WINE, WAIT, AND WHINE THREAD

[Pink Fuzzy Bunny]

20 minutes ago, youthfulwinter said:

My husband was rejected to all 5 schools he applied to one year. The next he applied again and got into a fully funded doctorate program at Northwestern. He is graduating this June! It's not a reflection on you. It'll happen when it's supposed to happen. Have hope! 

I've seen this happen to many people as well. Don't give up guys

 

[Neist]

27 minutes ago, youthfulwinter said:

My husband was rejected to all 5 schools he applied to one year. The next he applied again and got into a fully funded doctorate program at Northwestern. He is graduating this June! It's not a reflection on you. It'll happen when it's supposed to happen. Have hope! 

I agree! Acceptances and funding is finicky enough that it often has nothing to do with you or your ability.

I'm not stressing about mine. I'd like to start grad school next year, but that's only because I'm not getting any younger.

[SLPgradstudent]

1 hour ago, gingin6789 said:

I'm so glad today is a better day (with more spoons!)! I'm also glad you enjoyed the spoon theory!! And thank you for your sympathy about my health issues ... you're right, it has shaped who I am! Spoonie whining ahead: I had surgery two months ago to help with my health issues, and guess what? I still was awoken by pain TWICE last night. I tried brushing it off the first time and going back to sleep, but nope! It woke me up out of my sleep again! So I had to take a pain pill for it, which I haaaaaaaaaaate. I hate turning to them for relief, and I hate using them up because I'm always worried that, if I call for a refill, they'll be like "drug seeker!" even though I got a prescription for 20 like three months ago, and it was prescribed for "as needed every 4-6 hours" and I STILL have some left. So whatever. Either way, pain drives me crazy, and OTC meds can't touch it. But there are always heating pads and tea to help too.

I totally agree about wanting people to NEVER go through it, but just to understand! Besides folks in high school not believing me, everyone since then (so far) has been super understanding, which is great!

@youthfulwinter welcome!!! So nice to have you with us!!

@piglet33 OMG COOKIE!!!!! THIS IS AMAZING!!! Hahaha thank you for that video!!!!

Thanks gingin!  Hooray for more spoons!!!

I'm sorry you were in pain last night.  Pain sucks, especially when it's the kind that OTC meds don't help.  I know what you mean about not wanting to use them for relief.  Last summer I got sick and was in that kind of pain for months (thus the incomplete for my class.)  I have this somewhat irrational fear that because I have chronic health problems, doctors will see me as being a hypochondriac.  Might have something to do with the fact that I was having problems for years before even getting diagnosed.  "It's all in your head.  Just work harder."

Tea is my favorite though.  And yes, @piglet33, Cookie is amazing too!

[KingNikolai1]

I will hear back from Yale this upcoming week or the week after. Since Columbia and Yale are my two top choices, the wait is incredibly nerve wracking. I even had a slight feeling of nausea for a little bit, and it can be hard to occupy my time on the weekends with things besides homework and movies. The worst was I had a nightmare last night. In the nightmare I was rejected from Yale, and the comments mentioned that my writing ability in Russian was nonexistent, my reading comprehension was lacking, and my speaking was incomprehensible. 

 

The pathetic part is I have already been accepted to two programs, and I am just waiting to hear about funding. Yet, the doubt and uncertainty never seems to leave.

[emiliajulia]

good luck, @KingNikolai1!! The slavic program at Columbia is really great (I'm finishing a Slavic Studies MA from NYU, and we have a consortium agreement with them). 

I hope everyone's having a relaxing and not-too-stressful weekend! 

[Neist]

1 minute ago, KingNikolai1 said:

I will hear back from Yale this upcoming week or the week after. Since Columbia and Yale are my two top choices, the wait is incredibly nerve wracking. I even had a slight feeling of nausea for a little bit, and it can be hard to occupy my time on the weekends with things besides homework and movies. The worst was I had a nightmare last night. In the nightmare I was rejected from Yale, and the comments mentioned that my writing ability in Russian was nonexistent, my reading comprehension was lacking, and my speaking was incomprehensible. 

The pathetic part is I have already been accepted to two programs, and I am just waiting to hear about funding. Yet, the doubt and uncertainty never seems to leave.

It'll be fine! And remember, even if you don't get into your top programs, it isn't because you're necessarily a bad applicant. Most of us are fighting for 4-5 spots in these programs, and it's entirely possible a lot of us won't get into programs due entirely to reasons outside of our control. Maybe funding was bad this year, or perhaps there hasn't been many graduates lately, so there isn't a lot of funding opportunities that have opened.

It's a bummer when we get rejected, but it's not because we've failed. It's more likely that we have bad luck.

[Pink Fuzzy Bunny]

I agree with Neist. Some programs that I considered applying to (but didn't... waste of money) have 800-900 applicants, and accept 50-60 to end up with about 10-15. It's absolutely insane...

[gingin6789]

2 hours ago, SLPgradstudent said:

Thanks gingin!  Hooray for more spoons!!!

I'm sorry you were in pain last night.  Pain sucks, especially when it's the kind that OTC meds don't help.  I know what you mean about not wanting to use them for relief.  Last summer I got sick and was in that kind of pain for months (thus the incomplete for my class.)  I have this somewhat irrational fear that because I have chronic health problems, doctors will see me as being a hypochondriac.  Might have something to do with the fact that I was having problems for years before even getting diagnosed.  "It's all in your head.  Just work harder."

Tea is my favorite though.  And yes, @piglet33, Cookie is amazing too!

Ugh I know what you mean!! Basically, yes to everything you said! I'm glad you know what I mean, but I'm sorry you had to go through it too! 

[FoxAndChicken]

2 hours ago, KingNikolai1 said:

I will hear back from Yale this upcoming week or the week after. Since Columbia and Yale are my two top choices, the wait is incredibly nerve wracking. I even had a slight feeling of nausea for a little bit, and it can be hard to occupy my time on the weekends with things besides homework and movies. The worst was I had a nightmare last night. In the nightmare I was rejected from Yale, and the comments mentioned that my writing ability in Russian was nonexistent, my reading comprehension was lacking, and my speaking was incomprehensible. 

 

The pathetic part is I have already been accepted to two programs, and I am just waiting to hear about funding. Yet, the doubt and uncertainty never seems to leave.

The nightmares, omg. I had a dream that parenthesis were chasing me and the next day, when I was typing up homework for my recursion theory class, I realized that how I'd written it before the nightmare actually did have mismatched parenthesis. 

[raaawr]

7 hours ago, FoxAndChicken said:

Jessica Jones is pretty excellent! So many ups and downs. What part are you on? Over winter break I watched a lot of Buffy. 

I'm just on episode 5. Lol. I only started yesterday cause I just finished watching all 8 seasons of that 70s show then I started watching the first season again so I was like, I need a break from the 70s. Lol!

[FoxAndChicken]

16 minutes ago, raaawr said:

I'm just on episode 5. Lol. I only started yesterday cause I just finished watching all 8 seasons of that 70s show then I started watching the first season again so I was like, I need a break from the 70s. Lol!

I've never actually watched That 70's Show. Is it good?

[sjoh197]

1 hour ago, FoxAndChicken said:

I've never actually watched That 70's Show. Is it good?

its great... But you got to give it a few episodes before you start to get it.

[KingNikolai1]

 

8 hours ago, Neist said:

It'll be fine! And remember, even if you don't get into your top programs, it isn't because you're necessarily a bad applicant. Most of us are fighting for 4-5 spots in these programs, and it's entirely possible a lot of us won't get into programs due entirely to reasons outside of our control. Maybe funding was bad this year, or perhaps there hasn't been many graduates lately, so there isn't a lot of funding opportunities that have opened.

It's a bummer when we get rejected, but it's not because we've failed. It's more likely that we have bad luck.

Thank you! My professors said similar things before I applied in the fall, since you never know whether the ad comms will think you are a good fit. I should hear back in a few weeks from UCLA about funding, and I am pretty hopeful about it. I have already braced myself for a rejection from UPenn.

7 hours ago, Pink Fuzzy Bunny said:

I agree with Neist. Some programs that I considered applying to (but didn't... waste of money) have 800-900 applicants, and accept 50-60 to end up with about 10-15. It's absolutely insane...

Yup, the only issue is that most Slavic departments don't release how many people they admit or apply on average. Now that the weekend is ending, I should be able to think about other things. Just spent the past few hours with a few friends playing board games to pass the time, so I'll have plenty of reading to do on Sunday.

8 hours ago, emiliajulia said:

good luck, @KingNikolai1!! The slavic program at Columbia is really great (I'm finishing a Slavic Studies MA from NYU, and we have a consortium agreement with them). 

I hope everyone's having a relaxing and not-too-stressful weekend! 

Thank you so much emiliajulia! Two of my professors went to Columbia so they were definitely pushing me to apply. When I first started applying I thought it was the best fit for me, but even if it isn't I am happy to already have two acceptances.

6 hours ago, gingin6789 said:

 

5 hours ago, FoxAndChicken said:

The nightmares, omg. I had a dream that parenthesis were chasing me and the next day, when I was typing up homework for my recursion theory class, I realized that how I'd written it before the nightmare actually did have mismatched parenthesis. 

Hahahaha, I remember waking up this morning thinking, 'seriously, just why.........'

Edited February 7, 2016 by KingNikolai1

[Yunix]

7 minutes ago, KingNikolai1 said:

Hahahaha, I remember waking up this morning thinking, 'seriously, just why.........'

I see it from another light. Before I had so much difficulty getting off the bed. Now every morning I wake up rushing to check my email - desperate, but also good for keeping up with morning schedule 

[raaawr]

7 hours ago, FoxAndChicken said:

I've never actually watched That 70's Show. Is it good?

Yeah it's just a light hearted sitcom so I enjoy it since I really don't think much when I watch it. Haha. Perfect for when I shut down the nagging grad app results on my brain ?

[gingin6789]

Anyone else thinking "Oh programs I've applied to have notified on Sundays in the past, so maybe I'll hear something today!"?

Ahhh *buries head in data*

[raaawr]

7 minutes ago, gingin6789 said:

Anyone else thinking "Oh programs I've applied to have notified on Sundays in the past, so maybe I'll hear something today!"?

Ahhh *buries head in data*

Yessss! Lol. I was looking at the results page again earlier, I saw they notified one person for interview on a sunday 2 years ago. Lol!

[gingin6789]

Just now, raaawr said:

Yessss! Lol. I was looking at the results page again earlier, I saw they notified one person for interview on a sunday 2 years ago. Lol!

Exactly! And to add fuel to the fire, I got my *official* letter from UC Davis posted online today (they called me last Thursday though), so I'm like "oh maybe letters will be posted today for programs I haven't heard from!"

[SLPgradstudent]

44 minutes ago, gingin6789 said:

Exactly! And to add fuel to the fire, I got my *official* letter from UC Davis posted online today (they called me last Thursday though), so I'm like "oh maybe letters will be posted today for programs I haven't heard from!"

I know!  I'm trying to tell myself that I shouldn't expect anything until at least Friday.  I have two exams to take this week!

[rhombusbombus]

Got through PSU Recruitment Weekend unscathed! Coming out very hopeful!

[nka93]

It's frustrating that my family and friends are always asking if I've heard back, saying I will for sure be accepted, or saying "if you end up living in (insert location of a school)..." My mom would absolutely love for me to end up at a school a few hours from home rather than one of the ones on the east coast and I'm constantly reminding her that the close school may reject me. And even if they do accept me I may not be able to afford it. 

This is my second application season. I got shut out last year after getting the same exact comments over and over. I already have so much stress about my future and what will happen if I get shut out again. I probably don't have a third round in me emotionally or financially. I hate that I'm carrying the expectations of others on my shoulders as well. I know they mean well, but I'm barely holding it together and those comments make it way more difficult. I've said as much and they can't seem to understand that it adds so much more pressure to the situation. 

[FoxAndChicken]

37 minutes ago, nka93 said:

It's frustrating that my family and friends are always asking if I've heard back, saying I will for sure be accepted, or saying "if you end up living in (insert location of a school)..." My mom would absolutely love for me to end up at a school a few hours from home rather than one of the ones on the east coast and I'm constantly reminding her that the close school may reject me. And even if they do accept me I may not be able to afford it. 

This is my second application season. I got shut out last year after getting the same exact comments over and over. I already have so much stress about my future and what will happen if I get shut out again. I probably don't have a third round in me emotionally or financially. I hate that I'm carrying the expectations of others on my shoulders as well. I know they mean well, but I'm barely holding it together and those comments make it way more difficult. I've said as much and they can't seem to understand that it adds so much more pressure to the situation. 

I understand. I don't want my friends and family to say "I'm sure you'll get in!" I want them to say "It'll be okay if you don't." Because I feel like it's pretty likely I'll be shut out.

[hippyscientist]

@nka93 I totally understand that. I've put out a PSA telling everyone I will let them know when I hear, that I love them for being interested but that I really can't handle the extra pressure the constant enquiring puts on me right now. Unfortunately it doesn't seem to be holding, but every time I get asked, I try to deflect conversation to my current masters.

I'm really apprehensive for this next week. In the past some of my programs have started to notify and I have SO much on this week too. I know I'm going to be a bundle of stress. I have a research report due in, research meeting for new project, open day where I have to give them 6 hours of my time fluffing about how great my school is when it's not, all my classes and labs, tutoring, training and packing as I'm going on holiday this weekend too. I know I'll find time to make it on here and my application status pages but I'm actually pleased to be crazy busy once more.

[AP]

While I was waiting, I needed surgery. I remember waking up from anesthesia, getting an e-mail for an interview. I then focused on recovering on time for the interview. 

[gingin6789]

3 minutes ago, AP said:

While I was waiting, I needed surgery. I remember waking up from anesthesia, getting an e-mail for an interview. I then focused on recovering on time for the interview. 

WOW that's an awesome way to get the notice!! going through something painful and then BOOM, awesome news! 

I hope you feel better! I had surgery in December, and in some ways, I still feel like I'm recovering X_X

@nka93 I know what you mean about folks wanting you to stay close to home ... only one person I know has had issues with me applying across the country, expressing almost outright disapproval of me even applying there, but I'm like "You know what? I've never had the opportunity to apply ANYWHERE I want in the country. These programs are all good fits so I at least need to give it a try!" I mean, I obviously didn't say that to the person, but it's how I feel ...