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I had mused before that id make a video like college football players do grabbing the hat of the school I'm picking, if I got in. Now that I have a reject, I'm thinking that instead I'll just burn the shit I've got from schools that deny me. I think it'd be cathartic.

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Dig a hole, crawl in, and cry myself to sleep. Alternatively, just use the back side of the rejection letters as scratch paper.

just burn the shit

Sorry, off-topic, but this totally made me envision a grad student wannabe burning dung cakes. :lol: "Self-Pity: Powered by Natural Gas"

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Call my mom and cry

call my boyfriend and cry

call all of my close friends and cry

wrap myself in a blanket of alcoholic euphoria for about 1 week

cry some more

move on with my life

re-apply next year

OT, but good luck with your applications! I go to the gym with the director of the CMES... really great guy! I can highly recommend that program just because of their excellent faculty!

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If I got all rejections, I might actually just let out a sigh of relief. At least its an answer to make me stop stressing. And it gives me one more year to do whatever I want before having to sell my soul to research for 5-7 years. I anticipate a lot of cupcake baking, buying clothes I don't need, and taking trips with money I don't really have. :P

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If all my schools reject me I will most likely go into hysterics, march into a Target, ask for a job application, stand up on a display platform and announce something dramatic like, "these are my new people now... this is where the universe wants me to be..." I will then throw my fists in the air and scream "WHYYYYY!" until my boyfriend drags me home to soothe me with endless gin and tonics.

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I have very very low expectations, so I am just expecting to get rejected around the board. My boyfriend is finishing up his graduate degree and if I get rejected, we are moving to a bigger city near his family and I will try and find a job that I don't hate. I will probably reapply next year, but to only schools in the area.

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C'Mon guys! Collectively. Repeat after me.

I will be accepted. I will not mourn.

I will be accepted. I will not mourn.

I will be accepted. I will not mourn.

I will be accepted. I will not mourn.

I will be accepted. I will not mourn.

I will be accepted. I will not mourn.

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Also, nothing worse than being a Ph.D. and not being able to get a job in academia or in industry. Your overqualified to most employers.

This is something that worries me sometimes... However, doing a phd seems like so much fun!

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I have a strange view of this:

I expect my undergrad's non-reputation will diminish my "worthiness" as will the fact I attended 3 schools and had GRE scores just above the cut off. I will get more rejections for the Ph.D. than acceptances- if any offers. However, if I am rejected from my top 3 choices as a Ph.D. applicant I am nearly certain they are going to counter with Master's offers and scholarships. In essence, I'm a luke warm Ph.d applicant looking for a good fit, but would be a top of the line Master's applicant given my research background.

The M.A. offers never really seemed like the end of the world to me if they came with scholarship money: 1) I get more freedom to chart my own course 2) If I find a job in industry with just an M.A. that hits enough of the Pros on my list of ideals I'd be just as happy without a Ph.D. 3) In combination with scholarship and lost earnings I'd probably be minimizing my debt with just the MA offer instead of going 5 years for the Ph.D. Let's just be real, the drop-out rates for Ph.ds are sky high. With just an MA I'd get to really make sure this level of specialization, the politics of academia and the faith in a tenure system are all part of a hand I want to play in life. If so, no worries I get the M.A. then go for the extra few years of dissertation writing without any of the guilt or uncertainty of maybe not wanting to be a professor. Also, nothing worse than being a Ph.D. and not being able to get a job in academia or in industry. Your overqualified to most employers.

So, I won't mourn because I really can't loose.

That's interesting. I think I can't entirely 100% mourn either because, to be honest, I'm not entirely sure finishing a PhD would really point me in the career direction I'd want to go in. I'm assuming it would, but as my friend put it, "if you finish a PhD near the age of 50, what are you supposed to do then?" I said that I hoped that the answer just sort of worked itself out during the program, but in reality, I don't really know. I thought the same thing when I decided to start my master's program, "it will just work itself out," and now I've finished it, but that isn't really the case. I guess if I didn't get in or funded (which is the same thing,) then I'd just take it as a sign that it wasn't meant to be, and that I need to actively pursue a new job instead.

As far as being overqualified, I'm almost finding out that I am already.

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I don't know how I would going to react. This is my second go around and last year I wasn't myself for a good 2 months after my last rejection. I feel a lot better about my chances this year though - last year this time I was already anticipating all rejections. This year I think the odds are definitely in my favor.

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wrap myself in a blanket of alcoholic euphoria for about 1 week

Yep, that sound about right.

Also if I get all rejections I'll take the money I have saved for graduate school and spend every last dime: travle shopping, whatever.

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I'm applying to 1 program only. I'm hoping to do a dual degree. So this is it! If I don't get in, I don't know what I'll do....mostly likely drown my sorrow in a sea of beer. In fact, it'll be more like an ocean.

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I've spent 20 years working in industry, so if my PhD apps get rejected, I'll take my MS and MBA and start kinkin' a$$ on building my consulting business and work on more applied research projects versus academia. I've taught as a visiting prof for the last 4 years and love the "college prof lifestyle", but if I need to go back to 60-70 hour weeks and deal with demanding clients who don't pay their bills, so be it. I might take an extended beer break first, though.

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I had mused before that id make a video like college football players do grabbing the hat of the school I'm picking, if I got in. Now that I have a reject, I'm thinking that instead I'll just burn the shit I've got from schools that deny me. I think it'd be cathartic.

I burn every rejection letter to release the evil spirits...however, it doesn't seem to work.

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If we're talking true mourning here, then I will probably take a day off, sleep in, cry, sleep some more, eat some chocolate, cry, sleep, and when I'm all cried out I will buy a new outfit that will cost way too much money. Life goes on.

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