MidwesternAloha

I have two out of state interviews in the same week... I just want to know who I'm meeting! Lol. I guess I'll just calm down and be thankful I have interviews.

It gives me odd comfort to know we're not the only couple doing distance.

My husband won't be living with (sad) - he's in the military,but he does like to poke around and chime in about the pros or cons of various places I might live. And where we could get cheap flights from lol

Oh Geez.

Again, you're missing the point. It was a reference to military culture that went over your head.

How far in advance have you received your interview itineraries for program-funded travel?

My favorite comic/grad school website: http://whatshouldwecallgradschool.tumblr.com/

None whatsoever.

A skirt and pants are equally as professional when they are worn as a suit. I wouldn't wear a casual skirt - if you are questioning it, you probably shouldn't wear it. You absolutely cannot go wrong with a suit. As far as carrying folders and documents, invest in a briefcase or padfolio. If you carry a padfolio, you can also carry a rigid-sided SMALL purse or clutch. Something that will stand up when you set it on the floor. You don't need to carry a lot with you to the interview. If you want to shove a lip gloss in the purse or folio, it should fit. Everything else can stay in your hotel room.

Mad respect!!

I saw you on the veterans' thread - sounds like you're in the same boat as my husband. Are you making your way toward Major? Sorry if that's a bold question.

When were you at Bragg? Just curious. I'm taking up residence (or should we say "escaping") Fayettenam right now. My husband is stationed here, but we live off post.

If you don't understand the culture, then keep scrolling. Take your butt hurt to another thread.

Here's another: "So...what do you do with that?"

And, for what it's worth: I belonged to some "women in science/medicine" groups, where women had legitimate strategies planned for like, the MONTH they would get pregnant during which year of grad school/med school and so forth, and the experienced mentor/professor women totally agreed and encouraged it. If you want the best of both worlds, there's a way to make it happen. Long story short, weddings and grad school DO mix. If you're lucky, you'll have a good PI with a good mind who realizes the importance of it. I currently work for a graduate program, and the PI groans about "why do all the grad students think it's time to get married/pregnant/etc" but he secretly loves and totally understands it. Gives the parents-to-be weeks off work, etc. Additionally, I recently read the handbook for one program I am interviewing at, and it had a section all about the structure for time off for weddings/babies and how many times you can "use" it while you're in school. Thought that was pretty neat. I respect the recognition from academia, that personal lives matter, finally.

Nothing wrong with that! My husband and I, knowing our schedules would be hectic as we both pursue graduate education, went the courthouse route after setting a date TWICE and having to change both. The family finally rejoiced, tired of the updates and upheaval haha. We will have a big wedding on a big anniversary or something. It's about who ya love, not necessarily the day. Spent that money on a down payment on a home, instead. Congrats, btw!

Following. I will be resigning and spending time with my family before moving off to grad school. I assured my boss last year that I was staying for a while. I have a great career with upward mobility but I've mentally checked out.

OH, and my favorite (because I'm married): "So, how can you start a family? You'll be in your thirties!"

"When are you going to get a real job?" "You can't stay in academia forever."

My husband and I spend about $400/month on food alone. At least a third of that can be attributed to dining out, everything else, I cook/meal prep.

I have been (((told))) but cannot speak to the truth behind this, but, two of my former classmates who are in years 3 and 4 of their PhD's advised me to let other schools know, should I find myself in that situation. Programs don't care that you applied to other schools, they know students apply to many. That being said, my friends have stated that programs will "talk" if they find out you were accepted at another school, and may become competitive in offering you admission, or at the very least, encouraging the other program to finalize their decision for you.

I don't see why a program would view that negatively. What do they expect us to do? Be reclusive? If you're spending your own time and money (in the free time), I feel adults should be allowed to do whatever they want. We're not children.

And I'm the minority student who has cancer and no immune system and doesn't want to catch that from you lol

Your master's GPA is above 3.0, which is a good thing. Valuable research experience can offset a GPA. The key is to land an interview: make yourself look the best on your application, and you can explain your low GPA when you get there. You never know unless you try. Good luck!

I keep seeing posts about being on a school's "short list." Anyone care to elaborate? Is this different from an interview? Are people commonly rejected after all expenses paid interviews? I'm new here...lol