roguesenna

yeah, I see this thread is revived from 2013. be patient mux. It's not even March.

and for the one you picked, here's a try: Dear Professor [x], After careful deliberation I have come to the conclusion that your lab is the most well suited to my academic pursuits. Your research stood out to me because [x] and [y], and I enthusiastically await my opportunity to contribute. If you are still interested in taking me on as a student, I would like to meet (via Skype, in person, whatever) to discuss the next steps. I look forward to our work together. Sincerely, ~coffeesleep

Don't get too worked up over it I think. Take a page out of any other rejection letter you've ever read and write something courteous and brief. i.e. Dear Professor [x], After careful consideration I have decided to study with another professor. I thank you for your time as we have gone through this process and I highly respect and appreciate your work in the field. I hope that we will have future opportunites to work together as my career progresses. Please don't hesitate to keep in touch. Thank You, (or Sincerely,) ~coffeesleep

Fishmans that is great to hear. Noel seems really courteous and forthright about the process so far. If I get accepted to the MA I will have to pick your brain. Are you applying for PhD there for fall 14 (or 15? haven't completely wrapped my mind around the super-speedy MA there).

dance ethnography

Because if one of us can actually help her it would be worth it to her and to us(?). Well, to me at least. And I don't think she's beind negative and disagreeable on purpose. Honestly, it seems like she's speaking from inexperience and a deep and frustrating desire. I've been there, I know how it feels, I realized the advice that I am giving her that got me past that point and if someone could have rescued me from that sooner, I would have appreciated it, so I'm trying to help.

As long as you "need" it to happen, it will be EXTREMELY difficult for you to find a truly healthy and satisfying relationship. If you feel like you need a relationship to be happy, you will undoubtedly lead yourself into a situtation of codependence which is really unhealthy (at best, the relationship tends to be suffocating, at worst, it can become abusive). My recommendation, and try not to be offended, is to wait until you get to school and then take advantage of free therapy (usually schools offer free therapy). I'm not saying you are crazy or anything like that, far from it. But therapy can help you get in touch with who you are and give you an objective third pary to talk to who has your best interests at heart and will not give you advice based on biases (even biases in your favor can be harmful if they inspire someone to give you misguided advice). Simultaneously, a therapist can help you see through your own fixations to help you acheive what you want in the healthiest way possible with good results. Essentially, you need to become a person who doesn't need a relationship to be happy before you can get a relationship that will make you happy. It sounds like a catch 22, I know, but in my experience that's the only way it truly works.

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Dark Vision

I met my SO of 4 years (in May) in Grad School for my MFA. He was also in school for a different major but happened to be taking the same class as I was. We got to know each other through the class as we were both fairly vocal in the room and it was a small class, so we stood out to each other. When I realized I was attracted to him, I made a point to support his activities outside of class. I went to his theatre production and invited him to my writing workshop group. Towards the end of the class we had all bonded and I invited everyone out to a dinner (it was a writing class so we did a fake awards ceremony at dinner that I had everyone vote on). That was our unofficial first date. So yes, it is possible to meet, fall in love with and start a serious relationship with someone in grad school. It's easier if you are both students and understand that school comes first. That said, I believe my relationship with my SO worked out primarily because I had STOPPED actively looking for a relationship. I had been trying to pursue a few other guys before him, believing, much like you, that I really wanted a serious relationship and now was the time to get one. Those other attempts failed either because we were incompatible or I discovered I didn't like the guy or the guy wasn't interested in me. With my SO, I had decided to relax and let things come to me. Granted, I had to push SO a little before he finally asked me out to coffee (the dinner was part of my last-ditch effort), but if he hadn't asked me out (and had graduated and left) I would have let it roll off my back and move on. Potential partners can sense when you are desperate, and forgive me for saying so, but this all comes off as desperate. I was desperate once too. If you are relaxed and confident and happy without a relationship, that is attractive and that is what will help you when you finally notice a guy (or girl?) that you think is worthy of putting some effort into. My advice is to focus on making *friendships* and doing well at your studies and becoming the best possible version of yourself that you can be. Once you have that in place, then potential partners will start noticing you and you in turn can pick and chose which ones you want.

My MFA in DWRI is from the Savannah College of Art and Design. I went there for... reasons. I don't recommend it. Their program is very underdeveloped and my experience was just short of for-profit college treatment. I barely escaped with my sanity (but I did get a serious boyfriend and a writing portfolio out of it so... you know). I think you're right about Vogel. I forgot that she'd moved to Yale. I've worked with Lisa Kron before (she is an expat of my home town and alumni of my college) and she's worked with Vogel at Yale. As far as productions I had a few in Michigan when I was in undergrad and one in Georgia when I was in grad school, but none recently. I've been writing a lot of screenplays lately and right now I'm working on a prose piece (gasp!) that I hope to later adapt to a TV pilot (whew!).

political revolution

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Be very cautious with your credit. It's very easy to screw up and very difficult and time consuming to fix. Any late bills, loan payments, credit card payments, etc, can all affect your credit. Mine got destroyed as a result of a move across the country. I missed my last home phone bill and didn't realize I still had an outstanding bill. The phone company never bothered to call my cell phone and kept sending letters to my old address so I did not find out about the outstanding bill until two years later when a collections company started harassing me. By then it was too late to fix the damage done to my credit. In the U.S. you are entitled to check your credit for free once a year via the three different credit bureaus, Equifax, Experian and TransUnion. Each one must give you a free report and while they may be slightly different they are generally similar. Often they will try to get you to sign up for a free trial at the same time, so remember to cancel it if you don't want to pay. Your score can range from 350s to 800s, with 700 usually being a strong score. http://www.usa.gov/topics/money/credit/credit-reports/bureaus-scoring.shtml

I would email the school and discuss your options. Both are in the US I'm assuming? Businesses and schools tend to be fairly accomodating about weddings and the like here.

ice baby

sorry to hear. RE NYU MA in Performance Studies, aside from the exhorbitantly expensive pricetag, is there a good reason NOT to go?

cool runnings

I knew this and after talking with some people at the school I decided to apply anyway. I've heard that some get partial funding for the NYU MA. This not true? I haven't really considered MAs at other schools. Is it the same timeline as the PhD programs typically? Maybe I'll include some on my next go around if I don't get in to anything this year.

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just figured it out. he's saying the first formula is for old format GRE scores. the second formula is for new format GRE scores. GPA is same regardless.

before you say that, go read every single thing that has been linked in this thread.

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hive mind