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I turned in 2 sort of crappy papers - uhm - imposter syndrome? Not really, its just that the time really snuck up on me juggling, housing, fellowship applications, job hunting, professional conference presentations...yeah and that's what happened in my first semester. Well, at least I'm done for the semester. I have only started to like the people and place in my program in the 15th week of school lol Is anyone else feeling the same as me? Like, it is what it is. I will try my best, but whatever, in regard to coursework? I will be spending my holiday break reading all the stuff I shoulda been reading ( but I spent that time hustlin' and complaining).

Oh, I'm in Edu. and feel pleased to be given assignments that are 15-20 considering I normally get 20-25. As long as you've made your point, it is not really page count that matters. I submitted a 18 page paper that listed I needed 20-25 pages and got an A-...but individual grading schools should be kept in mind.

My advisor just wrote up in my paper - did you read this book? did you read that book? That person has a book too... So, reading is what I will be doing for the next couple of holiday breaks.

yeah we do - its the course work verification form or something where we tell them what classes we might take and projects we might plan...then somebody has to sign off on it

One of my older professor's has displayed an investment in the success of my academic career - this shows how he interacts with all his students - personal emails, phone calls, winks, fist bumps, and smiley in-jokes in class - including me. Really consider that perhaps he is really trying to support you because you are a qualified candidate. - Also, you can TA in his class because you have taken 2 courses with him - I've been offered a position where I'd never taken any coursework.

I applied for the pre-doctoral portion - they just wanna know bout coursework. Which one did you apply to? Edit - I went back and read the sheet, sorry bout that. I was just going to fill out the coursework I planned to undertake and considered doing some literature reviews but...as for research plan, my advisor is supposed to help me out on this sheet. I think its different if you plan to undertake research that is not part of your dissertation.

Well, now some of the single guys at gradcafe know Pinkster12 is single and looking...like really seriously interested - maybe one of them will hit you up and it could be a gradcafe love connection Perhaps, I need a better profile picture lol

I feel like I should be worried because I'm closer to 30 than 29 - and single - my friends who are attached don't want to hear me talk about single guys and my friends who are single - well there are not a lot of them and I actually only like talking ABOUT guys and I don't actually like talking TO them lol I am getting heckled a little but by members of my ethnic community and...well by single friends who are actively dating (because I'm not - I don't think they are getting it that I'm immersed in my research...it took me a long time to get here). I'm kinda...really happy with my current single status, but I miss relationships too when my schedule is free hahaha I don't think it's embarrassing to be single if you are pursuing other things in your life that are currently more important. I should point out that I believe relationships are extremely important in the long run AND my eventual life will not be determined by my PhD lol but that is what I am working on to ensure that I might have other resources and opportunities for any children I have. Yeah, with that said - I go to mixers and have agreed to speed date for a cause LOL but I'm not gonna fake - I'm currently chatting up a guy from back home to see if we like each other enough to move on further - of course this means that we must be willing to date long distance. Options, gotta have them.

I think people are always simplifying others because it's easy. I find myself doing this because I believe others are doing it to me. lol It's because I keep forgetting that I'm not nearly so important in the opinion of others as I am in my own ~ also, it's not like I'm a great judge of character or anything. I get some accurate hunches that I let biases cloud and I need to remind myself that this type of mindset didn't help me in the past. So I'm with you, OP.

I'm not sure about beliefs on willpower, but I can tell you that I am generally a "low energy" type person and my brain starts to blur...at about 6 pm lol and that is with 7 hours of sleep. This has always been the general pattern for me. I am easily mentally exhausted with classes and schoolwork...and people while trying to sound and appear smart. I don't have a sweet tooth either, and rarely add sugar to my cooking...so I try to get in other ways. Since I know myself, I always pack a snack - but not cake - some cranberry juice, green grapes, steamed edamame, or maybe even a PB&J sandwich and this allows me to function until...7 p.m.? How is your energy level in the afternoon? I find that taking a micro-nap, like for 15-20 minutes also allows me to regain alertness---if I am tired enough to nod off in the middle of the day, I know I really needed that nap. Also, I try to do schoolwork earlier in the day although I tend to be a night owl (my brain blurs but not to the point of sleepiness,just non-functioning) It's been almost 1.5 months into my program and I have lost about 5 or 6 pounds. I wasn't dieting but I normally watch what I eat (like you, low carb) and try to exercise 3-4 times a week (just cardio, it makes me feel better). But I lost weight ::shrugs:: (if you want my stats I can post that too LOL). To be sure, I eat 3 times a day and also snack, but I don't count calories because I am lazy.

I don't think I am being coherent at all in my class with my advisor....DARN IT!! I hope I don't sound too...dumb. On the bright side, I've emerged to be quite a decent cook. Oh yeah...my study group was a flop. It seems as though the other girls weren't as in to studying in groups (or studying at all)

Hello friends, Not sure if this is the appropriate section to ask, but I am trusting that the moderators will redirect me. Would anyone be able to recommend a textbook or guide book on quantitative methods for social science research? A book that they found helpful and straight forward in guiding a grad student towards being literate and maybe even pretty good at completing their own work in quantitative methodology? I'm curious if there are online resources to understanding and conducting quantitative research in the social sciences also. -- Oh, I am in Education, specifically being trained under an ethnographer....if that matters.

I just started a study group for a difficult class. In general, I'm having a hard time balancing my finances lol The classes are pretty difficult...and I'm having a little bit of trouble relating to others. :shrugs:

Woot woot! I can't wait to hear about a 3rd guy lol

That's also my *dream guy* I think that it is normal that you have some insecurities about your ability to support the both of you on one salary. But it won't be impossible (just hard...), especially if he's the one that you want and you are BOTH willing to make some sacrifices together. You will both need to play active roles in planning your future together though (as a woman, I understand *overthinking*).

Thread is getting hilarious! Just pick one, it's a casual outing, not getting married.

I rarely feel like crap taking money from my parents. This might be cultural though. Also, I try to make sure to pay them back in a timely manner. If you can't afford to live by yourself, you just can't live by yourself. For myself (as a person who likes comfort and privacy), I'd probably take the roommates, try to never be home, look for sources of extra income, and keep my eye out for other living opportunities.

Maybe he's lonely? I am wondering if his interest is really quite benign--but still self-serving since he doesn't address anything you want to talk about. Well, only you would know if he's interested in you in a romantic way---women can sniff this. If that is, then I'd disappear by being reallllllyyyyyy busy. That sounds like a passive way to address this situation, but I am not sure if its worth it to be more direct.

Sorry, I am not good with this vocabulary. I meant that as a person you are probably pretty interesting to begin with and already able to catch the attention of others just by minding your own business. Hence, the "non-active" aspect. So you don't have to worry about actually having to put yourself out there and people will find you anyway. But if you are interested in someone, but don't want to be the aggressor, then you just sit yourself in their field of vision and "attract" (passive in the most literal sense) instead of "chase" (active in the most literal sense). I think its more true for girls....and perhaps funny (or hot) guys. Or charismatic weirdos. Now that I think about it, I wonder if WV's boy-crush is one of these types.

Thrift store donation?

Now what I'm curious about is your rationale behind acquiring a girlfriend in a "passive fashion"... In my experience, it's quite easy---I just had to be available and inquisitive enough to convey romantic interest but not initiate any activities. Some just prefer to lure and bait as opposed to participating in a chase--but the catch is that you have to be confident enough in your attractiveness and ability to be interesting to the other person.

i am excited to start this new chapter too...and I am so antsy that my work performance at my current job is suffering...which is bad. In regard to new classmates, i need to remind myself to tone it down---not everyone can handle me.

Sometimes, it is also just nice to have a crush on someone because it creates warm positive feelings. I am totally just basking in the warmth of this thread ---not even my crush in a currently non-existing relationship HAHAHA. There are one or two young men that I like "more than just a friend" but I'd rather not pursue becaue of commitment (lack of desire to do so). I am happy to see them happy. Don't get me wrong though, if they asked me out, I'd jump on that opportunity. LOL No pressure, violet.

I am single with no pets or family that live in the area and plan on living alone. I just needs lots of space and alone time also.

Yes, please keep us updated Please forgive him if he puts his foot (or both feet) in his mouth because introverts are known to do that lol