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I HAVE FINALLY FOUND MY PEOPLE yay!!! Just got an update from my late LOR writer....she told me to write my LOR, send it to her for edits and then she'll submit it. I don't know if I should take this as a good thing, like she trusts me to write this, or bad as she really cannot care less... Anyone else experience this?

Hmm...okay I'm gonna try that

dead wrong ghost peppers are like, supposed to be the most spicy pepper thing ever. Like looking at it sets your mouth on fire. So I've heard. I'm too chickenshit to try it.

Glad to be of service lol I regularly and inadvertently provide the comic relief for my cohort so yeah. Maybe they should start paying me. Anyway. I started an email to this writer yesterday, wrote like half of the first sentence, stared at it, deleted it, stared at it, wrote it again basically verbatim....Umm I don't want to sound plaintive, accusatory, whiny, ungrateful, selfish, etc etc. but dear LAWD I keep sounding in these emails like a completely different person! "Umm hi yes, would you mind, I mean, you said you would write a LOR, but like, I know you're busy, research and grants and grades and everything, oh happy holidays!, but umm...could you maybe, umm, maybe start the letters cuz like, umm they're kinda due like soonish..." I resent her for turning me into my complete opposite!! GAAAAH!

That is amazingly kind and big-hearted of you. I can't do it or else I start idk making up dark voodoo spells or something.

Omg yes one of my LOR writers still hasn't submitted any of mine and it sucks cuz I had her first semester for sw research, I'm her gra, and she's like who I want to be when I grow up. I asked for her to write an LOR like back in August/September to which she was like of course!! and now everything is submitted except for THAT. She said she'd do it after finals (that was 2 weeks ago) still nothing. I did everything she asked to make it as easy as possible and idk how to politely remind her now while also conveying the urgency. Her LOR is just so important to me I learned a lot about spss from her and helped a bunch with her huge SAMHSA grant....gaaaaah

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My unsolicited advice? Do NOT waste any more time or money on this if it is not what you want to do. I know it can be daunting and difficult, and hard to explain to loved ones, but if you KNOW that you want to do something else...go DO IT. Seriously. Sorry. I met a 25 year old woman diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer recently and now I pretty much walk around screaming CARPE DIEM MOTHERFUCKERS Cheers!

Oh WOW lol okay well first, hi! (I say wow because this has never happened to me so here goes...) Second, I hope you like orange. Third, a LOT of things were in flux when I was graduating (like onestop, the thing the registrar has now, that used to not be a thing and I was so confused when I had to order transcripts 2.5 years ago) so I will do my best here. Idk what CSDCAS is and it is 2am so I'm not googling that lol, but I would actually contact the admissions person for your program to ask them directly. Get used to the website not being clear. It's part of the Big Orange Screw. If you have other questions, please feel free to ask. I lived there for about 6 years as I went part-time for a while, and even though it took me a while to adjust to the culture (I'm from PA), it can be a pretty cool place. The professors are great, administration.....not so much. I hope this helps!

Truer words have never been said girl

I've been checking the application status portals like 5 times a day. I've thought about getting a job....meh. I've got my whole life to start working again lololol What will you be doing?

I hear you on that. Waiting to hear back about my masters program was hell...waiting to find out about phd program acceptance is just more of an inner circle of hell. To deal, try to find what works for you. Some people like adult coloring books (not like coloring in porn LOL but coloring mandalas and stuff), cleaning, organizing something, etc. I'm trying to teach myself how to crochet. Whenever I feel a panic attack coming I get down on the floor and let my dogs lick my face and make me feel like no matter what I still have them so its fine I never thought interviews were such a huge component for the decision, but after being on this site it seems like interviews and even whole weekend interview excursions are a thing. After spending so much money, is anyone else NOT looking forward to the cost of a campus visit? From Florida to Ohio, Chicago, North Carolina, Texas...shit. I can't afford that. Here's to hoping they think I'm so awesome they just let me in...

ghost busters! legit?

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Exactly. I applied to Sam Houston and I'm from PA...the prospect of living in Texas is a bit scary to me...I survived Tennessee, but BARELY. My clinical internship supervisor is from Texas and she's like, if you go to Texas we need to have a chat because sarcasm will very likely get you killed. I live on sarcasm.

Yeah but when you do it's worth so many more points!

This made me LOL big time. In social work, self-care is a HUGE thing, I mean there are chapters in books, and lectures on self-care because if we don't take care of ourselves we fail to baker act that paranoid delusional psychotic with active hallucinations and then :sings: lawsuiiit That being said, the same profs that preach the importance of self-care can't be bothered to give two shits when something really horrible happens, like idk, one friend in my cohort her freaking cousin was shot in their grandmother's backyard so she missed ONE CLASS and this prof gave her shit and wanted documentation. ARE YOU KIDDING ME? What do you want, the fucking police report??? Welcome to social work where we are bombarded with shitstorm after shitstorm to the point where nothing phases us anymore and we all just talk out our ASS. Whew. That's been bothering me for a while.

Are you the oldest? I'm 29, my oldest sibling is 21 and every time I go to family functions I can see their literal fear for my life in their eyes like OMG she's still single and all her younger cousins are all married off... Meanwhile, I'M SO HAPPY I'M NOT MARRIED. I feel like I'm gonna be that person who doesn't hear anything from programs until like, May. If at all. I'll call, and they'll be like, omg you didn't get your rejection letter?? SO SORRY

This just made my fucking day OMG I laughed and then almost coughed up a lung (thank you bronchitis!) and then laughed my ass off again. My dogs are currently looking at me like, Fuck should we do something?? I'm currently in a social work program, so I'm either going to have ALL the work, or literally live in my car for the next four years so I feel you

Right??? I fought to convince them of the MSW program and they're like why don't you just get licensed? Umm...because I don't want to do clinical work right now.... I guess that's what happens when your parents are in sales... Hey what part of Texas are you in stereopticons?

How's everyone holding up? I'm freaking out

Anyone here waiting to hear back from CJ/Criminology programs? I see all these people getting invites to interviews (interview weekends?? They need a whole freaking weekend???!!) but in different disciplines. Anyone else here basically completely alone in this process??? I have no idea what to expect and neither does anyone I know. All help, even to just calm the nerves, would be much appreciated!