ANDS!

I just read the thread (because I really didn't believe the thread title), and you folks saying "Just get over it. . ." - F-That. Espcially if there is a contract. I would rather be "slightly uncomfortable" than be robbed of my contribution to your field, and that is exactly what is occuring right now. No way in hell I would let someone screw me like that.

Now maybe I have missed something but I haven't seen anything about where the OP actually addressed this with the advisor and if they have what the outcome was.

I just want to say, if you look at the thread title from the front page it says:

"my phd-advisor stole my man"

I have nothing else to contribute to this conversation.

I just want to say, if you look at the thread title from the front page it says:

"my phd-advisor stole my man"

I have nothing else to contribute to this conversation.

I just want to say, if you look at the thread title from the front page it says:

"my phd-advisor stole my man"

I have nothing else to contribute to this conversation.

I just want to say, if you look at the thread title from the front page it says:

"my phd-advisor stole my man"

I have nothing else to contribute to this conversation.

My formatting looks about the same as the default (on my monitor). Now I'm also on 19X12 resolution, so I'd imagine on a CRT things might be a bit out of whack.



I am referring to federal loans. And if, in Takers case, they are boxed out - that is definitely something to consider. However, schools aren't likely to get in the habit of adjusting support per person and instead will continue to dole out dollars at a flat rate for general applicants. If 18K isn't enough (and in Takers situation, being from out of the country and having dependents) then this is one of those situations where hard choices have to be made. This would occur with or without a financial crisis in CA.

This all depends on where you live. You can not just say that about all of California. Plus, California is huge. . .it is unreasonable to expect every piece of livable terrain to have it's own little forest/mountain range in it's backyard.



For example?



Something tells me you are generalizing your experiences to the entire state; which is just ridiculous. I will say, if you wanted to bump into woodland creatures everytime you go and walk the dog, then you probably shouldn't have come to California, where most of those locations are getaway spots, not centers of government and education. Being a large state, we can build like that.



If your stipend isn't enough, you can always apply for financial aid as a graduate student.

I just want to say, if you look at the thread title from the front page it says:

"my phd-advisor stole my man"

I have nothing else to contribute to this conversation.

I just want to say, if you look at the thread title from the front page it says:

"my phd-advisor stole my man"

I have nothing else to contribute to this conversation.

I just want to say, if you look at the thread title from the front page it says:

"my phd-advisor stole my man"

I have nothing else to contribute to this conversation.

This all depends on where you live. You can not just say that about all of California. Plus, California is huge. . .it is unreasonable to expect every piece of livable terrain to have it's own little forest/mountain range in it's backyard.



For example?



Something tells me you are generalizing your experiences to the entire state; which is just ridiculous. I will say, if you wanted to bump into woodland creatures everytime you go and walk the dog, then you probably shouldn't have come to California, where most of those locations are getaway spots, not centers of government and education. Being a large state, we can build like that.



If your stipend isn't enough, you can always apply for financial aid as a graduate student.

Two FB profiles: one for Good friends, other for acquaintances. If you think that acquaintance is now ready to be moved to the good friends category go ahead. That's what I do. One FB for school relationships, other for the meat and potatoes folks.

There is no negative tone. It is simply me not shining you on; you asked for opinions, I gave you one which you reject out of hand which lead me to conclude you don't actually want opinions just validation for a decision you have already made. Nature of the beast.



I amended my recommendation to be more in line what you were seeking. . .did you not see?

Exactly. Perhaps people want to over complicate things because it is a big step in their life, and each action demands some grand gesture. Unless you're an exceptional candidate and the department went out of their way to recruit you (read: did they do anything they didn't do, or wont do again, to another candidate) a simple email suffices.

But hey I'm sure someone will come along and tell the OP what they want to hear: personalized hand written cards (perhaps scented) expressing deepest regrets and the hope that this doesn't completely shatter their graduate program.

Well then by all means, craft personalized emails for these instructors you have had these substantive conversations with who I am quite sure will remember you in 5 or 10 years.

Indeed; they aren't going to give you a "You'll be admitted to our PhD program if you just apply" answer. Most schools wont. I feel you on the "I dont have a ton of cash. . ." bit - but who does? Sadly this is one of the breaks about applying to grad-school, reaching out to programs that may not accept you.

Indeed; they aren't going to give you a "You'll be admitted to our PhD program if you just apply" answer. Most schools wont. I feel you on the "I dont have a ton of cash. . ." bit - but who does? Sadly this is one of the breaks about applying to grad-school, reaching out to programs that may not accept you.

Stanford or Berkeley? How about Lakers or Celtins? Kate Upton or Mila Kunis? 100 dollalrs now, or 100 dollars tomorrow. These are non-choices. The difference between both schools for your long term research and/or professional desires is pretty damn non-existent. They are both top schools. . .IN THE FUNKING WORLD.

This has to be a joke thread, with the overemphasis on rankings.

Stanford or Berkeley? How about Lakers or Celtins? Kate Upton or Mila Kunis? 100 dollalrs now, or 100 dollars tomorrow. These are non-choices. The difference between both schools for your long term research and/or professional desires is pretty damn non-existent. They are both top schools. . .IN THE FUNKING WORLD.

This has to be a joke thread, with the overemphasis on rankings.

I've posted on other threads -- but I'm starting a PhD in a biology subfield next month (I'm older than you are), WITHOUT the extensive lab experience. I have a fully-funded offer from a top-notch school. I am incredibly excited and feel extremely lucky. Deciding to apply was a major decision, and I was quite nervous about my chances, but I am very happy I did it. You may be surprised at how much support you'll get from friends and acquaintances. Feel free to PM me if you have questions during the application process.

Two FB profiles: one for Good friends, other for acquaintances. If you think that acquaintance is now ready to be moved to the good friends category go ahead. That's what I do. One FB for school relationships, other for the meat and potatoes folks.

This is the dumbest statement so far in this thread; only a damn fool would willfully close themselves off to ALL avenues/resources in regards to future graduate work. "Ah, there's an ENTIRE forum of current, about to be, and hopeful graduate students. . .naw, probably no helpful hints/reminders lodged in there. I'll just stick with asking Professors 20 years removed from the graduate process what it is like."

Dumb.

This is the dumbest statement so far in this thread; only a damn fool would willfully close themselves off to ALL avenues/resources in regards to future graduate work. "Ah, there's an ENTIRE forum of current, about to be, and hopeful graduate students. . .naw, probably no helpful hints/reminders lodged in there. I'll just stick with asking Professors 20 years removed from the graduate process what it is like."

Dumb.

This is the dumbest statement so far in this thread; only a damn fool would willfully close themselves off to ALL avenues/resources in regards to future graduate work. "Ah, there's an ENTIRE forum of current, about to be, and hopeful graduate students. . .naw, probably no helpful hints/reminders lodged in there. I'll just stick with asking Professors 20 years removed from the graduate process what it is like."

Dumb.

This is the dumbest statement so far in this thread; only a damn fool would willfully close themselves off to ALL avenues/resources in regards to future graduate work. "Ah, there's an ENTIRE forum of current, about to be, and hopeful graduate students. . .naw, probably no helpful hints/reminders lodged in there. I'll just stick with asking Professors 20 years removed from the graduate process what it is like."

Dumb.