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that's not what I meant. I'm just saying that the fact it wasn't a rejection still means that I am still in the running, so I am keeping my hopes and positivity up! I am not fixated on trying to find out today.

I just heard back from the last of my schools! It was a rejection, but I don't care at all because (to put it tactfully) the program came across as very lackluster during the interview (students came across as apathetic/arrogant, faculty argued vehemently in front of us -- it was weird). Also, my parents really wanted me to go there (to be closer to home) so I'm thrilled that this school isn't an option!
Anyways. I am so so glad that the waiting is over. I feel free. 

I really appreciate this post so much.
I myself am a person of color, and ethnic/racial diversity will be a factor as I weigh in my options. I will be taking note how diverse the graduate students, prospective students, and faculty/administrators are in the institution/program when I interview/visit. I even communicated this to one of the potential advisor that I would be working with. It's tricky because my whole career/academic trajectory thus far, I have been usually the only male person of color in my developmental psych courses both on the undergrad and master's level, which made me start to accept that this is just the norm... but it's really encouraging and affirming to hear another prospective graduate student acknowledge this.
I'm curious to see how this pans out when I actually get to visit!

I need a little vent session because I feel like I am going a little coocoo.
I am extremely grateful to have multiple interview invites, but the excitement tends to quickly dissipate the moment I book my travel arrangements. I am not a big traveler, and I get super depleted dealing with the airport and flights. And now..... I basically have every weekend booked for an interview for the whole month of February and the first weekend in March.... x_x
To make matters worse, even though I am pretty easy going and sociable, I am introverted by nature,  so I do need my solo time to just collect myself and recharge my social batteries. I am concerned at the fact that I will be lodging with current grad students, and having the pressure to always be on my best behavior.
All these factors compounded with the main stressor of interviewing for doctoral programs is making my head spin to be quite honest. I am trying to take one step at a time, but it's so difficult when it's only two weeks till my first interview weekend (aka when the chaos begins).
Any advice for how to cope or techniques that helped you keep sane during the interview mayhem will be greatly appreciated!
 
P.S. I hope everyone is taking care of themselves during this crazy time! (I had to up the amount of times I meditate throughout the day lol.)

I really appreciate this post so much.
I myself am a person of color, and ethnic/racial diversity will be a factor as I weigh in my options. I will be taking note how diverse the graduate students, prospective students, and faculty/administrators are in the institution/program when I interview/visit. I even communicated this to one of the potential advisor that I would be working with. It's tricky because my whole career/academic trajectory thus far, I have been usually the only male person of color in my developmental psych courses both on the undergrad and master's level, which made me start to accept that this is just the norm... but it's really encouraging and affirming to hear another prospective graduate student acknowledge this.
I'm curious to see how this pans out when I actually get to visit!

My official rejection came later haha, I was also anticipating this rejection since I didn't get an invite. No hard feelings at all because this was actually last on my list since it wasn't that great of a research fit. Onto the next one!

I really appreciate this post so much.
I myself am a person of color, and ethnic/racial diversity will be a factor as I weigh in my options. I will be taking note how diverse the graduate students, prospective students, and faculty/administrators are in the institution/program when I interview/visit. I even communicated this to one of the potential advisor that I would be working with. It's tricky because my whole career/academic trajectory thus far, I have been usually the only male person of color in my developmental psych courses both on the undergrad and master's level, which made me start to accept that this is just the norm... but it's really encouraging and affirming to hear another prospective graduate student acknowledge this.
I'm curious to see how this pans out when I actually get to visit!

I really appreciate this post so much.
I myself am a person of color, and ethnic/racial diversity will be a factor as I weigh in my options. I will be taking note how diverse the graduate students, prospective students, and faculty/administrators are in the institution/program when I interview/visit. I even communicated this to one of the potential advisor that I would be working with. It's tricky because my whole career/academic trajectory thus far, I have been usually the only male person of color in my developmental psych courses both on the undergrad and master's level, which made me start to accept that this is just the norm... but it's really encouraging and affirming to hear another prospective graduate student acknowledge this.
I'm curious to see how this pans out when I actually get to visit!

I need a little vent session because I feel like I am going a little coocoo.
I am extremely grateful to have multiple interview invites, but the excitement tends to quickly dissipate the moment I book my travel arrangements. I am not a big traveler, and I get super depleted dealing with the airport and flights. And now..... I basically have every weekend booked for an interview for the whole month of February and the first weekend in March.... x_x
To make matters worse, even though I am pretty easy going and sociable, I am introverted by nature,  so I do need my solo time to just collect myself and recharge my social batteries. I am concerned at the fact that I will be lodging with current grad students, and having the pressure to always be on my best behavior.
All these factors compounded with the main stressor of interviewing for doctoral programs is making my head spin to be quite honest. I am trying to take one step at a time, but it's so difficult when it's only two weeks till my first interview weekend (aka when the chaos begins).
Any advice for how to cope or techniques that helped you keep sane during the interview mayhem will be greatly appreciated!
 
P.S. I hope everyone is taking care of themselves during this crazy time! (I had to up the amount of times I meditate throughout the day lol.)

I need a little vent session because I feel like I am going a little coocoo.
I am extremely grateful to have multiple interview invites, but the excitement tends to quickly dissipate the moment I book my travel arrangements. I am not a big traveler, and I get super depleted dealing with the airport and flights. And now..... I basically have every weekend booked for an interview for the whole month of February and the first weekend in March.... x_x
To make matters worse, even though I am pretty easy going and sociable, I am introverted by nature,  so I do need my solo time to just collect myself and recharge my social batteries. I am concerned at the fact that I will be lodging with current grad students, and having the pressure to always be on my best behavior.
All these factors compounded with the main stressor of interviewing for doctoral programs is making my head spin to be quite honest. I am trying to take one step at a time, but it's so difficult when it's only two weeks till my first interview weekend (aka when the chaos begins).
Any advice for how to cope or techniques that helped you keep sane during the interview mayhem will be greatly appreciated!
 
P.S. I hope everyone is taking care of themselves during this crazy time! (I had to up the amount of times I meditate throughout the day lol.)

I need a little vent session because I feel like I am going a little coocoo.
I am extremely grateful to have multiple interview invites, but the excitement tends to quickly dissipate the moment I book my travel arrangements. I am not a big traveler, and I get super depleted dealing with the airport and flights. And now..... I basically have every weekend booked for an interview for the whole month of February and the first weekend in March.... x_x
To make matters worse, even though I am pretty easy going and sociable, I am introverted by nature,  so I do need my solo time to just collect myself and recharge my social batteries. I am concerned at the fact that I will be lodging with current grad students, and having the pressure to always be on my best behavior.
All these factors compounded with the main stressor of interviewing for doctoral programs is making my head spin to be quite honest. I am trying to take one step at a time, but it's so difficult when it's only two weeks till my first interview weekend (aka when the chaos begins).
Any advice for how to cope or techniques that helped you keep sane during the interview mayhem will be greatly appreciated!
 
P.S. I hope everyone is taking care of themselves during this crazy time! (I had to up the amount of times I meditate throughout the day lol.)

I need a little vent session because I feel like I am going a little coocoo.
I am extremely grateful to have multiple interview invites, but the excitement tends to quickly dissipate the moment I book my travel arrangements. I am not a big traveler, and I get super depleted dealing with the airport and flights. And now..... I basically have every weekend booked for an interview for the whole month of February and the first weekend in March.... x_x
To make matters worse, even though I am pretty easy going and sociable, I am introverted by nature,  so I do need my solo time to just collect myself and recharge my social batteries. I am concerned at the fact that I will be lodging with current grad students, and having the pressure to always be on my best behavior.
All these factors compounded with the main stressor of interviewing for doctoral programs is making my head spin to be quite honest. I am trying to take one step at a time, but it's so difficult when it's only two weeks till my first interview weekend (aka when the chaos begins).
Any advice for how to cope or techniques that helped you keep sane during the interview mayhem will be greatly appreciated!
 
P.S. I hope everyone is taking care of themselves during this crazy time! (I had to up the amount of times I meditate throughout the day lol.)

I need a little vent session because I feel like I am going a little coocoo.
I am extremely grateful to have multiple interview invites, but the excitement tends to quickly dissipate the moment I book my travel arrangements. I am not a big traveler, and I get super depleted dealing with the airport and flights. And now..... I basically have every weekend booked for an interview for the whole month of February and the first weekend in March.... x_x
To make matters worse, even though I am pretty easy going and sociable, I am introverted by nature,  so I do need my solo time to just collect myself and recharge my social batteries. I am concerned at the fact that I will be lodging with current grad students, and having the pressure to always be on my best behavior.
All these factors compounded with the main stressor of interviewing for doctoral programs is making my head spin to be quite honest. I am trying to take one step at a time, but it's so difficult when it's only two weeks till my first interview weekend (aka when the chaos begins).
Any advice for how to cope or techniques that helped you keep sane during the interview mayhem will be greatly appreciated!
 
P.S. I hope everyone is taking care of themselves during this crazy time! (I had to up the amount of times I meditate throughout the day lol.)

I got accepted into UMN's ICD Dev Psych program!!! I AM COMPLETELY ELATED!! I am so happy that I now know that I will be going to grad school, it became that much more real T_T

I got accepted into UMN's ICD Dev Psych program!!! I AM COMPLETELY ELATED!! I am so happy that I now know that I will be going to grad school, it became that much more real T_T

My application portal was updated, and I was accepted!!!! I really thought it would be a rejection since everyone was posting about getting calls. 
 
Congrats to everyone who got it!

I got accepted into UMN's ICD Dev Psych program!!! I AM COMPLETELY ELATED!! I am so happy that I now know that I will be going to grad school, it became that much more real T_T

I got accepted into UMN's ICD Dev Psych program!!! I AM COMPLETELY ELATED!! I am so happy that I now know that I will be going to grad school, it became that much more real T_T

I got accepted into UMN's ICD Dev Psych program!!! I AM COMPLETELY ELATED!! I am so happy that I now know that I will be going to grad school, it became that much more real T_T

I got accepted into UMN's ICD Dev Psych program!!! I AM COMPLETELY ELATED!! I am so happy that I now know that I will be going to grad school, it became that much more real T_T

omg! that would completely throw me off balance lol. I've been so on edge since January and 2020 began... trying to grapple with the unknown is far harder than i imagined with this whole grad application process x_x

I'm ducking in to wish all applicants good luck during this interview season! I’m a faculty member, and I have now observed a number of application cycles at multiple institutions, including my own graduate program. I haven’t yet cracked the code to reducing the stress for my own trainees as they apply to doctoral programs, but because the ambiguity of the process can be the most stress-inducing, I thought I’d share some information that my trainees often find helpful. Long post ahead, and, disclaimer, the below is my opinion based on my experience and observation over the years and should not be used as the last word on the interview process.
Things that befuddle, annoy, and/or freak out applicants during the interview season:
Thing 1: I was not invited to interview at programs that are low on my list - now I’m really worried that I’m not competitive. (Sometimes followed by: but I got an interview at my top choice, so clearly lower list program should have interviewed me).
Sanity check: One of the main reasons those programs were lower on your own list is because you perceived a lesser fit with them. The faculty reviewing applications also see that lesser fit compared with other applicants, and we know that a weak fit is a recipe for unhappiness for everyone! It’s not that you aren’t qualified, it’s just a fit thing combined with the number of other applicants to that program/person that year.
Thing 2: I had stratospheric GRE scores and GPA, 28 years of RA experience, and 337 publications/presentations, but I didn’t get an interview to Program X (or any interviews).
Sanity check: You all are a talented and successful lot with outstanding experience and evidence of productivity. Every year I am amazed by the quality of our applicant pool. There are four main possibilities here, none of which are particularly reassuring, but hopefully all of which help you think about this logically.
First, the number one error I hear from applicants is that they assume that their stellar records will automatically assure them an interview, which is just not consistent with the numbers. Yes, you have an amazing record and application, but so do the other 300 people applying for 18 interview slots (and 5 offers) in that program this year.
Second, applicants often apply to the “name brand” programs, seduced by perceived prestige and figuring that the strength of their scores/CVs will overcome a lack of fit. It won’t, and it shouldn’t (see comment above about unhappiness).
Third, applicants often mistake “more” for “better”, without regard for the actual skills and knowledge. Most of us definitely are looking for quality over quantity in your CV. Middle author of 6 authors on 9 publications/presentations is good, and we like to see that level of involvement, but one 1st author paper/presentation at professional conference is more meaningful. More labs is not necessarily better than one lab with really solid breadth and depth of skills learned. In your CV and statement I’m especially looking for evidence of advanced understanding (appropriate to the level of training) of the research process and the research questions conceptually, not just a laundry list of every task you ever did as an RA.
Fourth, and this is a tricky one - if there is something about you or your performance (e.g., in your lab) that might lead your letter writers to hedge a bit in their letters, we can read that as a red flag and, given we have the luxury of a large number of applicants, put that application off to the side. You already should be asking writers if they are willing to write “a strong letter”, rather than just a letter, and making sure to ask your mentors for feedback on where you stand with regard to the qualities of a strong applicant.
Thing 3: Why are all of the applications due on Dec 1??
Sanity check: This is usually a Graduate School deadline, because the relevant staff need to process the applications for all departments in the Graduate School before sending the applications to the relevant departments. Early December is a sweet spot that gives the staff time to process literally thousands of applications before the chaos of end of semester + holidays.
Thing 4: If the applications are due Dec 1, why does it take so long to hear about interviews?? Similarly, why do some programs make interview offers early, but I don’t hear from others until much later?
Sanity check: It is surprisingly difficult to find time for a committee to meet, so some programs find the time earlier and others later. It also takes varying amounts of time for the Graduate Schools to send applications to departments/programs. At my current institution we basically have most of them within a few days of the deadline, whereas at my last institution it usually took about 10 days to 2 weeks, which then lands faculty in the end of semester/finals, followed by the holidays. Then once we have the applications we need time to review them, which usually involves multiple faculty reviewing each of a very large number of applications. Note also that you WANT the faculty not to rush that review process.
Thing 5: Why do these programs seem to schedule interviews on the same days??
Sanity check: There are only so many days available for interviewing. Most programs understandably choose Mondays or Fridays, and there are far more programs than Mondays and Fridays between the end of January and the end of most (not all) interviews toward the end of February. Google CUDCP application tools (freely available calendar maintained by the Council of University Directors of Clinical Psychology, which is not connected to me in any way and is not commercial) to see the schedule of most clinical program interviews.
Thing 6: I have an interview scheduling conflict, and I’m really worried that Program B will think I’m not interested because I can’t attend their interview.
Sanity check: We completely understand that strong applicants will have multiple interviews (one year I had a trainee who had 13 interviews), and that there will be overlap in dates. We also understand that accepting an interview prior to our invitation isn’t a reflection of your interest in the program. We’ll do what we can to schedule an alternative informal interview in person, or via video or phone call.
Thing 7: I wasn’t invited to interview/wasn’t given an offer, but it took a long time to get an official rejection??
Sanity check: Mostly this is a program-level or Grad School level thing. Sending an official rejection generally is an administrative process that might be automated through the Grad School or the program, and many programs will wait until they have their list of applicants who have accepted before officially closing the applicant pool and generating rejection emails/letters. Sometimes it’s just not prioritizing the applicants, but I think that’s the minority.
Thing 8: I wasn’t interviewed/didn’t get an offer. Can I contact the program/POI to ask for feedback on my application?
Sanity check: This is just my opinion, but I wouldn’t. Your current mentor/PI should be able to tell you where any weaknesses are in your application, thus the only thing the applied-to program/POI could tell you was that the other applicants were a better fit, which doesn’t really help you at all. Also, and very importantly, note that faculty at some institutions are prohibited from providing such feedback given it takes only one litigious applicant to try to make the case that there was some illegal flaw in the selection process.
Post-interview Things
Thing 9: The interview day was 2 weeks ago. Why haven’t I heard yet?
Sanity check: Programs want to make their offers as early and as quickly as possible (this is also why you shouldn’t contact a program post-interview about your status). Usually there needs to be another faculty/admissions committee meeting post-interview, which might take a little time to schedule, and also there might be a few remaining Zoom/Skype interviews lagging behind. We aren’t sitting on this information; once we know who we want to make offers to, we’ll be in touch immediately.
Thing 10: I thought my interview went really well - I had great discussions and rapport with the POI and the students, and I can really see myself there, but I was rejected/waitlisted.
Sanity check: You probably did interview really well! Unfortunately we faculty often find ourselves in the position of having fewer slots than outstanding interviewees. It’s a numbers thing, and again not necessarily a reflection on you or your interview performance.
Thing 11: I have received multiple offers. Can I hold onto 2-3 offers for a while because it feels nice?
Sanity check: Technically you can. But it would be extremely inconsiderate to the waitlisted applicants at the programs whose offers you don’t intend to accept. You generally would know at that point which offer you prefer, and although you still might be waiting to hear from another program, the considerate and ethical thing to do is to decline the offer(s) you know you won’t accept, and only hold one at a time.
Thing 12: Should I buy my student host a thank you gift/card?
Sanity check: Not at all necessary, and I wouldn’t - you have already spent enough money on interview travel! An emailed thank you is appreciated and more than enough.
Thing 13: Should I send my POI a thank you card?
Sanity check: Nope. Again an email is more than enough.
 
Good luck, everyone! If this year doesn’t work out for you, don’t give up, and if it does, congratulations and best wishes with your program!

I got my first formal invite and from one of my top choices, Penn State! I totally screamed

I just got an email from my top choice POI of all the programs I applied to about having an informal phone interview and I swear I almost passed out when I saw her name pop up in my inbox! I know it's only an informal interview, but I'm shocked I even got this far lol. 

Congrats!! I am so happy and excited for all of us!
It's wild to think that now I will be booking travel arrangements for an interview weekend. It became that much more real, tangible, and within grasp! AHH!!