hantoo

It seems to me that there are two topics being discussed here. The OP asked "do men resent successful women", but this thread has somehow turned into "is the OP doing the right things when dating/looking for a relationship". I can totally understand why someone isn't so excited about internet strangers analyzing their personality and offering advice based on a few posts and not much other information. OP, there might be some interesting thoughts here worth pondering, especially the ones that repeat, but I also think you need to take everything in the perspective of your broader life, which we don't know about here. Since this is an open forum and everyone is entitled to post their opinion, you can't direct the conversation, even if you started it. You can and should choose what advice you want to take. I do agree with the statement above that relationships aren't always easy for everyone and that just being around a lot of new people might not be enough for some people. I also think the advice to let friends and family know that you're looking is useful. They know you and might be able to help you find someone who is a better match than a random person you met on the job. (Assuming you trust these people's taste and opinion of you!)
As for the question you actually asked, I think I saw two kinds of answers, one along the lines of "it hasn't happened to me, but..." and one along the lines of "those people are d-bags anyway". So, yes, people like that aren't people you want to be in a relationship with, but it's not always that simple. Yes, it happens, there's research on that. Sometimes it's obvious, but sometimes it isn't. I think the bottom line is that it might make it more difficult for you to find a suitable partner who is supportive of you and your goals, that may be a valid difficulty. But it's not a reason to stop trying or assume the worst. Good guys are out there; you have to believe that. It does indeed take longer for some people than others to find a good partner, but that's not reason to give up. On the other hand, there is only so much that you can do to start a relationship. It's partly a matter of luck and circumstances. The best thing you can do for yourself is learn to be happy on your own, and stop worrying so much about what others say or what should happen at what time. You're much more likely to have a successful relationship if you're in a good place in life and happy as a person, and if you just let it happen instead of actively seeking it. 

Are you looking at the potential course (that is, the course catalogue) or the online schedule of classes? I ask because these are often quite different things and the schedule of what's offered may help determine some of what you'll be taking. FWIW, I would do a mix of broad and topical courses because you'll need a mix of both for your comps/quals.

That's awesome, UF has a really great program!  I didn't end up applying there but as a Brazilianist in training I'm a big fan of Mike Heckenberger's work.  Best of luck!

Thanks for the feedback @museum_geek And I'll be heading to the University of Florida this fall for their doctoral program in Sociocultural Anthro with (hopefully) an interdisciplinary track in Latin American Studies. Since there wasn't a ton of opportunity for me to take cultural anthro courses during undergrad, I might go for the ethnographic field methods course. But there are also some other super interesting/relevant classes I saw listed, like International Heritage Management, Ethnoarchaeology, and Photoethnography (!!!!) which all sound mind-blowingly awesome to me and would fit in really well with my proposed research. But I'm guessing I'll have a chance to take them all at some point!

I do think they are, yes. I have met with resistance and rudeness from men who I would now, in retrospect, call sexist d-bags. This is both in the work place and in the dating field.
Now, I have met more men who have mentored me professionally and I have had relationships with some, as well. Some good, others not so. But there are good guys out there  
I think geography matters. A lot.
I learned a lot from reading dating advice (Evan Marc Katz is great and writes on this very subject) which helped me better understand how to date and feel good while doing so. 
Finally, some of the sharpest, coolest ladies I know had no serious relationships until they were older, like mid-20s. I know someone who never had a serious relationship until she was 40! Nothing wrong with them, just perhaps less willing to settle or "out themselves out there."
Dating women might be a thing to try, too. 
Good luck to you. You're not alone. 

Congrats on accepting an offer, exciting stuff!  If you don't mind me asking, where will you be headed in the fall?
As for which classes to take, I think your advisor will be super helpful.  It also depends on your prior training and what your project will look like.  For instance, my project and proposed field site is in an area where I'm not super familiar with the language, so my first semester I'll probably take a more introductory language course.  On the other hand, I'm taking an Ethnographic Field Methods course right now as I finish up my Master's, so I'll probably take something more topically focused instead of just "Foundations of Anthropological Theory" or something along those lines.  But yeah, in general I think your advisor will be able to help your sort this out.

You're welcome! Unfortunately I don't know too much about Lion's Gate and I don't think I have any friends who live/have lived there. I can say that Vairo Village, from what I've heard from students who lived there, is pretty nice, and it is certainly a pretty popular place to live for graduate students or people who just want to live farther away from campus and the chaos of downtown. It's accessible via the Cata bus service as well if you don't have a car/would prefer not to drive every day.
The apartment I lived in for 2 years was originally managed by the Apartment Store but transferred to management under ARPM halfway through my first year living there. I was not a big fan of ARPM because I felt the previous property managers were much nicer and MUCH more prompt when it came to maintenance issues. However, ARPM was certainly not terrible, and I actually lived next door to their main office in Beaver Terrace, so when I really needed something I just walked over and asked and they would handle it very quickly. Also, they have a more convenient process of handling security deposits, etc., which can make things much easier if you have roommates and/or if your roommates change year to year.

Retweet to the poster above! Any guy who is "intimidated" or otherwise unsupportive of your intelligence and success as a woman is big ole' D-Bag who isn't worth your time and energy. It's fine for your partner to be impressed by your success, but they should respect and admire you for it, just as you would respect and admire them for their great qualities and skills. Be yourself and love what you do. The right person will be attracted to your determination to work hard in the field you're passionate about.  

Retweet to the poster above! Any guy who is "intimidated" or otherwise unsupportive of your intelligence and success as a woman is big ole' D-Bag who isn't worth your time and energy. It's fine for your partner to be impressed by your success, but they should respect and admire you for it, just as you would respect and admire them for their great qualities and skills. Be yourself and love what you do. The right person will be attracted to your determination to work hard in the field you're passionate about.  

Retweet to the poster above! Any guy who is "intimidated" or otherwise unsupportive of your intelligence and success as a woman is big ole' D-Bag who isn't worth your time and energy. It's fine for your partner to be impressed by your success, but they should respect and admire you for it, just as you would respect and admire them for their great qualities and skills. Be yourself and love what you do. The right person will be attracted to your determination to work hard in the field you're passionate about.  

Retweet to the poster above! Any guy who is "intimidated" or otherwise unsupportive of your intelligence and success as a woman is big ole' D-Bag who isn't worth your time and energy. It's fine for your partner to be impressed by your success, but they should respect and admire you for it, just as you would respect and admire them for their great qualities and skills. Be yourself and love what you do. The right person will be attracted to your determination to work hard in the field you're passionate about.  

I'm not a woman, let alone a successful one, but men that are intimidated by successful women are probably not the best candidates to have a relationship with in the first place. Attraction is attraction, it shouldn't be qualified by the subjectivity of success.

Bro, I wear a Pikachu backpack to class and I'm the professor. You can totally skate and be awesome!

I don't mean to be insensitive when I say this though I know it will come across this way, but just take my word for it - who cares? If skating is your preferred mode of transportation then do it! I don't think people will view you unprofessionally, and if they do then that's their problem.

Undergrad -> PhD here! And I'm 20 so probably I could be counted as "at a young age". It certainly doesn't feel good to be taken to an ice cream place when everyone else is going to a bar. That's certain.

she need sum MILK

I've had a good share of rejections so here are my two cents: 
Rejections, like coursework, are part of grad school and your academic career. You are going to be rejected so many times in the future that I can't even find a nice sugarcoat for it. You will submit articles that will get bluntly sent back. You will apply for grants that take months to prepare and one day you'll get the horrible letter. Every one of those rejections is going to hurt so, if you want to succeed, you will need to eventually develop some type of coping mechanism. I give myself chocolate.  Rejections hurt right now because they are too personal. Academia is too personal. You will see that you will be trained to behave like a professional but at the end of the day, you are leaving things aside to pursue this. Everybody knows this. I don't have kids, but friends of mine do and I can see how much at stake they have in their hands. So, of course it hurts! It's natural, it bothers us, but wondering about it, unfortunately, does not make us any good.  Take rejections as an opportunity. I was rejected from a program that I thought was the program. Great fit, great funding, and extended conversations over Skype with POI. I mean, I just knew it was my place in the world. I was rejected with that cold letter that gives no explanation. That pushed me to the program I am now and I couldn't be happier. I seriously doubt I would have come to this program if I hadn't been rejected in the other one. Also, a rejection is a chance to re-evaluate how you deal with life itself. In my case, I used to cry for a day or two. Then I figured that was a total waste of time so instead I would give myself a nice meal -any of my choosing- and tell my advisors once I had dealt with it. I am surprised of myself! Rejections are not shameful. I don't know about you right now, but I am always ashamed of telling my advisor that I didn't get a grant, again. I feel like the ugly duckling who never gets anything. She never made me feel that way and is always encouraging me to move on, but still, I am the only one of her students who didn't get even a tiny grant. This is the hardest part for me, but as I said, I learned to deal with it.  Being hurt is an emotional response. We cannot control what makes us angry or happy or sad. But we can control how to react and what to do with it. Yes, take your time to be blue, but don't make it your sole response.   
 

You likely already know this, but:
Many times, professors look for prospective students with specific features that their lab needs at a particular time, which change yearly with the lab's focus and composition. If their lab has a student with an unusual strength/background/whatever who happens to be graduating and leaving this year, the professor may look for a new student with similar features. It doesn't reflect poorly on the other candidates who are vying for that same spot - no one can possibly have every strength or background or sets of experiences - it just is what it is, unfortunately.
So often it just really is all about being an unusually-shaped puzzle piece who just happens to fit the lab's or program's jigsaw needs at the right time, and the final selection genuinely is out of an outstanding pool of candidates of which include you.
Coping tool: know this, and then binge on a great tv series.

@hantoo That makes sense.  I accepted an offer from my current MA school without visiting beforehand and it turned out well, but two years isn't quite the same level of commitment as 5-7 years!  

I'm in this same situation. To be honest I think it's fairly common to accept before visiting campus--I have a few friends currently in Masters and PhD programs who did not visit prior to accepting their offer. In fact, I have one friend who moved halfway across the country to work with a POI she had never met, move into an apartment she had never seen, in a city she had never been to, and she is perfectly fine and loves her program.
I wasn't able to attend accepted students weekend at the program I'll likely be committing to, but I have talked to my POI's quite a bit and have discussed what the school/campus is like to get a better idea of what to expect. Assuming I accept the offer, I'm also planning on making a trip down sometime during the summer to check out campus and look at apartments. It might be a good idea for you to contact current grad students in the program to ask about campus life, where they live, etc. to feel more sure of your decision before you commit to the program. Based on what I've head from current grad students, location is somewhat important in terms of how you make your decision, but overall program fit is the most important, so if UW Madison is your dream program, I say go for it!

Well keep in touch with me and I can maybe be a resource next cycle! Good luck friend!

Hey Everyone,
I just finished undergrad at Penn State and know State College extremely well, and had friends that lived all over the area, and I myself lived downtown 2 out of my 4 years there. If any of you have specific questions about anywhere you're considering checking out or just about what PSU life is like in general, feel free to ask on here or message me!
Just as a general comment: most of the graduate students I am friends with at Penn State live farther off campus and have a car, or just take the bus in during the week. The farther off campus you go, the nicer the apartment, generally speaking. To be honest, I would suggest that you avoid living right down town near campus, as that is where all of the undergraduate students live, and Beaver Ave. and College Ave. tend to be fairly crazy places most nights of the week, and are basically insane on weekends (i.e. if you are not interested in hearing people screaming all night Thurs.-Sun. in your building and in the streets and finding half-eaten slices of pizza and other gross things in your stairwells and hallways, avoid the close to campus living options).
The absolute nicest off campus living area in my experience is The Retreat, but it's also more expensive than other options--the apartments there resemble town houses, most allow pets, you'll likely get your own room, there's a pool, little backyards, and things that you just would not otherwise have closer to campus. Park Forest is also a really nice area with townhouse-like apartments.
Another apartment option that is slightly closer and likely more affordable would be University Terrace. It's pretty far east from campus, but if you don't mind the walk it's not terrible, and you can certainly take a bus if you need to. A lot of undergraduates live out there, but I think it's at least slightly more tame than living in the middle of downtown. There are lots of houses on West College Ave., and if you can find a solid group of roommates to live with, that could be a decent option too. White Course Apartments is Penn State's "graduate and family housing" option, but I don't know much about it and never went there.

*walks in*
*looks around*
*walks right back out*

This thread is so out of hand / absurd. Did someone actually just tell on someone to the President of Brown? Is this real life? Did Grad Cafe ever exist or is it some bizarro nightmare that we collectively dreamt up in the months we've spent losing our minds over acceptances and rejections. 

I think you're on the right track with regard to asking about funding, TAships, conference funding, etc.  You might also ask about summer funding, and what kinds of resources/workshops the department has to help students prepare to apply for research grants and other outside funding sources.
In terms of logistical stuff like where to look for apartments, you might ask your POI to put you in touch with a current grad student who can answer those questions.
Something along the lines of, "I'm still keeping all my options open, but your school/program/department is near the top of my list and I'm excited about the possibility of attending in the Fall."  Faculty members know the drill - they've heard different iterations of this phrase for years now, so I doubt your POI will take offense.  Best of luck!