I am not dating anyone right now. I started this thread multiple years ago.
I tend to disagree with you to a certain extent. Being confident, assertive, independant (and I am) AND wanting companionship are not two mutually exclusive things. Both can coexist within a person. If I was desperate, I would have dated anyone at just any cost. I do not and I never did. Which is why I have been single for so long. I have enough self-confidence to walk away if someone is being disrespectful towards me. And I had to do that on multiple occasions, unfortunately.
I know you said this are just general observations, but they don't apply to me.
I prefer largely being on my own than being with someone at any cost. I am frustrated because I can't find someone that I will be HAPPY with. Not "appear to be happy" for societal norms. A relationship is not even something I want to expose to others. I want someone that I will truly be happy with and that I will make happy. It's rare to find. A lot of people in relationships are actually not that happy. I want someone that will bring me joy, without being perfect. That's all I am saying.
I don't think it has to do with something that I do. I just think I haven't been lucky.