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I'm a grad student right now, I'm a 29 year old female, and I'm Italian/Portuguese catholic (family wise). Translation; I was supposed to just find a man, pop out some cute babies, run the house, and keep said man happy. They indulged my undergrad (times are changing, good place to meet someone), hesitantly accepted the master's program, and are now passive aggressively dangling heteronormative societal explanations at me like sweetie you don't wanna make more than your husband, you're starting to get too old for kids and who knows how long I'll be alive...,do you really want this? Are you suuuure??? Or this is the best me: hey guess what I was awarded a fellowship and scholarship! Family: how nice! Cousin SO and so is getting married and I think other cousin is having another baby!!!!! ?? This IS my career path and I'm going to kill it, but it will for sure be satisfying to make my family address me as doctor or introduce me as such mwahahahahaha. The 29 yr old abomination wants an education and career and feels "meh" about marriage! It makes family soooo uncomfortable at holiday gatherings and I kinda love it. That's what's motivating me through the anxiety, and knowing NOTHING is going to happen with apps until after the new year.

Dog tired

I'm on winter break soon to start my final semester for my MSW, so I have given myself permission and encouragement to binge watch Netflix, read fiction, and actually may remember to eat

Nooooo that's the WORST. When that happened to me I changed my email notification sound to the most distinctive one I could find

How long?

holy cow!

So I wrote the LOR for my last prof for her edits, let's she if she sends it.... Oh yeah, the whole "don't worry, you'll get in" is really starting to piss me off. Like, some of them are social workers!! They should know that one is the professional on his/her own feelings, and the use of that phrase does nothing to comfort, but serves to invalidate my very valid anxiety!! Just be in the suck with me. Join me in the suck. Thanks for being around guys

fuck this

Same for me with the email on my iphone. It makes a very specific noise for a new email. I can't tell you how many things I've unsubscribed from just so I will stop being disappointed when I check after hearing the french horn sound (email!).

I feel dumb but gotta ask...what is POI ?

mind fuck

open heart

Legit email never closes. Just in case. Besides life's no fun without a little masochism...

Honestly, I hope people (in my discipline at least) only apply to the programs they are sincerely passionate about and where faculty have similar research interests. If you apply to schools you really don't care to attend, you may inadvertently take a spot (or offer of such) away from someone who really wants it. Just something to keep in mind

Sexual violence victimization and perpetration factors specifically pertaining to revictimization; needs assessments of secondary sexual violence victims leading (hopefully) to more efficient/effective resources, shorter recovery for victims, general awareness of sexual violence and macro interventions

Brain fart

IM SO GLAD I DIDNT SEE THIS BEFORE I WROTE THE LOR AND TOOK A NAP lol For real, I wrote what I could, did the best I could do, and it is outta my hands now so I WILL NOT check out that rabbit hole I mean thread on LORs! Ive only had to do this one other time for something like a scholarship application and my prof was really just trying to teach me the lesson that's like you don't see yourself clearly you're not a complete fuckup SO of course I was like great so I suck at writing about myself too LOL no but yeah I had to keep thinking SELL YOURSELF PRETEND YOURE SOMEONE ELSE AND JUST DO IT. neurotic? Me? Psh idk what youre talking about...

I'm so glad this was asked. I have two tats, but they're easily covered. I DO want more though, and I have the same concerns. Going into CJ/Criminology phd (hopefully, fingers crossed) I wonder if there's an issue there, especially as some profs come from law enforcement backgrounds. Wonder if this also varies by state in the US...