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  1. Psyhopeful
    You’re not required to commit to a school until April 15th, so you could be waiting until after that date depending on your place on the list and when those offered admission decide.
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    Thank you! I’ve had my mom to help, so it hasn’t been that hard. If I go to the expensive school though she probably wouldn’t be able to afford to come. Not sure. To make matters worse, my POI at the expensive school just emailed to say how much they would love for me to come there. I really hope I can figure out a way to make it all work for the best, whatever the best is!
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    I actually have a fellowship at the other school I’m visiting too. It’s in a great location, and much less expensive. Comparatively the fellowship is better because of the cost of living there. I would be able to buy a house there. It was my top choice prior to visiting the expensive school. I still have to meet everyone, I might love it too, I know, but... My POI at the expensive school is very interested in working with me, so much so that they asked me to give them a chance to compete if the fellowship they offer (still waiting on the details) doesn’t measure up. It feels really good to be so wanted, and I think I could do great there, I just don’t know if it’s possible for them to do enough to help me have a good quality of life there. I have to think about my child’s needs and quality of life too.
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    I wish it was that simple, but I’m a single mom of a 3 year old. Roommates aren’t an option for us at this point. They have family housing but it’s not great and everything there is expensive.
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    I fell in love with a program, was told I’ll be getting a fellowship, and I just don’t see how I can make it work. The location is insanely expensive. But I love it and they really want me and I’m afraid my next visit to a great school that’s in an affordable location won’t measure up and I’ll just be unhappy the whole time I’m there.
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    Did they mention anything about finding work on campus that provides tuition remission? I know this can be an option at some schools. I would start looking into job opportunities at the school that might provide this, or even a TA ship in another department since you have experience teaching.
  7. Psyhopeful
    Do you mean a thread just for people to say where they are going? We have an applications thread in the Communication section of the forum where we have been talking about our acceptances and funding, etc. you should come join us! It’s here: https://forum.thegradcafe.com/topic/110429-2019-applications-thread/
  8. Psyhopeful
    I think the fellowship you have sounds amazing, particularly given how it is such an important part of your research. Plus just in general, a fellowship can make a huge difference on your school experience. Does UNC have linguistics at all? Something where you could at least dip your toe in and get some more experience? I think the important thing to remember is that once you’re in, a whole world of collaboration opens up for you. Both in and out of your own school. Definitely look into your options as far as working with others. Many schools actually require you to have an outside person on your committee. Like others have said, UNC is a sure thing and a strong program in terms of your interest. Plus the fellowship. I wouldn’t toss that unless it just really won’t work for you, or you visit and absolutely hate it.
  9. Psyhopeful
    Congrats! I’ve been hoping you got in!
  10. Psyhopeful
    What imonfire98 said. Don’t worry, I would never post a name or any other identifiers! I’m just traveling all day and really good at google.
  11. Psyhopeful
    I’m traveling all day to an interview weekend. (Literally, 3 flights and 12 hours.) I will take a look in exchange for a poem!
  12. Psyhopeful
    On my way to my interview weekend at UCSB! Waiting for the first of the three flights and 12 hours of travel they booked for me. Pray for me, lol.
  13. Psyhopeful
    ? so weird that he has a Pinterest so easily linked to himself with that content. Okay, google sleuthing is my superpower and I found his trove. Oh my! He should really take his name off, lol
  14. Psyhopeful
    I say always trust your gut, but also, take a moment to sit with it and try to figure out why you’re feeling what you’re feeling. See if you can put your finger on what was off about the vibe. Like, really examine that. You might find that it was something small or unrelated or that reminded you of something negative, or it could be a real issue that once you look at it, you know that you don’t want to spend five years with it. I think the fact that you found the super hero erotica and that’s not the place that is giving you bad vibes says a lot! I am in a somewhat similar situation so far, but I have a kid, so I feel a bit like it’d be irresponsible of me to take the program with less money. I haven’t visited them yet though, so I won’t know for sure how I feel until then. I think if you’re in a position where you can handle taking less then don’t let that stop you. I personally choose to believe that in the end it’s the work that you do that matters most, not where you do it, so if you have the opportunity to do good work that you love, do it.
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    That is really terrible! Is this a school that tends to get a lot of local or regional students? I can’t imagine why they would give such short notice to people who need to fly in. I hope that they can make accommodations for you with Skype interviews, if not during the weekend, then at some time in between. Honestly though, this would make me concerned about the program. I know not every school can afford to fly students in, but they should at least give you time to make arrangements, not just financial, but for the rest of your life too. Is the program funded? It’s really horrible to make you feel like you need to spend that kind of money just to get admitted. I would make it clear to them that the school is your top choice, but you just can’t afford to come on such short notice and that you would still really like the chance to interview. I’m sorry this is happening. This whole process is so stressful!
  16. Psyhopeful
    Oh man, I feel this so much. I am older (30+) and single and four years ago, I decided, fuck it, I want to be a mom, so I started the process to become a single mom by choice. I figured I had sealed my fate then, and would be alone forever, but still secretly had some hope. And then I decided to go back to school and work toward getting my PhD. So now that I’m a single mom and about to enroll in at least five more years of intense school work, I am starting to feel some despair at the idea that I am really really going to be alone forever. I mean the only people I will meet in my dating age range are professors who I am not allowed to date even if I didn’t think that was a very bad idea. So yeah. I’m proud of myself, proud of the choice I made to give my son and I a better life, and also sad that that better life will not include any sort of romance, but oh well. What can you do? I should add that I’m also a WOC most likely moving to a very white area, so yeah, play the tiny violin for me, lol.
  17. Psyhopeful
    Okay, that’s very different than not being TT. I don’t think that’s bad thing. My current mentor says they can be good because they tend to be very motivated to publish, up on current methods, and potentially more open minded. Although I suppose they might also feel more stress at trying to reach tenure, but I think some of that probably depends on the environment of the department. My current school and department is very supportive and gives their untenured faculty first crack at funding when taking on new students so that they can get tenure.
  18. Psyhopeful
    Do you mean they’re not yet tenured? Or they’re really not on the tenure track? I thought only TT professors could take on students?
  19. Psyhopeful
    Same! I can’t do these pointless homework assignments when I’m constantly refreshing tgc. I want to lock in a school so I can stop thinking about it and study!
  20. Psyhopeful
    Good luck!
  21. Psyhopeful
    My current mentor, who is somewhere in the middle, tenured but still pretty young says new POIs can be good because they are motivated to publish and are up in the latest research. He cautioned me against POIs that have been around a very long time because he said sometimes they don’t keep up or aren’t interested in new things particularly when it comes to the data analysis side of the research. So, if the new person seems on top of things and is a good fit, I might give hem a shot, although I’d probably want someone who had at least had a year under their belt so that you’re not both figuring out how things work at the school at the same time.
  22. Psyhopeful
    I had a similar experience with my POI at one of my top choices. I loved everyone else I met, but had similar misgivings about my POI - they actually grilled me on where else I applied and then when I reluctantly named a few places, told me why those were no good! It was disappointing, but ultimately it was for the best. Sorry that it went that way for you!
  23. Psyhopeful
    Depending on how you’re looking at this site, on the top of the page on a computer, click on “results”. If you’re on a phone or tablet, look to the three little lines for the menu drop down on the right, click that, and then click “results”.
  24. Psyhopeful
    I think it really depends on what aspect of media studies you’re interested in. I have a psychology and anthropology degree, but am also a film school grad. I’m interested in media effects on children, race, identity, and underrepresentation and have been accepted into communication programs with a media psychology focus. Depending on your interests, communication, English, sociology, psychology, history, are all good backgrounds. Research experience is also really helpful. I think a really defined interest is also important, the more clear you are on what your research interest and approach is, the better chance you have if you come from an area that doesn’t tie so closely to media studies. That and finding a POI who is currently researching what you’re interested in.
  25. Psyhopeful
    I think if you’re really sure, then you can skip going, but I’m personally the type that wants to see everything just to be sure. Especially since I didn’t interview at either of the schools I’m having prospective weekends at. One offer is way better, but having visited a school I thought I would love and getting a not so great vibe from my potential POI, I just want to experience the school and see how I really feel about each, before I decide. If I were you, I would make sure that you can continue to teach before saying no to Rutgers. A lot of schools have very specific plans for first years and that might not work with your schedule. Also, congrats on the baby!
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