lumbarmoose

There are cheaper ways to get hitched. 

I'm going a little crazy trying to pass the time until September. So, I plan on using this time to build a time machine of sorts to send me forward to the fall. Even if I spend my entire summer building it, and it doesn't work, it will still do what it was intended for.

I started dating my husband-to-be while on vacation during Christmas break. I was in the first year of my Masters, and he was working. It seemed absolutely hopeless and I did not want to get anything started, because it was ibviously doomed.

Still, he insisted we give the relationship a go. After three weeks together, I left to go back all the way ACROSS THE COUNTRY. We did long-distance for a year and a half. I think we might have traveled back and forth about 4 times during that time, which was awfully difficult considering that I only had my TA-ship to help cover half the tickets. He was paying our phone bills.

We got married 10 days after I defended my thesis. I ditched a PhD offer and moved to live with him.

8 years and a kid later, I am getting ready to work on my PhD. He is applying for his Masters next year. Grad school and the history of our relationship.

The moral of the story: If both parties want this to happen, it will. But they should really-really want it.

I think if you end up working 24/7 then you're doing something wrong.

Sure grad school will require us to work at odd hours but we still have to make personal time for ourselves/our family. Otherwise you'll burn out.

That instructor is blowing smoke out of their ass and should be ashamed for having such a reaction. Theres no way they wouldn't get laughed out of the Presidents office if they even tried such a thing.

If the instructor says "no", just get a Livescribe pen, or find a spot where the instructor can not see.

@nate99--

Easy does it!

There's a growing edge in your posts in this thread. I do not think the frame of mind in your recent posts is going to do you any good now or later.

Please take a step back and revisit your OP. IMO, it reflects who you really are and it is the mindset that is going to get you through this situation--however it plays out.

I am researching old threads, hoping to dig out some useful info. This thread is great so I am reviving it for others to read.

Also, if anyone is on the hunt for a possible roommate, shoot me a message. As I research apartments I become more and more horrified by the prices!

aww i bet you look cute with your widdle backy pack on

You really think all that coursework is a stupid formality? You think you're better than everyone else who've done things before you and helped revolutionize your discipline? Even if a seminal paper has little to do with your precise research interest doesn't mean it doesn't hold monumental value over the way you go about conducting research. There's a REASON why these papers become benchmarks in fields and why people today still read and cite them heavily. Having such a narrow view is what causes gaps between related disciplines, and that segmentation only weakens a science.

And I know this is a forum that's supposed to be, more or less, encouraging and all, but why are you even in the program then? If you're going to be this negative and cynical of academia, then get out. No one's forcing you to stay in. If you have to think twice about whether or not this path leads you to what'll make you happiest in the long run, then get out. There are easier ways to make a lot more money than getting a Ph.D.; if you're unhappy with what research leads you to, then there's no point in staying in a doctorate.

Never before have I so craved a generic email.

Stupid weekends =\

Stupid weekends =\

I agree completely. Considering that we are paying them for this (and it's not exactly cheap), a notification should always be sent, and if it's not, they need to say so somewhere on the application/website. I mean, it's really not that hard to send an email.

I would expect that kind of behavior to happen from maybe one or two schools, but four?? Wow, that's just really inconsiderate and kind of unprofessional.

This is an open source site. The Ivory Tower is much smaller than you think and in it are established professional academics who are much more vindicitive than you realize. (If you doubt this, read some of the other threads in which people talk about the kind of issues they're having with POIs and other professors.) You are at the beginning of a path in which you are forming your professional identity.
If you want to scoff at the two cents, that's your right. However, before you do, I recommend you bring something to the conversation other than spark and inexperience.

MOO, you should grin and bear it, save your venting for your personal journal, and chalk this experience up to lessons learned.

The mistake you made was not to call back the following week--and the week after that--and the next week, until you received absolute confirmation that all your materials had been received and everything was up to date. To paraphrase President Reagan, trust but verify.

After all is said and done, a student bears ultimate accountability for making sure the i's are dotted and the t's are crossed.

Thought this thread could use some paranoid parrot:

I made these to express my frustration.

Enjoy!

Today seems even slower than yesterday :/ just put me out of my misery, grad schools!

I guess we're all on pins & needles... The funny thing is that I will actually be in Tucson tomorrow, so it's tempting to go knocking on a few doors in the department and say "Ahem, my Grad Cafe friends and I are waiting, can you get a move on please?"

I agree! So many threads about nervousness, anxiousness and fear....it's nice to give ourselves some confidence!

I will get accepted this week. Tuesday is my birthday so an acceptance would be the perfect present!

I'm scared to email them! I am afraid of what they may say!

Official acceptance letter to Vanderbilt!

And coupons. Yesterday was a good mail day for me.

You are not allowed to be as stressful and neurotic as February. Unlike February, you are an adult month and have no excuses, and if you pull a Julius Caesar with me (et tu, [insert university name here]?), I will be very sad.