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    Fall 2020 Developmental Psychology PhD

    If you have questions about Cornell let me know!
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    The Positivity Thread

    Wow your semester went late!
  3. Hi everybody! I'm currently a senior in undergrad and I'm applying to PhD programs in developmental psychology and some in linguistics. I just wanted to reach out and see if there's anyone else here who is also applying straight out of undergrad...I feel like a lot of people here already have a master's or have been working for a few years and I would love to talk to someone who's in the same situation as me.
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    Keep A Word Drop A Word

    Study hall
  5. Hello! Would it be possible to add this kind of feature? I don't log on to GradCafe as often anymore, but still would like to know when someone sends me a private message.
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    Can we get emails when someone private messages us?

    Thank you!!
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    Overcoming Feelings of Inadequacy

    Hello everyone and welcome to my blog! For my first post, I wanted to open up about what has been the hardest thing for me about the application process so far, and that is the feeling of not being good enough. Reading through the posts on GradCafe and seeing all the wonderful things people have done, I can't help but feel like I don't measure up. This is my fourth year working in labs and I have no publications. My GRE math score is...meh. My honors thesis is still in progress and so I don't have a neat, packaged project that I can talk about or submit as a writing sample. I'm still applying. I feel like it's easy to forget that the kind of people who post on sites like this tend to not be representative of the applicant pool as a whole, and that there do exist those of us who are applying without 10+ years of related work experience or 5+ published journal articles. My hope is to give readers some insight about what the application process is like for those of us who feel like we might not stand out as much because we don't have those things. Because that's actually not true. My first piece of advice for people who find that they're in my situation is to remember that it's all relative. For example, if you're still in undergrad, there's no way that a grad school will expect you to have as much research experience as someone who has been out of school much longer. Additionally, a lack of published articles is not a death sentence if you can convey in your application that you've gained valuable research skills. This applies both for current undergraduates such as myself, as well as those who have a master's or have been working for a while. Finally, even if someone looks "better" on paper than you, you might actually be the one with a better research fit. So, even though it can be difficult, don't be intimidated by your perceived competition. Remember to put the process into perspective and trust that if you highlight your strengths in your application you will end up where you're supposed to be.
  8. I'm on a 9 month stipend in a Developmental Psychology PhD program which means I'm technically not paid in the summer. How have others in similar situations spent their summers? Is it typically a more relaxed time? Will I have an opportunity to go home and visit family?
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    I failed my thesis.

    Oh no. I've been off GradCafe for a while. Is Adelaide gone??
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    Anybody else applying to a PhD straight out of undergrad?

    Hey you sound like me! I just got my Psychology BS a week ago! Where are you headed?
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    How do PhD students usually spend their summers?

    Okay good, these replies are making me feel a lot better because I read on some other question and answer sites that professors got mad when grad students took off a few days (!) in the summer to see family, and I was really counting on summer to be able to see my family and participate in family vacation. I completely expect to have to work independently on research stuff during the summer, but it seems like a bit much to expect grad students to be in the lab 24/7 when they're not even getting paid...
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    New to Adulthood? Welcome, you have come to the right place!

    Oh my goodness I love this thread! I will be living on my own for the first time in August and I'm super nervous about it.
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    Accepted PhD Position But Now Want to Decline

    I second this. It's too late to decline.
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    The Positivity Thread

    I graduated from undergrad today!!!!
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    Overwhelmed by the transition to Doc Student

    I agree and being from the south, I was a bit worried about driving in the snow anyway. And @Sigaba, that is a brilliant idea that would be very cathartic.
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    Overwhelmed by the transition to Doc Student

    Yes I am, and maybe the town in general would have been okay, but I don't have a spot at my apartment complex and we aren't allowed to park in the neighborhood, so that doesn't really leave me with a lot of options because paying for and dumping my car in a parking garage somewhere else and then still needing to take the bus back to my apartment doesn't make a whole lot of sense unfortunately. 😕 I do begrudgingly understand the reasoning behind this tactic, but what really gets me is that I was sitting right in front of the leasing manager talking about my car and wanting to be able to take it/park it and he never mentioned anything about buying a pass. I actually only found out about this because I RANDOMLY checked their website. Otherwise I would have shown up there in my car in August. Anyway yes, I will be forced to be green or whatever and take the bus/walk/~sled~ down the hill into town. I am clearly still very upset about this lol.
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    Anybody else applying to a PhD straight out of undergrad?

    Hello I am bumping my thread again. How is everybody? I'm finding that I'm getting nervous because of a lot of small details about moving and living on my own, and less so about the program itself.
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    Overwhelmed by the transition to Doc Student

    Yup me neither and the worst part is, I drove all the way up to New York to look at apartments, signed the lease right in front of the leasing manager, and discussed with him how I was planning to bring my car with me. He even told me that they try to put your spot as close to your apartment building as possible, but neglected to tell me that I needed to purchase a separate pass in order to get a space at all or that parking wasn't guaranteed.
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    Venting Thread- Vent about anything.

    I just found out that parking was a separate thing that I needed to pay extra for to have included in my lease and now they're all out of parking passes, so I won't have my car for the first year of grad school. 🙃
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    Overwhelmed by the transition to Doc Student

    I feel this. I grabbed a really nice apartment way back in March but just found out that parking was a separate thing that needed to be added to the lease, and now they're all out of parking passes so I can't bring my car. 🙃 I've never lived in an apartment before so I find all the details super overwhelming.
  21. 23 when I applied, 23 when I got in. I applied senior year of undergrad (did a gap year between high school and college).
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    Fall 2020 Developmental Psychology PhD

    Hello! I'm a successful applicant from the 2019 cycle, so if anyone has any questions feel free to message me! I'll be at Cornell in the fall.
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    Cornell 2019!

    Who else will be there in the fall?
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    Cornell 2019!

    Wow I haven't checked this thread in forever but hello everyone!
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    Venting Thread- Vent about anything.

    I came here to post about this too ...I never got to see it.

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