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engphiledu last won the day on March 2 2014

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About engphiledu

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    Tennessee, United States
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    2017 Fall
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    English Literature (PhD)

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  1. I'm not sure if someone already asked you this, but how is Nebraska asking you for a decision that early? Also, congrats! I know it makes things more complicated, but excellent news regardless!
  2. Once you start. . . it's difficult to go back.
  3. Ooo. . . that is a nice color! *adds to shopping cart* We'll have to compare FP notes!
  4. Gah, I hate the favorite question! I just love all my pens and inks for different reasons, so I hate to say I can't answer your question. But, as of right now, I'm currently grading with a Pilot VP inked with Diamine Merlot, a Platinum 3776 Bourgogne inked with Iroshizuku Ino-Ha (Rice Ear), and a Sheaffer 100 with Lamy Turquoise. My husband and I both collect and restore, so we've always got various pens on us. I haven't gone into the Visconti line yet! (I've been scared to, honestly, because I'm afraid I'll like their pens too much and want more expensive models...). What J. Herbin ink are you using? I love using the Bleu Ocean with my juicy nibs, but the gold flakes are a pain to clean out of some feeds.
  5. And, I love this topic. I'm a fountain pen user in all things (grading, note-taking, journaling, etc.). When it comes to taking notes on texts, I can't bring myself to write in books. But, I will print off an article and annotate the heck out of it. Other than that, I take notes in journals as I read, and I'm one of those weirdos who takes almost verbatim notes in class - I write very fast (and not at all legibly by anyone but me). I'm also looking forward to the summer when I can tap back into Scrivener. I started using it a bit last semester, and it's been so great for plotting out and composing larger writing projects. I highly recommend it (and you can try it out for free).
  6. It looks like the results page may be back up and running! It would be great for anyone who received results today to post them! So happy for those who received good news today!
  7. I can see the acceptances and rejections still just by searching "English" and scrolling down.
  8. There have been several on here who have mentioned the importance of visiting. It puts a face to a name, so to speak, and especially if you're having difficulty deciding because they all have different positives (faculty vs. rankings/reputation vs. location, etc.), it should really help contextualize those attributes. Also, talk to your advisors/faculty/recommenders! That's what I'll be doing this week, and what better source than to ask those who only want to see you succeed? Ultimately, it's up to you to do the "soul searching," but tap into all of the valuable resources you have available. Yay for Monday happiness!
  9. Congrats! I'm out of upvotes, but excellent Monday news! As for the conflict between choosing schools. . . just keep in mind, you don't have to make a decision until April. So, take that time to really assess (and visit a few places!) It's what I have to keep telling myself as well!
  10. Here's hoping this thread is overflowing with good news this week! Best of luck to everyone!
  11. Your family sounds very similar! I do want to say, I love my husband's family dearly. Just because we've chosen a different path than what they'd like doesn't make them (or us) bad people. It is difficult for them to understand our reasoning - who doesn't want to move 50 feet up the road from where generations of the family have lived, settle down, have six or seven kids, and live a simple life? There are endearing and wonderful qualities, and I am thankful to have joined a family who is quite loving towards us both, even when we disagree. I think what is somewhat disheartening is that I know, regardless of our success, they will always think we would have been better off with their plan. Even if I were to publish books, get tenure, work at the most prestigious university, etc, they will still ask why we didn't choose to work at the local high school instead or help on the farm. It's not that I don't think these are noble jobs, and we need good people who are committed to the work, but to devalue the choices we make instead is where I draw a line. In other words, I do think we make them proud, but they would be more proud if we didn't choose this path. I hope you have great success, even if it's difficult knowing there is somewhat of a divide now between life at home and life with your friends/colleagues in academia. I know it can be tough, and we've found that the best cure is mostly to try and spend as much time with the family as we can, and try to explain our goals to them, even if it's difficult.
  12. Not to echo too much of what's already been said, but I just want to also say that college/graduate school are the best places to find people. We have this opportunity which many of our parents and their parents didn't have - to be surrounded by fellow adults, with similar interests and similar aspirations. I know the only reason why my mom and dad got together was because of some extracurricular softball tournament for working adults - not college/grad. school. And, if they hadn't chosen to spend their time after work on this softball team, they never would have met, and they would have probably been restricted to either meeting someone through work, though friends, etc. Many of my friends in college/grad. school met their partners while in school, and they are happier because there's this greater sense of understanding concerning what we as academics "do," that many others have some difficulty understanding. Not to say that school is the only place where you'll be able to find someone, of course, but don't give up hope just yet! Additionally, some of the cutest professor couples I have had the honor of knowing met each other and got married after they were hired on at the same university. Many were in their late 30s and 40s, if not older. Again, I think people in academia have a good understanding of the time it takes to get a PhD, just like any other profession which requires many more years of education post-BA.
  13. I've never been asked this by non-family (thankfully, or as @Bibica said, old-lady raptor claws might have been the result), but I do have a semi-old school family, especially on my husband's side, who expected us to pop out babies as soon as we were married. When we informed them that it would be at least another five years before we would even consider having children, you would have thought I went out to their farm and shot every single cow they own. Somehow in five years we'll have to spring the real truth on them - that being, that we really don't ever intend to have kids. They already see me as a "city" girl who has too many opinions, doesn't know her place (i.e. the kitchen/home), and is pursuing a pointless education, so telling them that their son and I have no desire to carry on the family legacy is going to be. . . interesting.
  14. I hope you have/had a good time at the Southwest PCA! I went to the Midwest PCA conference in 2013, and I thought it was a great conference to attend as a first-timer. (It was also my first conference besides those held at my undergraduate institution). I'd say some view the PCA conferences as not as academically rigorous as other conferences, but I remember having a really wonderful experience. I used it not only as a chance to get a feel for conferences, but also to present on research I might not otherwise submit.