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It,s not reciprocal. Just like I had assumed. I hate this. I hate being in love, everytime it just destroys my whole spirit

I just told a man with whom I've been friends for the last four years that I have feelings for him. I haven't gotten his answer back, but I'm sure it won't be the one I am hoping for. I'm so ridiculous, I don't even know why I put myself through this, everytime it's the same negative result no matter who I declare myself to. I'm sure this is going to ruin our friendship, on top of it. I'm an idiot. I hate this

I am on Facebook. I have a love-hate relationship with it. But I get somewhat anxious every time I post a more political or personal post. I have more than a 1000 friends on FB and I always feel stupid almost when I post something and only a small number of people likes it or shares it. How silly is that?

Thanks!

Yes, I do have Endnote, I was more asking in terms of the actual content of an annotated bibliography. What are the specifics of it? Thanks

Hello, what are some of your best tools and guides to produce an annotated bibliography? I looked a little bit online, I've never done one before. Just wanted to know if you guys had specific tools or guides or books that you use to do this. Thanks,

Thank you all. Once, someone asked me if I am a lesbian because they never heard about me having a boyfriend in years. (stupid question, yeah I know). Another time, someone asked me "Well, it seems like you don't want a boyfriend". Which is entirely false. I want to be with someone, but with someone with whom I'll be happy and have interesting conversations with, not just the first one that will come my way. I'm lucky to be really passionate about school and my work otherwise I'd just be depressed. I just find it so hard to find someone interesting. Every time I do, they're already involved in a relationship with someone else. And every time, they tell me "I would be interested in you if I was single." I'm just not lucky with these things. Makes me so sad sometimes.

Thank you all for your replies. It means a lot to me. I just wish I knew what it feels like to be in love with someone that genuinely loves me back. I feel like I have a lot to give, and I do believe that I am worthy of love, but it seems like nobody is seeing my potential as a partner.

Hello, This is a bit of a personal/off-topic thread. I've often been told that as a woman of color in graduate school, it will be harder for me to find a partner. Because the things that I represent don't fit the image that most people have of black women. And yes, I have to admit that I have been single my entire life. I am about to turn 25 in a month and I haven't been successful in my romantic life in the same way that I am perceived to be in my professional/academic life. I have never been in a committed relationship with anyone. But I am still young, so I try to remain hopeful but as I see all of my friends getting married, engaged or having children, I would be lying if I said that I am starting to lose hope. Even if I am truly passionate about my career and the projects I am involved in, I don't want my life to be only that. A friend of mine was telling me the other day that all the work that I do, the activism that I am involved in outside of the classroom and the media attention that I get might make it difficult for a man to approach me because I don't "fit" in. The thing is that I don't want to change the things that I am involved in because they make me happy and keep me grounded and sane. But I get these kinds of reflections from friends and adults since my teenage years. It's starting to hurt to get this feeling that I have to choose between being myself and finding a partner. I just want someone who accepts me as I am and with whom I can have interesting conversations with but it seems to be too much to ask. Do you think that finding love is harder for people pursuing graduate studies or with graduate diplomas, especially if they are part of a minority group? Do you think the whole idea of a woman being successful makes it harder to her to find a partner? I am happy in my life and I have never been happier but yes, sometimes, I do feel some kind of void in the sense that I fear to fail my personal life. I am able to manage that fear by trying to focus on the things that I already have in my life, and yes, I do have a lot already and I recognize that with great humility. And I try to cherish that because nothing can be taken for granted. I'm in a good place in my life and it has not always been the case. However, I'm afraid of turning into the kind of unattached woman who just works and has her career for sole purpose in her life.

I enjoy my classes as well. I only got As so far so it reassures me that I am doing fine even if it's a lot of work.

How does it work it work in a research team where everyone has to do a lit review but not everyone is bilingual (EN and FR)? I might be in that situation, working with a faculty who is unilingual anglophone. I speak and understand English, but I am a francophone and do not feel comfortable doing an entire lit review in English due to my grammar. I don't want the prof to be spending time correcting my grammar throughout the process... any thoughts?

Hello, thank you for your reply. In terms of speeches/interviews and conferences, I already turn down a lot of the requests I get so that's fine. I always do a couple of those however because I am starting to get paid for it and that's helpful for a uni student. For the project I am co-coordinator, I cannot give up at this point, the project is ending at the end of this month and two other coordinators are relying on me for this. I have a lot of my plate, but the fact that I am able to say "no" to a lot of the requests I get helps me to manage most of it.

Thank you everyone for your insight and perspectives!

I met with her. She was nice and helpful but I felt embarrassed when she realized that I am a first-year master's student, I could see the shock in her eyes. I think I was too early in my path to be asking her questions about a potential Ph.D.

Master's or doctoral level? I got SSHRC at the master's level, currently a scholar.

The worst part is that I am doing this research assistantship that I have little time to devote to in reality. But I am still doing it because it's a great experience, especially if I am thinking of doing a Ph.D. afterward. It's an amazing opportunity that my supervisor has provided to me. The thing is that the literature review that we were supposed to complete in four months has now turned into an 8-month thing and we're going to produce this article for Christmas. It took longer because my supervisor and the research coordinator were very ambitious and when they both realized that I struggled with the whole process because it was entirely new to me, they decided to expand it so I could just go through this "learning curve" you know. At first, I was even asking myself "Why did she give me something to do that is so challenging intellectually speaking?" I could tell that she has a LOT of faith in me, and I feel afraid to dissapoint her. Now we're analyzing some articles, doing some triangulation (two people looking at the same articles and then comparing what we understood/got out of it critically speaking) and I don't know if I am doing this right. I'm the type of person who needs a clear A to Z guidelines whenever I do something, otherwise, I feel like I am not in control and start to get anxious. I'm realizing that research is always like that and I have to get used to it if I want to apply to a Ph.D. On top of that, I am the co-coordinator of a program at my uni and we are struggling with the funding of it because the past coordinators have literally left zero info for us on how to carry the program along in terms of funding. I'm trying to remain calm, and my colleagues are remaining calm (which is extremely helpful for me) but I am starting to get worried about it. And I am doing a lot of talks, speeches and media interviews while being in school. I get more and more public exposure for the activism and the volunteer work I do and I expect that someday, I will receive some hate (which I haven't so far, very surprisingly). But I need to get prepared for that, people are going to get tired of seeing my face on TV and in media. So far, I manage all of this pretty well, but I feel a little bit of pressure, even though it's tolerable.

I see that I am not the only one who feels overwhelmed. This forum is like self-care to me at the same time. I'm one of the two students in my master's program to be doing a thesis option, so I barely see any of my class colleagues. We're definitely going to debrief at the end of the month. I feel kinda bad because I had a meeting with a professor this morning to discuss a potential Ph.D. partnership, and when she realized that I am a first-year master student, I could sense some surprise coming from her. The meeting was still helpful and she was very kind to answer my questions and talk about her discipline (which differs from social work) but I feel embarrassed to be thinking about a Ph.D. so early. When I contacted their department, I was told to contact professors to discuss my ideas of topics for a Ph.D. but I feel like I should have waited a couple more months.

I think your application is already pretty strong!

I got an A on that paper. Phew. One month left to this semester. Anyone wanting to chat about their experience as a first-year graduate student?

Hello, I've heard horrible stories re: street harassment in France (I will present to a conference there at the end of August). The stories I have heard won't hinder me from presenting, but I was wondering what have your experiences been in regards to traveling in other parts of the world as a woman or as a woman of color. TY

Hello everyone, I've been hearing a lot of people saying that doing a PhD is hard because there is no guarantee that you will become a professor one day after graduating, to what extent is this true in social work in Canada? Any thoughts?

Is it normal that they haven't released the names of the funded projects on their website ?

She did send her LOR the day before the deadline. I was able to send my application. Phew!

Hello, I am meeting next week with a Prof to discuss a potential PhD collaboration for me. Any advice? I know I should maybe bring my CV but what else? What should I ask?

I think there will be those kinds of politics no matter the work setting in all honesty...no?