LittleDarlings

I think if they haven't given you an answer yet you should definitely include it! Congrats!

Is it ok to come prepared with a list of questions?

Hahaha nice.

I have a MacBook and I love it. Everyone in my family though has toshiba and they have lasted years so they are really quality laptops too. I think it depends on your price range. Don't get a dell, I've heard they suck.

Ok well to your first point, I know I'm not the best friend right now and I admit that. If my friends were actually doing things I cared about (or I wasn't jealous of) I would be totally fine. If my friends were going to grad school I would be so supportive and happy for them and helpful, if they were getting good jobs/careers I would be happy for them, but no I'm not happy for them to get relationships or pregnant by God knows who... No sorry not supporting that. I can't. Emotionally I can't I just don't want to be involved or talk about it or deal with it. Their relationships aren't helping me get into one. Anyways I probably should give that guy another chance.. Guess I better wait until pay day, since I will obviously be footing the bill. The Meetup group. I probably won't go back to BUT I will be more kind in my description of them. As far as the quote, I did it the way I wanted. The additional part was an add on and I couldn't quote them (if there's a way please explain) I don't need to be told how I should and shouldn't respond thanks though. I have NO problem saying whatever I want to whoever I want when I want. That's pretty obvious.

Ok not all undergrads are early 20s, if I was teaching someone (which I wouldn't ever do because I have no interest in doing it) I obviously wouldn't try to date them but as a grad student if I met a nice undergrad I would. I don't see a problem as long as I'm not teaching. I knew some undergrads in my classes who were in their late 20s, 30s and up... Hell there was a 50 year old in one of my UG classes. So if I get to whatever school I am going to and see a nice guy who is an undergrad and wants to get to know me no matter what age I'm going for it!

I'm not teaching...? I am going to a grad program, I doubt that there will be undergrads in there BUT hey if there are I'm totally an equal opportunist!! I'm honestly just trying to make this whole thing a little bit funnier. It isn't a huge deal I just don't like the whole being intentionally hurtful thing. The overall topic isn't funny to me I mean you would think you could see that but obviously some just don't get it.

I think I will keep saying whatever I want and to can keep making fun of it lol I don't care that much. It is just sad in all honesty. Like I said good luck with that, I still say at least make this work out to my advantage also and send some of those numbers please and thank you!

Well first of all there is WAY more to that response that you wouldn't know. It was directed to that specific person and I'm sure they know why. Secondly you don't think that going out of your way to pull up this thread in your class for a laugh is trying to bring someone down? Ok well that's your opinion, I disagree but that's me. I get eat ever one is saying. I don't think everyone gets what I am saying. I'm sorry if you think it's funny or I'm trolling but I'm not and I am not going to go out of my way to prove that to you. If you don't like the thread then there are a million others on this website, I'm sure you can find something more interesting.

I did think there was a good or bad. I mean you can have a bad personality.. It isn't as if it's impossible.

Looked it up, it isn't the worst. Actually the description I read sounded really good.

Why bad??

ISTJ, is that good or bad?

Lol I'm totally famous now so thanks! I hope some of your students are hot guys. In all honesty though it is so sad that you go out of your way to make fun of me and make smart comments about how dumb I am or desperate or pathetic or whatever. I wish I could edit this so the specific person knows I am speaking directly to them BUT I'm sure they have an idea. Anyways you can say what you want, in the end you aren't better than me. I got into every school I applied to also, obviously I am somewhat smart. So have fun teaching your class about me, and making fun or whatever. At least I am honest with myself and other people, I have been extremely candid on this topic and I say kudos to me. Going out of your way to bring me down or make me feel bad is really sad. Anyways good luck in school and teaching and all that. Next time I would like an entire lesson plan about me;) actually collect your hottest students numbers and send them my way! I like tall athletic blondies... Ok go! Haha

Well thank you very much:)

Match and EHarmony are my next tries.

Oh thank God for that!! I mean like 86% of people get married so I mean I should eventually.

I do honest to god appreciate all the advice. I have read through this post like 3 times (beginning to end) on days when I need to feel ok. It really does help

I really do read and I'm trying to take all the advice given. I HATE being sad and miserable everyday but for me it is like.. Ok say you have a top school that you are DYING to get into, like you want it so much, more than anything else and everyone else you know is getting into your top school so easily, AND they are getting full scholarships! Wouldn't you be a little pissy about it? While you're waiting a million and 1 years to find out. That's what dating is like, I'm waiting, dying, having a ton of false alarms and then still empty handed. I am very lucky in other aspects of my life. I got into all my programs they are all offering decent funding but I wish a little of my luck would trickle down to my dating life. I am doing therapy and that has helped a lot. I just hit a down slump with this new job. It takes all my free time and I'm meeting cool people but obviously not attractive single men. I know that shouldn't be my priority though. Just not knowing when it'll happen scares me. I don't want to be the "always a bridesmaid never a bride" girl! (Well I actually never want to be a bridesmaid either... But whatever). If this guy asks me out again I will go. I just don't want to feel like I'm wasting time because if he isn't the one and I date him then what if I could have met the one? Lol ok nvm overthinking and it isn't like my door is being kicked down by potentials lol Thanks:)

To the first point, I do worry about that. I did date someone for a short time and it was still constant worry. Even though I had a guy and he was great I just constantly worried about when he would make if official, then if he was the one, just everything. I knew he wasn't the one because we had such different goals and plans for life. I kind of knew it wouldn't work but at the same time it was better than being alone. 2nd: When I first got into OSU I was like "ok not gonna worry about getting a bf because I will be moving soon. Now that I have other options I am worried again. If I get funding from this other school it would be smarter for me to go there but it's so close to where I live now that I would be in the same place and I've done a lot of dating in this area and it's been a fail lol so that makes me worry a little. I can't do sports so I just don't know what kind of group I would join. I did a board game group but it was just weird kind of (like the people). Where I live is weird there's nothing around so most meet up groups are far. I could try again. My friends... Am I happy that they are happy? I mean I don't care a ton, I know that sounds mean and it's great for them but if doesn't benefit me at all. It's great they are happy but I want to be happy too. Last point: I only offered to pay because it would be rude not to. I always do but most guys are like "no I asked you out I should pay" which I agree with! I mean I work but I JUST started working like Monday so I don't have money (I mean I had enough for that but still) it is just rude to me. If I knew I would be paying I wouldn't have went to be honest because I have other things to buy. I just feel like it's the right thing to do as a guy. I might go out with this guy again but knowing that every date we go on I will likely pay for myself kind of makes me a little less motivated to see him again. I'm an old school kind of girl so I like the old days when men were actually men and did manly things. I don't know if I will go out with him, probably not.

Well for your info I have been in a long distance relationship and if actually went on for a while so I do know what I am talking about. Guess what?? It didn't last because most LDR don't... Just saying. If a relationship was important to some people I just couldn't see them willingly embarking on something so difficult that could ruin it. Simple as that. BUT it's whatever it doesn't even remotely matter to me so good luck with whatever happens in your relationships or whatever.

Exactly... Why put yourself in that position. I know this guy who moved from Kentucky to Ohio for his girlfriends PhD program. If you love someone why wouldn't you make the sacrifice and effort. Seems dumb to let something like that complicate a relationship.

No. I don't know how I feel about this date. He didn't pay, we split which is like a major no for me. Like I don't go out with men who don't pay it's just not polite. However he was kinda cute and smart... Idk I can't decide if I'm into him. He got me a cute little chocolate heart sucker for valentines day (because we were supposed to go out last Thursday) I can't decide though. The most you people ask for the thread to end you just push it back up so thanks:)