta check out this new thing called Facebook! You can see people's relationship status!")

 

That said, you're right, there probably is a reporting bias.

Edited February 25, 2014 by roguesenna

[ProfMoriarty]

Yes, yes YES!!!!!!!

 

A friend of mine heard back within a few weeks of submitting the applications and got in at all the schools they applied to! I'm obviously happy for them, but I'm a little overwhelmed from celebrating with them, and accompanying them in the post-admissions process when I haven't heard any good news myself

[Dankar1208]

I know how you feel. My roomie is going through the application process and had 3 interviews for assistantships just last week. I'm 100% sure she's going to get in and I'm really happy for her, but when that call comes in I know I'm going to be jealous as well. 

 

Ah well, the cost of friendship. 

[LittleDarlings]

We all know from popular culture that the best talent doesn't usually get the proper recognition.

 

You're just like Kendrick Lamar losing to Macklemore at this point. 

You are perfect for this comment haha