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  1. Always Check to Make Sure Your Scores Are Received

    I had a similar issue during my application season. I disclosed my legal name change on all of my applications and explained that my GRE scores and transcripts were under my former name. Well guess what? Several schools didn't connect anything and marked my applications incomplete. Thankfully I was following up weekly and spotted this early (and repeatedly!) throughout the process, but it took a lot of phone calls to get it squared away when it really shouldn't have.
  2. popular things you hate

    Well popular things are everywhere. I find that hipsters and non-hipsters are just so obsessed with coffee while I find it disgusting and unnecessary lol.
  3. Wahhh the holiday break is almost over.....

  4. The Positivity Thread

    I had a nice holiday with friends and family
  5. popular things you hate

  6. Clinical PhD Rankings?

    I believe a book like the Insider's Guide to Graduate Programs in Clinical and Counseling Psychology might contain this type of information.
  7. Professional Disclosure in your Personal Statement

    I wouldn't answer this prompt by discussing a patient even if you are careful to avoid a HIPAA violation. I would instead opt for a circumstance involving a friend or acquaintance, but still leave out identifying details.
  8. FREAKING out about incorrect refund amount

    Yes I've experienced this, so you're not alone and yes it is very frustrating. Like you I requested student loan money to take care of things I couldn't with just my stipend and I did all of the paperwork early. Then something happened beyond my control....there was restructuring as people were laid off and those remaining had to double or triple their workload and learn new things. The financial aid office knew I and every other student really needed our refunds, but they were working as fast as they could to get up to speed with fewer resources and honestly we just had to be patient. During this time I revised my plans as best I could with the limited resources at my disposal and meditated a lot to deal with my own frustration about it. A few months later, they finally got to me and my refund was processed and posted to my account. I'm glad I got through that, but am hoping to not have to deal with that again.
  9. First Year of PhD

    The answers you'll get will vary based on field, but my first year was a mix of coursework, clinical training, and research. By design, the courses I had first year were the most labor intensive in terms of reading, projects, and exams so most of my time was spent here. My clinical training was mostly developing basic skills and group supervision. For research I worked on group projects with my lab and developed an independent project. I saw my supervisor weekly at lab meetings and once every few months individually.
  10. Summer Brain

    I have not experienced this, but maybe that is because I spend my summers learning new things and reading. That was always my thing whether in school or not.
  11. Clinical Psychology Training Abroad?

    I think it might depend on whether you want clinical or research training abroad. Research might be a little easier if you are already working with faculty who have international contacts or are open to establishing some. Otherwise the study abroad department of your university could potentially connect you via their network of universities. With clinical work you'd want to be sure that the assessment and therapy skills you acquire will be accepted by your program toward your degree, otherwise it may not be worthwhile. Depending on the country you want to go to there might be post doc opportunities that will count toward getting a license in North America.
  12. Starting 30s?

    I did exactly this, started my PhD in my mid-30s as a single childless woman in a cohort where most other students are about a decade younger. What helped me the most was going in knowing that my cohort or even my department wouldn't meet all of my social needs. I do sometimes socialize with my cohort because they are nice people and can actually be fun, but after spending so many hours with them each week I really don't desire to hang with them all the time outside of that. I figured being at a large public university I'd be able to connect with grad students in other departments that might be older, so I gave that a whirl. Unfortunately most of the people I came across were still either much younger or just living a completely different life being married with kids. I then chose to take my social life completely off campus and am happy I did. I signed up for every things to do in this city list I could find, picked up all the free local papers, volunteered, and joined meetup groups to force myself to attend a few things each week whether I felt like it or not. I did things I knew I like, tried things I'd never heard of, and gave things I previously felt hohum about another shot. I wouldn't say I have close friends yet and that's ok. But I do have people that when I see them out I can hang with them and it isn't weird or we can and do text each other to exchange invites. The best part is most of the people I've met are not in school so I'm not constantly sucked into school stuff. After having been in the working world I definitely appreciate the variety in my social life and don't want to feel like I can't ever get a break from school. I also head out of town during school breaks to visit family and friends I haven't seen awhile because there is nothing like being surrounded by people who know you well. As for dating, this too I've taken completely off campus because I just don't want that kind of drama in what I consider my workplace. Depending on the type of person (LGBT, other race/ethnicity, specific religion, etc) you wish to date there may be limited choices based on the region of the world your program is in. Also if you wish to date someone your age or older they may have assumptions about grad students that make dating harder such as you must have bad finances, you'll struggle to get a job when you graduate, your degree will take 10 years, you lack direction or something is wrong with you if you're this old and doing this, you don't have time to date, etc. I personally just mention the general industry I'm in until it seems like I may want to get to know a guy better, then he can have more specific details. Otherwise its just like dating when you work full time. Sometimes its fun and other times it really sucks lol.
  13. 2nd thoughts about PhD acceptance

    @anon143 At the start of my first year I didn't register for classes until August and it was perfectly fine lol. Even if a class was technically full my advisor had the ability to make it work because apparently there is a form for everything and first years are usually given some flexibility because they have no idea what they're supposed to be doing. And I do understand your fiance's thoughts on renting vs owning, but he has to be willing to make some compromises if he wants to be with his wife after the wedding. I know there's all kinds of modern twists on marriage, but I don't get the sense that you 2 actually want to live apart. Plus you 2 will have to deal with this issue again when you apply for internships (and maybe post doc and your job after that) because limiting yourself geographically can make it harder to be placed. There are lots of threads on this forum about going through this process with a spouse that might help you begin some discussions with him about what grad school is like. Now this year up until the wedding if living apart makes the most sense then there is nothing wrong with that, however you're saying your only option is to deal with a long commute when it isn't. You can't change what your fiance chooses to do, but you can change your situation anyway you want. You could look into renting a place (solo or shared) closer to campus and reduce your commute, your University might have grad student housing that is nice and affordable, or you might be able to find a commuter room closer where you just rent it during the week and go back to your parents place on weekends. Regardless of what you decide, be certain that it is truly what is best for you and you're not just settling for an awful situation because you feel obligated to.
  14. 2nd thoughts about PhD acceptance

    Wow. Ok so I have a few thoughts here, hopefully I can express them in an organized fashion. First your fiance........ I understand deciding against buying an overpriced house especially when it is unclear how long the market will be stable, but telling you that commuting over an hour to school while living apart is "totally doable" is not a generous offer. You don't need to discuss all the details of your relationship, but if you 2 are open to living together prior to the wedding then it seems odd that he wouldn't be interested in renting a place with you that reduces the commute burden (potentially for both of you). If he's willing to help you with expenses then it seems like living together is an easier way to do that especially if you're getting married next year. Commuting to school........ I commuted over an hour for my unfunded Master's program and it worked out well. I was able to keep my job and health benefits while adjusting my work schedule so that I could time my drive so I didn't sit in traffic. However, all of those hours on the road were still lost and the extra wear on my car lead to increased maintenance costs. Now that I'm in a PhD program I realized immediately that a commute that far would not work with all of the skills and training I wanted to gain. There are students in my program who live 30+ minutes away (by freeway) and the hassle is evident on their faces. Sometimes traffic and/or parking is horrendous so they're late. Sometimes they have to drive to campus for only their lab meeting that ends after 15 minutes or for one client who no shows. Or something gets left at home or on campus and another trip has to be made. Other times they have to be in the lab late or see clients late and if their day has already been 10+ hours long a lengthy drive on top of that sucks and could be dangerous. If their car breaks down and there's no public transit where they live then they're screwed. You don't have to live in walking distance of campus, but it is advantageous to be within 10-15 minutes on city streets or have the option of taking public transit quickly. This is precisely my situation now and its fabulous. I have more time for studying, seeing clients on or offsite, and lab work. I don't have to get up very early if I don't want to and even after long days on campus I don't get home so late that I'm too tired to do anything else. Living at home....... I too am an older student and the best decision I made was spending a little bit more to live all by myself in a bigger place. This way I have a whole room that is an office with plenty of room to brainstorm, cartwheel, or lay on the floor and vent Mindy Lahiri style. If your parents are familiar with the life of a grad student and a dedicated quiet space can be created for you then that might be different. But if that isn't an option and their place is too far then do not do this to yourself. If you and your fiance find a way to live together I highly suggest making sure the place can accommodate your having a dedicated office. Being able to shut the door on all your school stuff will give you a sense of separation when you take breaks and allow you to immerse yourself in a task while he's home doing something else. Sticking with your chosen program....... Ultimately this is going to be your call. I think your current advisors make a good point that it is very difficult to get into any program with some funding, especially a neuropsych program. If the faculty you'll have access to are well known in their field and their former students have gone on to successful careers then that is definitely something to keep in mind. You say the funding package isn't great, but is doable. You don't have to provide details, but really think about what that means. Does doable mean only with your fiance's help? If so that's a big risk if something were to happen with your relationship or his financial situation. Does doable mean with a few student loans? If you're still eligible for the federal ones then this isn't a terrible option in my opinion. If doable means sacrificing your health or safety in some way then its not worth it. Also think about how challenging application cycles are. You got into a program for this season, but if you reapply next year that doesn't mean you will. Programs able to take (and fund) students change, advisors may seek a different fit, other applicants may stand out more than you, and my understanding is professors talk and may find it odd that you rejected a perfectly good offer. Or you might get several offers and still be unhappy with the funding. So maybe a good way to look at it is if you reject your current offer and reapply next year, will you be willing to reapply the following year if for some reason you don't get in or find your funded offers lacking?
  15. Taxes and fellowships

    Only the living stipend portion of my fellowship was taxable as regular income and I received the appropriate tax documents to file from my school. I didn't have any challenges filing and used a free online program which was mostly autopopulated because my information hasn't changed much year to year and the whole process took only a few minutes.