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About MarineBluePsy

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  1. What's your commute time/routine?

    Here are my commutes throughout school: Community College - 10 minute non freeway drive. I would have preferred to take the bus, but I had to be to work across town immediately after class and wouldn't have made it. University - 10 minute non freeway drive + 10 minute walk or 5 minute walk + 15 minute bus ride. On days I had to work I drove, parked far so that was free, and then walked to class. On days I didn't have to work I took the bus (also free) which stopped a couple blocks from my house and went right to campus. Master's - 2 hr freeway drive one way. Commuting was much cheaper than moving so I made the best of it. PhD 1st year - 10 minute walk + 5 minute bus ride or 20 minute walk. If I had to be on campus late I preferred walking the well lit route and catching the bus, but on early days if the weather was nice walking the whole way was fine. The bus is free so that helps. PhD 2nd year - 5 minute walk + 10 minute bus ride. I moved to a nicer place that is farther and am on campus later so taking the bus is easier. If the weather is bad I still take the bus.
  2. How did you find TheGradCafe?

    I googled "grad school advice" and found this forum and a few others. This one was more appealing so I signed up.
  3. Meeting the lab

    Do be friendly, yet professional and polite. Don't do or say anything that you wouldn't want getting back to your POI. Every field, department, and advisor will value lab input differently but expect them to be asked their opinion of applicants. The POI has the final say, but if the lab is in agreement that a particular candidate isn't a good fit I bet that would make a difference in who is made an offer.
  4. Only Woman in my cohort?

    I agree that this is something to consider in your decision making because the happier and more comfortable you are the more energy you will have for your studies and research. I have to wonder if the programs you're considering would like to have more female students, but struggle to attract them because no one wants to be the only one? I've often heard of this situation with minority groups......programs want to diversify but no one wants to be the only *insert whatever racial/ethic group* that is expected to trailblaze, represent, and has to succeed otherwise everyone looks bad. I agree that talking to female faculty at these programs would help, but also women in the field that may have survived this experience. My guess is if this is an issue now it will be an issue when you're seeking employment as well, so the sooner you figure out how you're going to deal with it the better. I also think it would benefit you to be open to seeking out social contacts outside of your department. Stats isn't the only male dominated field, so there might be other women that can relate to that feeling and you can all support each other. Also you'll get tired of your work at times and want to turn your brain off. Being around women (and men too) that want to talk about anything else can do wonders for your wellbeing.
  5. Type of work done at home

    I love working at home and have set up a home office so there's a dedicated work space that I can ignore when I want to relax. I do have a campus office, but its a shared space and just isn't set up in a way that works for me. What do I do best at home? Writing papers/clinical reports Emails Reading articles/textbooks Grading assignments Data entry/analysis Mapping out ideas for research, papers, etc Making presentations Prepping for clients Reviewing/Scoring assessments Working at home also makes my on campus work more productive because I know exactly what materials I need to get from the library or my advisor if any, I know what questions to bring up in supervision, I know what is remaining on group projects, and I'm ready to delegate tasks if needed.
  6. Graduating on time - tips and observations?

    In addition to the great advice above senior students have told me to learn to say no and don't feel bad about saying it as often as you need to. There are always more things you can be doing in grad school, but there aren't enough hours in the day. Once you decide what your priority is then decide if its worth your time to take an extra elective class, be part of an academic committee, add a community service project, or insert whatever other field specific thing comes your way. All of those are great experiences that could look good on your CV and lead to networking opportunities, but if you don't really have the time for those things and whatever your priority is then you have to start saying no. Sometimes this will mean telling your advisor no, but with solid reasoning they should be willing to support you.
  7. Should international students change their names in class?

    I'm in agreement that we should all ask people what they prefer to be called and then honor that request. I am American and have an ethnic name and the quickest way to get on my nerves is to shorten it or create a nickname without asking me. When I was younger teachers forced a nickname that I didn't ask for or like and it stuck clear until high school graduation when I could disappear into college and use any name I wanted. I have no problem correcting people repeatedly when they get my name wrong, especially if I can tell they're trying. But it is so offensive to not even try or ask for help and assume its ok to shorten my name or nickname me.
  8. I can't get along with my peers due to finances.

    OP, in addition to what everyone else has said unless you are the accountants for your classmates you really don't know what their finances are like. They could be running up thousands of dollars in credit card debt or their parents might be on their behalf. I also think its important to point out that you're choosing to live solely on your stipend even though it is extremely difficult. I don't know your financial situation, but student loans could be an option for you and could be worth considering if they would improve your standard of living enough to prevent suffering (which it sounds you are from what you've said). I'm not saying use them irresponsibly by getting a luxury car or vacationing in Europe. However, there is nothing wrong with borrowing enough to make sure you have clothing, food, housing, and transportation. Yes you have to pay them back, we all do, but that is all the more reason to handle them wisely. As far as I know there aren't any awards for lived most frugally in grad school and if there is an option for you to improve your standard of living that you are refusing to consider then it is unfair to blame your classmates for having different circumstances and choosing not to live as frugally.
  9. What's better: living alone or finding a random roommate?

    Roommates only save you money if you find one that values saving the same way you do. If you are the type to turn off lights when not in a room, unplug appliances, close off rooms that don't need to be heated, minimize the ac, etc and your roommate isn't then you won't save money and there will be a lot of tense discussions or passive aggressive behavior. I will pay any price to live alone and not be bothered by anyone else's lifestyle choices. This also means when I'm stressed and overwhelmed my home is always a peaceful oasis, never chaotic. That is truly priceless.
  10. Requiring so many!

    I'd rather see the LOR component eliminated completely. To me its as pointless as references for employers. Of course you're going to pick people who will say good things about you, so really what is the point? I think you learn a lot more about someone during the interview weekend.
  11. Requiring so many!

    Interfolio is a good idea if your programs will accept LORs through that service. None of my programs did and their primary reason was that Interfolio didn't allow them to add their own supplemental form for professors to complete.
  12. Requiring so many!

    Yep the more organized you are the easier it is for them to do. Some professors are fine writing one letter and copy/pasting, others want to write a custom letter for each program. It also helps if you give them plenty of notice so they don't have to work last minute when they have other things to do. When I applied all of my deadlines were late November/early December, so I met with my LOR professors at the beginning of September. I had my list of schools with deadline, what info they wanted, any special forms, my CV, my SOP, and how it needed to be sent. Then I followed up every few weeks to make sure everything was going smoothly and that they didn't need anything else. I still ran into last minute hassles (like having to drive 2 hours away to pick up LORs and then getting to the post office 20 minutes to closing to have them overnighted), but it could have been way worse. Also I thanked them constantly throughout the process and notified them when I got interviews and acceptances.
  13. Abstaining from alcohol on interview weekend?

    I didn't drink alcohol at any of the socials during my application season and no one said anything. If someone had asked I wouldn't have felt the need to explain myself either. I'll drink what I want, end of story.
  14. What to Do: Summer Before Grad School

    I'm all for relaxing, especially in the summer, but I'd suggest paid employment. It doesn't have to be full time, but graduate school is filled with unexpected expenses and it wouldn't hurt to have a little extra money put away. If your summer gig is also something fun then that's a plus. If you have the opportunity to travel (even if just to visit relatives or friends you haven't seen in awhile) that could also be fun.
  15. Long distance moving, and funding it.

    @GreenEyedTrombonist I shipped most of my stuff through Greyhound which was surprisingly affordable and efficient. It took about 10 days, but that was fine. Amtrak also offers shipping, but they don't offer door-to-door service like Greyhound. If you're determined to get a pre-furnished place then I'd suggest springing for the cost of having all of the fabric furniture and carpets steam cleaned. Not all landlords are required to do this or are willing to spend the extra money.