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ShewantsthePhD101

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  1. Update: Just got accepted to FSU so I am officially breathing again.
  2. Got my acceptance to FSU today! ...there's an official place to record that here, isn't there?
  3. PhDs are HARD. I'll tell you what every professor I know has said of getting a PhD: "If you have any inclination to do anything else with your life - do that instead". Why? They're time consuming. And expensive. And even if you enjoy what you're studying... they're relatively joyless. If you don't need a PhD to do what you want to do, I'd suggest you forego it.
  4. If they're making fun of you and you're spending all of your time judging them it doesn't sound like a continued relationship beyond what is necessary is good for either of you.
  5. There's a quote from Louis C.K. that I think is applicable here: “The only time you look in your neighbor's bowl is to make sure that they have enough. You don't look in your neighbor's bowl to see if you have as much as them.” My first year of grad school I was getting $3000 less in aid per quarter than everyone else in my cohort because I screwed up my FAFSA. I was broke. Constantly. So I rarely went out. Everyone else also complained of being broke but went out much more frequently. At the time I didn't know about our financial discrepancies. I just assumed they were eating fast food less frequently than I was and therefore had more discretionary spending for bigger things. You're being fairly uncharitable towards those you are in school with. And not everyone's versions of struggling are the same. Playing a pain comparison game and denying them the right to express their own frustration with finances because they *seem* to be better off than you isn't going to win you any friends. You have branded them liars with bad attitudes, it seems, without really getting to know them. You have already decided what type of people they are. So yes. I'd say this is an insecurity on your own part that needs remedied. Not to be harsh... but i wouldn't want to be friends with someone in my cohort who felt as you do. Anyone who begrudges another person the good things that come their way and assume it means they don't get to have problems also isn't a person I am interested in spending my time with.
  6. 70% of your body heat is lost through the top of your head, your hands, and the bottoms of your feet. Warm socks or tights are a must. Since you're always gonna be cold (being from Cali) I'd suggest that your hat, scarf, and gloves match with your coat so that you look cute even bundled up... because chances are you will be most of the time. Layers will keep your warmer than just one thick/warm thing, and you have more mix/match options that way. If it's going to be terribly cold, I'd suggest a turtleneck (seriously makes a huge difference) and leggings on the plane. You can slip dress pants over leggings (which may help you better fit close that are now too big, as well as add warmth). I'd definitely advise against dresses as a) it can get pretty windy up north in the winter and b ) you don't want to have to watch how you're sitting all the time.
  7. I'm not sure about the School of Social Work, but my department doesn't send out notifications til end of february.
  8. He and I aren't applying for the same programs. He's not competing with me. It's absurd. It's difficult, but also kinda fun to figure out how to market your past experience. e.g. "I did abc but learned efg and decided instead to turn my focus to xyz"
  9. What's more frustrating is that he's going through it too. There's no need to be an ass. I changed disciplines between undergrad and my MA, and so OF COURSE I'm going to be less secure than those who have been doing the same thing for the last 6 years.
  10. I tried talking about my concerns about not getting in anywhere with a friend also applying for PhDs and he told me I was the equivalent of a girl who gets complimented on her outfit and points out something wrong with her hair. So, essentially, my cohort is full of jerks.
  11. Feeling nauseated. Hooray for waiting periods.

  12. Pretty sure I'm gonna vomit. I made some last minute change to my SOP that I don't feel so good about... Anybody know when religion programs usually announce?
  13. 2017: Went to Europe for the first time, got promoted to full editor at the journal I work for, started the last year of my MA 2018: Will graduate with my MA, hopefully start PhD somewhere, hopefully break out of this love life drought, etc
  14. I talked to a PhD student in my #1 program and after she looked over my SoP she said that if I don't get accepted it's not due to a lack of qualifications or fit - so that was pretty freaking encouraging.
  15. I've loved having roommates. Right after my undergrad I lived in a 6 bedroom house with 5 other people. Rent was dirt cheap. I was good friends with 2/5 and the other 3 were fine - we just didn't overlap much. It was INCREDIBLY affordable, I had a huge room with plenty of space to myself, and having people around, even if I didn't talk to them, was a comfort. We had our squabbles as all people living together will do, but overall it was a pleasant experience I'd happily repeat.
  16. I have literally done everything possible to ensure that I get in to a PhD program. I have had my SOP read by several current PhDs, my recommenders, and edited it thoroughly. I've got a 3.9 GPA out of a possible 4.0. I selected an article I had published for my writing sample. I've spent the last year and a half buffing up my cv like you wouldn't believe. I've got decent GRE scores. I've contacted people in the departments I'm applying to... and all of a sudden I am just 100% certain I'm not getting in anywhere. There are so few spots and so many applicants - does anyone else feel like "good enough" doesn't exist?
  17. I have DEFINITELY cried in front of professors. Multiple times. During my undergrad I had a prof yell at me over an assignment answer he didn't like. I cried. I went through a break-up that I couldn't handle and cried quietly in every class I shared with the guy for a week. In my MA I had a professor suggest I drop out of school, twice. And while I managed to make it through that without crying, when the professor who co-taught the class tried to make me feel better and reassure me I was doing fine, then I broke down. Bawled in his office. It was humiliating. But we're human. It shouldn't be. We should be allowed to just feel what we feel and handle it however as long as we're not harming anyone. I've never had a professor assume my tears were an attempt at manipulation.
  18. A lot of that will have to do with how you use your time during your MA to position yourself. Find conferences in your area of interest to attend. Present papers whenever and wherever you can. Publish something. Get good grades. Make good connections at the events you go to - go to mixers, get emails and actually follow up with the people you meet. You never know who can help you later on down the road. I don't think your race or location has any effect on the likelihood of acceptance at any school you'd apply to. All of this to say - it's far too early to be able to answer your question with any clarity, but if you work hard and do everything you need to do, there's no reason to think your goal is unattainable.
  19. @Fiain, it sounds like you're in a good spot. You've already got an excellent acceptance to fall back on if your top choice doesn't come through. I know this may be easier said than done, but it watching notifications of others receiving interviews is distressing, maybe try unplugging for a few days? Give yourself a chance to breath. <3 This is hard on all of us. And we all sound insane. Know that you're not alone, and it's gonna be ok. (I say this knowing someone will have to say the same things to me in a month)
  20. Is that not something we'll have? This is my first time applying for PhDs so I'm still not sure how everything works.
  21. It freaks me out a little that so many people have heard back already when I'm still filling out applications. I know we're different disciplines, but still...
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