If the marriage and the house are in the future, living apart for a couple of years isn't going to kill the dreams you've made together. In fact, it might be useful to think of it as "the last hurrah" of you're independence.
I think he really gets a weighty say in what school you accept if he's planning to move with you right away. Two years will fly by, and you'll look back at this time in your life and cherish the special visits and weekends spent together.
Stand strong, lady! It's all going to be okay.