woolfie Posted March 21, 2011 Share Posted March 21, 2011 (edited) A school I was very interested in was very generous with travel funds and very nice about everything, yet I just have a better offer. Some schools have just sent me emails and not really shown as much interest, so I'm just going to turn them down with a kind of generic email. But as far as the two schools that I have met with faculty and visited and which spent money on me, is it a faux pas to tell them why I'm not choosing them? I have an offer I can't refuse and these schools I feel like deserve a better explanation than "it's with regrets that I must withdraw my application." I feel obligated to let them know my better offer. Is that appropriate? EDIT: Oh man, I hate it when I make typos in an English forum. Edited March 21, 2011 by woolfie rainy_day and anonacademic 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhet Man Posted March 21, 2011 Share Posted March 21, 2011 A school I was very interested in was very generous with travel funds and very nice about everything, yet I just have a better offer. Some schools have just sent me emails and not really shown as much interest, so I'm just going to turn them down with a kind of generic email. But as far as the two schools that I have met with faculty and visited and which spent money on me, is it a faux pas to tell them why I'm not choosing them? I have an offer I can't refuse and these schools I feel like deserve a better explanation than "it's with regrets that I must withdraw my application." I feel obligated to let them know my better offer. Is that appropriate? EDIT: Oh man, I hate it when I make typos in an English forum. I think an explanation that focuses on why the best offer can't be refused is not only acceptable, but expected. It's not just about politeness; these programs need as much information as they can get W/R/T student choices. Of course, don't say anything negative about the schools you're turning down (I'm guessing you were on top of that part already). Pamphilia and digitality 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RockDenali Posted March 21, 2011 Share Posted March 21, 2011 Just say, "It's not you, it's me. Really. I don't deserve you." Tabz and LongGone 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DisneyLeith Posted March 21, 2011 Share Posted March 21, 2011 Here's a recent topic that is in a similar vein: DisneyLeith and takethiswaltz 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris83 Posted March 21, 2011 Share Posted March 21, 2011 I honestly think something like this is all you need if you didn't have a lot of contact with the school: Dear so and so, I will be accepting an offer at another school, so I will have to decline your offer. I wanted to let you know as soon as possible so that you can extend my funding to someone else. Thank you for the offer, me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhet Man Posted March 21, 2011 Share Posted March 21, 2011 I honestly think something like this is all you need if you didn't have a lot of contact with the school: Dear so and so, I will be accepting an offer at another school, so I will have to decline your offer. I wanted to let you know as soon as possible so that you can extend my funding to someone else. Thank you for the offer, me You don't think the specifics of the accepted offer are helpful to the declined school? Pamphilia and John_Duble_E 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DisneyLeith Posted March 21, 2011 Share Posted March 21, 2011 They are, and you'll most likely be asked if you'd be willing to provide them. You don't think the specifics of the accepted offer are helpful to the declined school? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris83 Posted March 21, 2011 Share Posted March 21, 2011 I am happy to share the info but only if they ask-- I just don't want to presume that they really want to know or care. I think if I knew where I'd be going I'd say "I have accepted an offer at blank school" . At this point, though, I do know I'm accepting another offer. I haven't decided which offer, though. I just wanted to decline the schools I'd for sure ruled out. They are, and you'll most likely be asked if you'd be willing to provide them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tortola23 Posted March 21, 2011 Share Posted March 21, 2011 The only explanation I'm offering in my turn-down emails and letters is along the lines of "I'm accepting a better-funded offer", since I want the schools to know that 1) paying for a degree isn't in most potential students' game-plans, and 2) I'm not turning them down because of fit, location, any number of other considerations. Starlajane 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhet Man Posted March 21, 2011 Share Posted March 21, 2011 (edited) The only explanation I'm offering in my turn-down emails and letters is along the lines of "I'm accepting a better-funded offer", since I want the schools to know that 1) paying for a degree isn't in most potential students' game-plans, and 2) I'm not turning them down because of fit, location, any number of other considerations. That certainly sounds sufficient to me. I wasn't advocating saying something like "the program director is super-hot." Edited March 21, 2011 by Rhet Man Capo and Pamphilia 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tortola23 Posted March 21, 2011 Share Posted March 21, 2011 That certainly sounds sufficient to me. I wasn't advocating saying something like "the program director is super-hot." Heh that would be awesome. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wild_rose Posted March 21, 2011 Share Posted March 21, 2011 Or, "The university I will be attending is more well-endowed." Sorry, I couldn't resist. That certainly sounds sufficient to me. I wasn't advocating saying something like "the program director is super-hot." DisneyLeith, WendyMoira, Tabz and 1 other 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhet Man Posted March 21, 2011 Share Posted March 21, 2011 Or, "The university I will be attending is more well-endowed." Sorry, I couldn't resist. Oh, yours was better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
takethiswaltz Posted February 28, 2012 Share Posted February 28, 2012 Bump. This thread might come in handy for some of us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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