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About Cheshire_Cat

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  1. My SIL sent me a week of free meals with one of those grocery prep services (Blue Apron) and I think I'll keep using it. The food is good, varied, and all meals are within 600-800 calories. Since I've been in grad school, cooking has become my hobby, so it is great to get different things to prepare each week. It is a bit expensive, but compared to going out to eat, it is not bad. Also, knowing that I have a good meal to come home to means that I show more self control and don't go out to eat while at school. Since I'm single, the delivery gives me a week's worth of dinners. Also, I think it will be easier to count calories because they give you the calories for dinner, and then I usually eat the same thing for breakfast and lunch, so its pretty easy to know how many I'm eating.
  2. My parents are moving from my hometown, and it is weird. I didn't think I'd be upset, but I am. I think it is the right choice, but I'm still sad. Also, comps are in May, and I am taking 4 classes and teaching 2, so I am at the point in the semester where I am utterly exhausted and the thought of studying for the most important exam of my life is really daunting. Lastly, there is a guy who is slowly becoming one of my closest friends. He's been sick on and off with a chronic illness, and he finally opened up about it a little on Sunday. I just want to make it all better even though I know I can't. He is one of the best people I know and it's not fair that he has to deal with this.
  3. My professor wants to schedule class on Tuesday morning a couple of weeks in a row. I don't want to say no, but this makes my Tuesdays over 12 hours long with the last thing I do being teaching for 2 and 1/2 hours straight, which takes a lot out of you. I like my students and teaching this semester hasn't been bad, but I hate having to teach and take classes at the same time. It is too much.
  4. I have my students write a couple of sentences at the end of class each week. About 75% of the time, it is "What did you learn, and what did you find hard to learn" this week. This week, a student answered "I didn't learn anything."... the question was "What are you going to do to study for the upcoming exam." (which I repeated several times) I think I found the problem. Basic listening skills.
  5. It can be overwhelming, but get used to it. Actually being in the graduate program is a lot worse.
  6. Just like anything, it's not a big deal unless you make it a big deal. They won't "know what it is like" to be an academic, but I don't know what it is like to be a doctor, or be in the military, so everyone has to get used to differences. The main thing is, if you are a deep thinker, you may want someone else who is a deep thinker. This may be harder to find outside of academia, but it isn't impossible.
  7. Harry Potter fan theories. Ok, maybe hate is a strong word, but the books will have been out 10 years in July. Why are these still coming across my news feed? I like HP as much as the next person, but seriously...
  8. The TV shows I watch always kill my favorite characters... probably shouldn't have been watching TV anyway. Also, students come to me not understanding the questions on my tests. But it isn't the material, it is just that they really don't have the mathematical/logical background they need in order to do it. This is after over 14 years of school. I'm dumbfounded. I was homeschooled and literally did everything possible to avoid doing anything math related, and I could do the math/logic on the test.
  9. I have a motto: When you are off balance, avoid slippery slopes. Alcohol isn't bad in of itself, but it can be a slippery slope, and the Ph.D program has a way of putting you off balance. You have to know your limits and if you think it might be a problem, then it is best to avoid it.
  10. I've had a cold for a month and had to teach students and such with it. It is misery. But your interviewers come into contact with 100s of people a day, so they can't really trace it back to you. That is one of my top dislikes about academia. I am in contact with so many people that it feels like I am sick all of the time. I rarely got sick when I had my own cube and didn't interact with people most of the day. Now I get 2 or 3 colds a semester. My body is making up for never being sick as a child, haha.
  11. Rampant tribalism. I remember a day when you could disagree with someone's politics/religion/morality and still like and associate with them as a person. Bacon. Valentines day- It's so shallow and consumeristic... and yet I still bought my students candy because we will be in class Tuesday night.
  12. Can we also talk about how pretentious the fancy words you have to use to order coffee at said establishment. I want a medium coffee. Is that grande, tall, or vente? I don't give a crap. I want a medium. You figure it out.
  13. Yeah. Good advice. I have my "back up" parking garage with a valet and everything so that if I am running late I can drop it off there and not even worry about parking it, but it costs $5.50 more than my normal place.
  14. Ouch!!! That sounds painful... buy something on Amazon and pretend it took longer to get to her than you expected
  15. Someone emails me after 5 pm on Thursday and then when I don't respond, they email me and the department head on Monday Morning. Seriously? Give a girl a little more time before getting him involved. Ugh.