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One of my favorites
 
two of my favorites are from eastern michigan university
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another gem
 
 
and i have a semi-random question: I keep seeing people write some variation of #a/#r/#w in the notes. What on earth does that mean?

i like the dramatically sad ones the best

i like the dramatically sad ones the best

another gem
 
 
and i have a semi-random question: I keep seeing people write some variation of #a/#r/#w in the notes. What on earth does that mean?

i like the dramatically sad ones the best

One of my favorites
 
two of my favorites are from eastern michigan university
and 

i like the dramatically sad ones the best

Off the waitlist! I officially have an academic home this fall!

I think everyone just needs to calm down.  Grad school waiting is nerve-wracking but, I think some of you are over analyzing or reading into things far too deeply.  "Our apologies for the long wait. Your email was forwarded to the program director. He will be in contact with you shortly," simply means just that.  Hang tight, you'll have your answer soon.  And to the above poster, just because they went silent after sending out an acceptance does not mean they have revoked you.  They don't have the time, energy, or resources to continually hound or keep in touch instantly with the students they accept/reject/waitlist.   

@DeltaSkelta
...I'd be thrilled even if they cringed while writing my acceptance letter !

Something else to keep in mind is that they only waitlist people that they would be happy to accept. I too get a little paranoid about this, but I always remind myself "if they didn't want me, they'd just reject me."

So, I apologize for sounding harsh, and yes, I may need some perspective. I have known many people from diverse families. My best friend is an Arab Muslim. My husband is a Russian Jew. However, I obviously live in America and I have never had to deal with not having my freedom of choice or even witnessing it here. My perspective is one that an American university may have or maybe even not. I have been through graduate school for my Master's and I am well aware of the politics. What I can tell you is that I have heard talk before about potential graduate students and concern about an applicant and their family. I have heard someone say that they will not take on a graduate student if they believe they are too close to their family. Yes, it may be harsh, but it is politics. I was merely giving advice on how to handle your communications with this university (if it is in America or even anywhere else) and I am sorry for being harsh. Politics are always involved and you do not want to cut your ties with a school because you are not interested in them at the moment even though you applied. You may be later or you may be looking for a faculty position down the road. You should always assume you may need that connection later. You should also assume that faculty from one school may communicate with faculty from another. That was why I suggested that you wait to see what they say. If you call them up and tell them you didn't want to apply, you burn that bridge. You do not want to burn any bridges, especially so early in the game. So I am sorry. I only meant to give advice and I did come out looking like a complete jerk.

I don't want to be crabby, but do you think that explicitly telling people the study is about "dark triad" traits or narcissism might create social desirability concerns and bias your results? Seriously.

If someone isn't going to hire me because they think I'm "too close to my family" I want abso-frakking-lutely nothing to do with them.

He probably won't ask. If he does, I'd be honest. He probably won't assume you're only interested because it's your only offer: 1) he probably assumes you're interested for the reasons specified in your SOP and because you see it the way he does ( i.e. that you and the program are a good fit) 2) you're applying to clinical psychology - the most competitive program out there - they wouldn't be surprised that they're your only offer. Many applicants are rejected across the board for clinical, as I am sure you know.

I think the 'unofficial' wait list is my least favorite. I don't mind a timely email keeping me informed that I'm on a wait lost, but when the University doesn't even email you and you find out after emailing them that you're on a waitlist of sorts - and there's no information on when you may get a decision. This was an incoherent rant haha

Mom: "So ... how much does that stipend offer leave you to pay for school out of pocket?" (asked tonight, over a month after I got the offer)
Me: "Oh, mom, I get a tuition waiver, they're basically paying for me to attend there since I'll be working for them as a teaching assistant. I won't pay a dime!"
Mom: *sigh of relief*
Me: "Yes, the good thing about grad school is that there are more opportunities for full tuition waivers than in undergrad."
Mom: *chuckles* "Unless they play sports; then those applicants might have those opportunities in undergrad!"
 
I feel so terrible that my mom didn't know about the tuition waiver earlier!!! I never explained it well enough!!  She knows I'm in a good amount of debt from student loans and feels bad that she couldn't help pay for college at all during my undergrad, so she was really worried about me paying/taking out loans for grad school, too ... oh mom, I love you and I'm sorry!  
 
Thoroughly explaining funding offers to family is a good idea!!

What concerns me is why you did not have the balls to tell your family that you did not want to go to that particular school. It makes you look childish. You are an adult now, and should be able to make your own decisions about what you want to do with your life. If you did not want to go to that school, then you never should have applied in the first place. These schools have enough applications to go through and are wasting their time looking at an applicant who doesn't even want to go there.

Frankly, I think you should just wait and see what the university does. If they accept you, just decline it. The faculty from this school will likely never want to collaborate with you if you ask the school to reject you because you only applied to pacify your family. You have to begin to think about your networks.

i like the dramatically sad ones the best

You got rejected from Xavier's School for Gifted Youngsters? Damn

This. Could you train to be a dentist or nurse online? No, it just doesn't work that way and any program that purports to give you the same training, in my opinion, is bordering on fraudulent.

There are no reputable online programs in clinical and/or counseling psychology offered online (for good reason). There are many reputable (brick and mortar) schools that offer online undergraduate degrees which would be doable for you, but there is no way to achieve a PhD worth having in this field without staying in the same place for a long period of time.

One of the problems with online training is that at some point you'll need face-to-face supervision hours for things like practica and internships. It's not just the degree, it's the quality of the education you get in the process; online schools are notorious for charging a ton of money for a degree that gets you nowhere, in large part because either the school isn't APA accredited, or the internship isn't APA accredited, or both.
 
Undergrad programs don't need to go through APA accreditation; you could. in theory, get a bachelor's from U of Phoenix, and a MAsters/PhD from Fielding. Whether you are able to pass the EPPP, qualify for licensure, and find a job after that is another matter entirely.
 
I do hate to sound like a jerk, but I would hate for you to spend $100k+ for a degree that's worth about as much as a glorified paperweight.

we've got a TROLL in the house, yo!
not a very good one, but still a troll.