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    Adelaide9216 reacted to Jenny01 in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    I am annoyed at the people in other threads and on the results page who have been wait listed for a program and are announcing that people who have been accepted should hurry up and decide. The real kicker I saw said something along the lines of: if you got in can you please turn it down if you have other offers because this school is my first choice.
    The sheer entitlement. 
    Also annoying: people who got into programs they applied to but don't want to go there (ūüôĄ), so now they are bashing the only school that accepted them, that they applied to. Moaning and groaning about having to go through a second application cycle. Why did you apply if you were going to be a snob about it? So you could add it to the list of institutions you got to turn down? Jokes on you.
    Being able to pursue a career in academia is privilege. It is not a given right. Whatever you think of yourself doesn't  allow you to feel entitled to anything. 
    Everyone who pursues a career in academia works hard. Nobody owes you anything. You are not the smartest person in the room. 
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to Anxiously Hopeful in Love, Academia and Success   
    @Adelaide9216 First things first, I am really proud of the person you are right now; independent, knowledgeable, confident and humble. I think not fitting in is what distinguishes you and will also distinguish your partner from all the other men out there whom you will definitely find in the future. Don't beat yourself for not yet finding a partner and continue to do what you love doing. I have realized after being in a relationship that self-love is so much more important than loving your significant other. Also, don't consider love and career as mutually exclusive. Keep patience and you will not have to give up on either one of them.   
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    Adelaide9216 got a reaction from ResilientDreams in The Positivity Thread   
    My proposal for a conference got accepted. Going to BC this summer, for the first time of my life!
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    Adelaide9216 got a reaction from ResilientDreams in The Positivity Thread   
    My proposal for a conference got accepted. Going to BC this summer, for the first time of my life!
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    Adelaide9216 got a reaction from ResilientDreams in The Positivity Thread   
    My proposal for a conference got accepted. Going to BC this summer, for the first time of my life!
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to Maylee in Love, Academia and Success   
    Here are two anecdotes of people I know quite personally which may help you! Different outcomes for two happy lives. 
    1. One of my previous professors, now a friend, got on the tenure track after recently getting her PhD. She had an MFA previously and was involved in activism and academia for years. Single in her thirties, she decided to adopt. Just this year, she adopted a baby, published another book, and is doing wonderfully!¬†‚̧ԳŹ ūüćľ
    2. A wonderful friend I made in my MA is a POC pursuing a¬†PhD in their¬†mid-late twenties. They're also a queer activist and didn't have a ton of success dating men or women for a long time, but¬†they just met and married the love of their life¬†‚̧ԳŹ¬†ūüéď
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to ResilientDreams in The Positivity Thread   
    I asked my professor for help with my data analysis and it turns out I actually have really cool results for my honors thesis!!
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    Adelaide9216 got a reaction from Psygeek in The Positivity Thread   
    I got an offer for the Ontario Graduate Scholarship (OGS) today! 
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    Adelaide9216 got a reaction from TwirlingBlades in The Positivity Thread   
    My thesis supervisor read my entire thesis, there are just little corrections to make but I should be good to graduate this term Yay!
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    Adelaide9216 got a reaction from perpetualalligator in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    You are not alone. I totally feel the same, but about scholarships. We're all in the same boat, the waiting is so tough. I really hope you get in. And worst case scenario, you apply next year (which will allow you to be an even stronger applicant than you are now). Good luck! 
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    Adelaide9216 got a reaction from perpetualalligator in Venting Thread- Vent about anything.   
    You are not alone. I totally feel the same, but about scholarships. We're all in the same boat, the waiting is so tough. I really hope you get in. And worst case scenario, you apply next year (which will allow you to be an even stronger applicant than you are now). Good luck! 
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    Adelaide9216 got a reaction from Moods in The Positivity Thread   
    Congrats!!!!!
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to Moods in The Positivity Thread   
    I got accepted into my top choice!!!!!!!! With a fellowship!!!!!!
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    Adelaide9216 got a reaction from pyramidstuds in First time presenting a conference paper   
    Mine was also 20 minutes. It went well, but I definitely felt like I did not have enough data to present because I was very early into my research project. I guess I would've liked to have more data to present. However, if you have something to present, even if it's not complete, don't hinder yourself from having an opportunity to present.
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to high_hopes in Admission letter was a "mistake"   
    That is very frustrating! I am sorry you have had to experience this -- waiting for admission results is stressful enough, and when there are problems or incorrect information it is much worse.
    Can you ask them when your corrected MA admissions letter will be sent?
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    Adelaide9216 got a reaction from Psygeek in The Positivity Thread   
    I submitted my master's thesis tonight. Now, one month of waiting before I know if I pass or fail. 
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to high_hopes in The Positivity Thread   
    Congratulations! I am sure you will pass!
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to TBay in Vanier 2018-2019   
    Follow your heart.  If you have gotten this far and even been nominated for Vanier and SSHRC, then you are very likely to succeed. 
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to bibliophile222 in Grad. School Supplies?   
    Awesome list! However, you left out something I think is the second most important supply behind a computer, and that is a good planner/planning system. You can go electronic or physical as suits your personality, but make sure you have one! I never used one until I entered grad school, but now I would be utterly and hopelessly lost without it.
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to magnegresswrites in Grad. School Supplies?   
    After reading through all 23 pages, I think I've managed to compile the most salient (at least for me) and still relevant pieces of advice as far as grad school supplies 
    Laptop - While most people have a laptop, it was recommended by several people that folks in a new laptop (unless yours is less than two years old) and make sure you get an extended warranty (one that will hopefully last the entirety of your program).  Note: look into funding opportunities for laptops within your department. Some will finance a new laptop for incoming grad students!  Desk - L-shaped came highly recommended, given the extra space. While i love my little desk, I may invest in a larger one by year 2.  Chair (Desk) - Investing in a good chair was stressed many times. You will likely be spending many hours hunched over a desk. get one that will be comfortable for your back, but won't put you to sleep.  Chair (Reading) - a separate reading chair was recommended for those hours upon hours where you'll be reading. a comfortable chair or couch was recommended. Printer - there was some debate regarding the pros/cons of a printer. In an increasingly digital age, I don't think a printer is completely necessary. ESPECIALLY because so many universities have printers available and printing costs included within stipends. But this will depend on the person Scanner OR File Cabinet - One person had recommended getting a file cabinet and regularly organizing it so as not to fall behind (if you are someone who likes having physical copies of everything, then go for this option). HOWEVER, someone then chimed in to say screw a file cabinet. just get a scanner. and i thought that was an excellent idea! just scan everything you need and chuck the physical copies (unless its like your birth certificate or something)  Coffee - Coffee maker, coffee carafe (to keep it warm for those days of marathon working), french press. you get the idea. ALTERNATIVE: electric kettle for tea drinkers  Large Water Bottle - lets be sustainable folks!  Snacks - for those long days  Wall Calendar  Dry Erase Board  Noise Cancelling Headphones  External Hard Drive Dongles - actually didn't see folks write about this, so I'm adding it! Dongles/adapters are constantly changing based on your device. Get the one that is specific to your computer to HDMI and VGA, and you should be set for most campus systems!  Paper shredder - unless your campus has a shredding removal service like my current one has. I'd say take advantage of that Travel - Luggage, toiletry bag, international travel adapter/converter, etc. You will presumably be traveling a bunch! Get the right travel accessories if you can Desk accessories - post its, highlighters, pens Notebooks - it seems like everyone has been unanimously pro-moleskine notebooks on here. mmmm I'm not! What *EYE* recommend is going to your local art supply store, and buying sketchbooks from there. They are usually so much cheaper. And most art stores have artist and student memberships available, so you can get major discounts. I just showed a sale and got all my notebooks and pens for less than $30. Just my opinion  Software - Just some of the software that came highly recommended and that I felt like was still relevant today: Evernote. Zotero. Scrivener. CamScanner. Nuance. iStudiez  Most of this is hella obvious. But some of these I hadn't even considered! And its nice to think about these things early so you have enough time to save up or search the internet for deals. I curated an Amazon wishlist based on the information i listed above. Let me know if you'd like me to post it here and make public! 
    And remember: 90% (if not all) of this is OPTIONAL. Let's not make academia seem more inaccessible than it already is. You will excel regardless of whether or not you have these things.  There's always borrowing. lending programs through your university. free services through your libraries. There are options! 
    Hope this is helpful to those reading this post 8 years later! It was certainly helpful for me. Aside from curating a great list of things i want, it also helped distract me from decisions this week ://////
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to Anama in The Silent Toxic Stress of Being a Minority in Academia   
    I'm cheering for you! 
    Also let's just ignore that person who came here to tell a woman who has found the courage to share something so vulnerable that she should just get over it. OP never let yourself be discouraged by such terrible and frustrated people. You will meet some of these along the way. I'm not American but I work on epistemological racism and I see so very well how the US can be such a toxic place for non white people to thrive. It is exhausting I know, I know. But you have come this far, don't beat yourself up, you will do go one way or another. Stay strong and soft. You don't have to be unbreakable either. 
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to Ternwild in The Silent Toxic Stress of Being a Minority in Academia   
    Being told this isn't because you're black or a woman.  Don't be so narcissistic.  Learning to fail and being able to stand back up and brush yourself off is life advice that EVERYONE needs to live by.  You need to learn how to fail and understand that failing doesn't make you a failure.  There's a difference.  How did you learn to walk?  You failed and literally got back up and brushed yourself off.  Only, now, you don't have your parents there to pick you up.  Now, when you fail, you need to pick yourself up.  Friends and family surrounding you, encouraging you, is important to making that possible, but you are still the one who needs to do it.  Sure, every time I have been rejected over the last three years, I could have curled into a ball, called myself a failure, and never tried again.  That option is entirely available to you and there are times I've certainly considered doing the same thing.  But the mind set of "I've succeeded at everything I've done up til now" has only diluded you into thinking you're some unstoppable force--none of use are.  Now that it looks like you've hit a small obstacle, you have only just realised that you aren't so "unstoppable" afterall.  That fact is, that's okay!  It's okay to fail. 
    We, as humans, will all be confronted with the limits of our own success, at some point in our life.  What makes a difference between the strong among us and those who aren't is whether we accept our failure, learn from it, and work hard to push ourselves beyond our limits.  Is the struggle harder for some than others?  Yes.  Do some have to work harder to get to places that come so easily for others?  Yep.  Do some people have a list of things trying to keep them from succeeding, that are entirely out of their control (societal, financial, etc.)?  Absolutely.  The question you, and everyone here, have to ask yourself is: Am I okay with taking the loss and moving on?  Or do I want to prove to myself I can push myself to recover from this and succeed through perserverance.  No matter what decision you choose, you're welcome to it.  But don't blame people who encourage you to be stronger just because you don't think you can or don't think they understand how hard it will be.  You may not take value in what I have to say because I don't know what it's like to grow up as a black woman in a society that severely marginalises against you.  That's fine.  But it doesn't make what I say any less valid as advice for dealing with failure.  Telling you it is okay to fail and try again, is not invalidating the struggle you go through to do that.  It's acknowledging that the journey will not be easy, but we have faith you have the strength to do it--even if you don't think you do. 
    If you take nothing away from this, at least take this with you:  The only difference between failing and being a failure, is your perception.
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    Adelaide9216 got a reaction from immunity in Vanier 2018-2019   
    Grrrrrrrr, this is so long.
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    Adelaide9216 reacted to OBforme in The Silent Toxic Stress of Being a Minority in Academia   
    I want to say I'm happy to have found this thread because I felt so alone during this whole process too. It is incredibly hard to explain to anyone in my personal life what this means, how it feels to process rejection after rejection, and how even though I have received feedback from some of the most well-regarded professors in my desired field of study, who are also Black women, I feel like an utter failure. I have always been successful at any major challenge I pursued. Now all I feel is doubt about my abilities and how could I possibly be "good enough" next cycle if I somehow found the nerve to try again.
    And honestly, I am so tired of anyone telling Black women to be resilient. We are not made of stone. How much of our lives must we commit to always being told to push through, and dust yourself off and try again? That crap is exhausting when you're not, nor ever will be, at an even playing field. For those who don't feel they've ever had to face such experiences as people of color, kudos to you - but that isn't the reality for a majority of people of color. If it were there would be more people of color, especially Black and Latino in academe. 
    @JustCallMeDoc, you are heard and I see you on this bumpy journey. I do hope it leads you to a point where you feel whole and affirmed in your choices.
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