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Exactly... Why put yourself in that position.
I know this guy who moved from Kentucky to Ohio for his girlfriends PhD program. If you love someone why wouldn't you make the sacrifice and effort. Seems dumb to let something like that complicate a relationship.

Or just as bad: An email from some crappy graduate school you have no intention of applying to starting subject lines with "APPLICATION..."
The rage in me when I get those...

The original Pokemon series is now on Netflix...
 
However, jjduval's suggestion of hitting the gym is definitely the more productive/healthy option

Yes! I feel you on this one. So I technically haven't been rejected yet. I've been accepted three places and am a candidate for admission at another. I've interviewed for GA positions with three of the schools, and I haven't heard back yet. But I feel you on the "pay for a plane ticket out here... look at how wonderful our program is... now we might not let you come here. Sorry!"

I had never thought
I would want so much to be
Their sloppy seconds

Just so everyone knows, it sucks even more when you follow up with the PI you had the best interview with and they say they had been looking forward to having you rotate in their lab in the fall... I guess it just goes to show that it was competition and not being bad in person that got me rejected. I just hope I don't forever wonder what I could have done differently to give me the edge over someone else who got in. :/ This just sucks so much.

Getting rejected post-interview sucks. I know it's a very competitive process, but I can't help but feel like they're saying, "Yeah, you looked great on paper, but, in person...man, you were not at all what we were looking for! Really dodged a bullet with you!" Also, I'm so mad at myself for getting so excited for a school when I knew only 50% of the people who interview actually get in. I tried so hard not to get my heart set, but I couldn't help myself! That school was perfect in so many ways! But, there's nothing I can do now, so there's no use dwelling on it. Just have to be extra grateful for the offers I do have and have to get myself just as excited about one of those offers!

WIth such a deliberately limited perspective of the world, and extreme prejudices, I'm genuinely curious: what is it that makes you think you could be a social worker?
 
I know this is harsh, but how the hell do you think you could fix someone else's problems, when you are completely refusing help (HELP YOU SOUGHT OUT) yourself?

"Patience is a virtu-" *gets shot*

Has it actually been over 45 days? I think the general agreement is to wait until mid March to see. But if they have reached the 45 day mark, you may want to contact them. Who knows, maybe you're on a waitlist or something

"myopic and undisciplined" 
 
... do you mean misanthropic? unless you really have something against people who wear glasses. 
 
 
 
The rest of this was so achingly narcissistic and offensive that I don't care to address the rest of it. "Only I have the proper pure love of academics, no one else has possibly ever worked for what they've earned, I am the only one ever to have struggled in life."
 
Don't bother going. 

Hahaha yeah well tell him that then. I'm sure some sad girl will date him and his brown teeth, but not me.  I can't be out all the time with my friends and family and someone with brown teeth. Maybe you can date him?! HA
 
If that was little jab at my personality then thanks but I don't have an ugly personality, just standards

Like I said I call a spade a spade. I'm not going to sugar coat if someone is unattractive and their partner is hot. If you're ok with dating down then that's good for you but I'm not. I'm attractive and I want someone who is attractive too, I'm certainly not going to be the only person out of all my friends dating an ugly guy. Maybe you're ok with that but I'm not. Since you don't know anything about me you don't know why I haven't found a relationship and I have no doubt I will get into one very soon. So thanks but no thanks for your "advice".

That could be possible but I don't mention wanting kids and a family to men I go out with. My ex and I really only talked about that a few times and each time he was saying "if I got you pregnant I wouldn't want you to get rid of it but being a aren't right now would suck". Which I agreed with, even though secretly I think being a parent right now would be AWESOME! It was odd though he would make jokes or comment about our babies but when he ended it, actually suggested we take a break which I wasn't into, he said "I am not ready to get married, when you date someone they are either the person you marry or you break up". He was weird about marriage but I honestly was never the one bringing it up, he said he didn't want to get married or have kids until his 30s... He was 20, 10 years is way longer than I will wait for marriage and kids, I never said that to him though. I am not trying to skate around my responsibility in the break up, maybe I did something, maybe we weren't compatible, I admit I had major insecure moments with him but he knew and we talked about it and he would get pissed but he got over it. I just feel like one day he and I were fine and happy and he missed me and couldn't wait to see me, then the next he was suggesting a break. I do go on a lot of dates but they spring from online dating or tinder and I just feel like you have less of a chance of compatibility using that method. Specifically tinder, the 2 guys I have gone out with from there I literally pretty much knew nothing about besides their names. They just went what I expected, well the one Friday. Maybe I am a little picky but I want someone attractive who I will want to be with and go out with and have cute Facebook pics with and not someone my friends would be like "oh that's your boyfriend? Hmm". I believe in couples having matching attractive levels. It is dumb but I just hate seeing a guy who is a 10 with a girl that's a 2, unbalanced is not ok.

Yesterday my therapist suggested I reevaluate myself and I can and will but at the same time there are people in relationships who are way more mentally screwed than I am, so there is still no reason for me to not be in a relationship.

I never have to go inside to the bank, grocery shopping I guess I could see but I mean who am I really going to meet at the local Walmart? I have been going to Walmart for years and met no one so I won't hold my breath on it, get gas...? I mean maybe I actually do know this couple who met at the gas station... Yeah but they are pretty.. Mmm no comment so yeah. The point is I don't go places where I would meet someone to date. Who is going to stop me to talk at the gas station or Walmart? Been there, done that, none stopped me.

Anyways going out with a new guy tonight I met on Tinder, maybe this one will work out:) and I'm almost 100% sure he's paying for the date since he suggested the place and seems like he has a decent job. This one seems promising.

Umm no actually. If you went out with the guys I have gone out with you would be in the exact same position as I am. I online date, I'm pretty (not being vain I just her it enough to believe it) so of course a lot of guys want to go out with me, if they aren't what I'm looking off I don't go out with them again. I want what I want. Problem tonight was that he couldn't make conversation and he was soooooo boring like honestly. I don't know if I was just extremely tired from working today or if he was just genuinely boring. Either way not going out with him again. He was also not tall and he was really thin which I don't like. I like buff and tall. Like I said I want what I want. I don't have a problem keeping a relationship because I wasn't the one who ended my relationships in the past. It was beyond my control.

I got accepted to UCF off of the waitlist today! 
waitlist people keep hope!!

Or just as bad: An email from some crappy graduate school you have no intention of applying to starting subject lines with "APPLICATION..."
The rage in me when I get those...

"Ten dollars off your new. . . delete."

"Are you looking for. . . don't care."

"StudentHealth101: How to stay fit when. . . shut up."

Inbox (1)

*sweats nervously*

"Act today and enjoy your coupon for 15% off!"

*punches hole through computer screen*

AUUUUUUUGGGHHHHHH! @!#$@$!%%$#@ SCHOOLS.
 
That felt good. Definitely coping well. 

I'll be one of the falsifiers of the "if introverted, then in gifted program" hypothesis.  I never qualified for gifted programs in elementary and middle school (A/B student. I never had straight A's until college!) and I dropped out of high school, so I definitely never qualified for any gifted program there.
 
As for your second point, you can definitely be social and good at public speaking/teaching and still be introverted.  Introversion involves an individual drawing energy from themselves instead of others (for example, a social, outgoing person who feels great wearing what they're wearing because they, themselves, like it).  
 
Conversely, those who are extroverted and draw their energy from others can still be shy (for example, a quiet person who feels great wearing what they're wearing because of any compliments they receive from others on their outfit.  Homely examples, but you get the point).  
 
I know the Youth and Government program in my early high school days made me more social and apt to speak in front of others (mandatory impromptu speeches every week), and working in a retail environment for six years has conditioned me to easily interact with folks I've never met (well, most of them ... ).  However, I do end up drawing energy from myself more than I draw energy from others (that does not mean that I do not draw any energy from others).  
 
So, I'm not surprised you're introverted at all, cause it sounds like we're similar in that respect

Colorado State: "Apparently you don't even have to apply in order to be rejected from certain schools. What a cluster F it must be over there that they're emailing people who have simply requested information that they're 'rejected'."

On the one hand, as an envious person myself, I can sympathize, especially on the romantic front. On the other hand, you're making this comment as a person who got accepted to every program she applied to on a forum where many/most people are freaking out over the possibility of getting the exact opposite result (or close to it). Does your life or your preception of it really suck so much?

Seriously?

Facebook is a place where people only report their highlights, but not their downfalls. For example -  I'm waiting until I decide where to attend before announcing my plans (on Facebook) for graduate school. People won't know that I scored 3 points less on my GREs the second time I took them, despite studying close to 70 hours - they also don't have to know that my MS degree will take ~3 years since I need to take make-up courses - and even if I only get accepted to one school, they won't know about the other 5 schools that rejected me. They will only hear that I've been accepted to a great school and that I'm excited to attend.
 
I don't filter to intentionally make myself look better - I would rather share good news than bad news, especially with acquaintances. I share bad news with family and close friends, people who I can confide for sound advice and who can lift my spirits.
 
So when you scan your Facebook feed, just know that for every victory, there were many more failures.

I'd recommend staying off of Grad Cafe as long as you can. I'm right on the cusp of several notifications and I can't tear myself away.
 
Alternatively, binge drinking seems to be a common theme. To each his own.