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I am seeing someone. Someone I knew for four years. He made a love declaration to me. He had been waiting for me for four years. I said yes.
Falling in love during the pandemic was totally unexpected and not within my plans. It's not official yet and I am scared. He's scared too. But according to our closest friends, we're experiencing a beautiful story that has a lot of depth, respect and love. Something very strong and rare. 
I am going back to my hometown next week to see him again. This time as a potential lover, and not as a friend. And I am scared. Almost as if it was my first date or the first time I see him (although I've known him for four years and have seen him multiple times in the past years).
I am both happy and scared. 

Hello,
This is a bit of a personal/off-topic thread.
I've often been told that as a woman of color in graduate school, it will be harder for me to find a partner. Because the things that I represent don't fit the image that most people have of black women. And yes, I have to admit that I have been single my entire life. I am about to turn 25 in a month and I haven't been successful in my romantic life in the same way that I  am perceived to be in my professional/academic life. I have never been in a committed relationship with anyone. But I am still young, so I try to remain hopeful but as I see all of my friends getting married, engaged or having children, I would be lying if I said that I am starting to lose hope. Even if I am truly passionate about my career and the projects I am involved in, I don't want my life to be only that.
A friend of mine was telling me the other day that all the work that I do, the activism that I am involved in outside of the classroom and the media attention that I get might make it difficult for a man to approach me because I don't "fit" in. The thing is that I don't want to change the things that I am involved in because they make me happy and keep me grounded and sane. But I get these kinds of reflections from friends and adults since my teenage years. It's starting to hurt to get this feeling that I have to choose between being myself and finding a partner. I just want someone who accepts me as I am and with whom I can have interesting conversations with but it seems to be too much to ask.
Do you think that finding love is harder for people pursuing graduate studies or with graduate diplomas, especially if they are part of a minority group? Do you think the whole idea of a woman being successful makes it harder to her to find a partner?
I am happy in my life and I have never been happier but yes, sometimes, I do feel some kind of void in the sense that I fear to fail my personal life. I am able to manage that fear by trying to focus on the things that I already have in my life, and yes, I do have a lot already and I recognize that with great humility. And I try to cherish that because nothing can be taken for granted. I'm in a good place in my life and it has not always been the case. However, I'm afraid of turning into the kind of unattached woman who just works and has her career for sole purpose in her life. 
 

I am seeing someone. Someone I knew for four years. He made a love declaration to me. He had been waiting for me for four years. I said yes.
Falling in love during the pandemic was totally unexpected and not within my plans. It's not official yet and I am scared. He's scared too. But according to our closest friends, we're experiencing a beautiful story that has a lot of depth, respect and love. Something very strong and rare. 
I am going back to my hometown next week to see him again. This time as a potential lover, and not as a friend. And I am scared. Almost as if it was my first date or the first time I see him (although I've known him for four years and have seen him multiple times in the past years).
I am both happy and scared. 

Hello,
This is a bit of a personal/off-topic thread.
I've often been told that as a woman of color in graduate school, it will be harder for me to find a partner. Because the things that I represent don't fit the image that most people have of black women. And yes, I have to admit that I have been single my entire life. I am about to turn 25 in a month and I haven't been successful in my romantic life in the same way that I  am perceived to be in my professional/academic life. I have never been in a committed relationship with anyone. But I am still young, so I try to remain hopeful but as I see all of my friends getting married, engaged or having children, I would be lying if I said that I am starting to lose hope. Even if I am truly passionate about my career and the projects I am involved in, I don't want my life to be only that.
A friend of mine was telling me the other day that all the work that I do, the activism that I am involved in outside of the classroom and the media attention that I get might make it difficult for a man to approach me because I don't "fit" in. The thing is that I don't want to change the things that I am involved in because they make me happy and keep me grounded and sane. But I get these kinds of reflections from friends and adults since my teenage years. It's starting to hurt to get this feeling that I have to choose between being myself and finding a partner. I just want someone who accepts me as I am and with whom I can have interesting conversations with but it seems to be too much to ask.
Do you think that finding love is harder for people pursuing graduate studies or with graduate diplomas, especially if they are part of a minority group? Do you think the whole idea of a woman being successful makes it harder to her to find a partner?
I am happy in my life and I have never been happier but yes, sometimes, I do feel some kind of void in the sense that I fear to fail my personal life. I am able to manage that fear by trying to focus on the things that I already have in my life, and yes, I do have a lot already and I recognize that with great humility. And I try to cherish that because nothing can be taken for granted. I'm in a good place in my life and it has not always been the case. However, I'm afraid of turning into the kind of unattached woman who just works and has her career for sole purpose in her life. 
 

Tired of being single. I cried again.
I also stopped praying and meditating these last couple of days, maybe I should get back at it because it helped me to let go of my relationship status for a couple of weeks when I began. I was surprised by the change. But I don't feel the strength to meditate and pray, I just want to cry. 

Thanks will do!

They responded back. They apologized for the delay, but will review my paper by April now ? Wow it's quite long. I have to get used to this.

I taught while prepping for comps. I did not do a good job teaching, and I didn't do a good job prepping for comps. I don't recommend the experience.

Hopefully we don't have that guy in office by the end of this year so this will be a non-issue by next year tbh.

YOu'll be a non-immigrant (like J1 visa), so you are a non-immigrant. Immigrant announcement will therefore no apply to you.

1) Immigration orders do not affect (or should not) decision-making. Most AdComms are not following the news on immigration that closely.
2) The immigration tweet and subsequent clarifications affect applications for residency and citizenship, not temporary visas.
3) However, as @joysii mentioned, international students cannot have visa issued because centers are closed worldwide. That has nothing to do with this announcement, visa services were suspended world wide. 
4) Most importantly, this is not a legal forum and should ALWAYS, ALWAYS check with the office of international students at your institution for up-to-date information on your particular cases. 

It sounds like your mind is already pretty  made up, but for what its worth, I'm currently in comps and teaching at the same time and I do not feel overburdened. I think you just have to be merciless with your scheduling: I have to devote more hours to readings than I do to the course, but I usually "work 9 hour days" - so the first 4 are dedicated to the course, lunch break, final 4.5 are for comps. Rinse and repeat.
Teaching experience is valuable and not always easy to come by, at least at my institution. I'm willing to give up some study time for the chance. YMMV, good luck!

I think it depends how this could be interpreted. It may look like you do not seem to know where you're going, why you're doing the things you're doing on a resume with too many degrees. BUT, if they tend to complement one another and there's some type of link between all these degrees, this can look as an asset.
Just my two cents. But at the end of the day, you do what you want depending on what your career goals are

Got another A+ as a final grade for my second course !!! 

I think just saying thank you and that you're grateful for this opportunity is fine. And that you're looking forward to working with them.
It's more than enough in my opinion. Don't overthink it ? (easier said than done, but truthfully, I think it's fine!)

@jujubea, thanks for checking in.
I finished task 3. I've submitted my reading lists to my committee for approval, and have begun reading and annotating two articles and am halfway through one book already.
In terms of the book review, I decided to not work on it this week and to postpone it to the end of the month.
For the book chapter, I am confident I can finish it for Friday. 
 
Congrats to you as well for your progress!

I got an A+ on my final paper for one of the courses I took this Winter. The prof even invited me to share my research experience in a future semester to the next cohort. Really happy, this was one of the papers I was most worried about (worth almost half my grade for this class!)

Got another A+ as a final grade for my second course !!! 

Don’t think too much into it. Just thank you and looking forward to working together 

I personally feel that a 'thank you and look forward to working with you' mail is more than enough.
I can totally relate to where you are coming from. When I valued something too much, I would also spend a lot of time trying to come up with something really nice, but overtime I have realized that a simple email with no extra information is really the best response in such situations.  

Tired of being single. I cried again.
I also stopped praying and meditating these last couple of days, maybe I should get back at it because it helped me to let go of my relationship status for a couple of weeks when I began. I was surprised by the change. But I don't feel the strength to meditate and pray, I just want to cry. 

This week's projects are (deadline: May 15th, 2020):
- Complete the writing of book chapter for anthology (1500-2000 words) by May 15th, 2020 (in progress)
Complete the writing of the chapter in my mothertongue (approx. 2 hours) Translate chapter to English (1 hour) Proofread chapter in Grammarly (30 minutes) Send bio to editor (5 minutes) Approximately : 3.5hours for this task. 
- Complete the writing of book review for journal by May 30th, 2020 (in progress)
Re-read guidelines for submission (10 minutes) Re-skim through the table of contents (10 minutes) Write a first draft of 500 words (two paragraphs per chapter, and cut extra words afterwards) (1 hour) Approximately: 1.5hour for this task 
- Comprehensive Exam - finalize questions and reading lists by May 30th, 2020 (in progress)
Create a calendar for readings (books and articles, try to alternate between books and articles) (1.5 hours) Clean-up my Zotero library (2 hours) Approximately: 3.5 hours for this task 
 
 
 
 

Wooo! Congrats!

Received another offer to be published in a book chapter!!! 

I got a CGS-D with a 14/20. Im in Poli Sci, so not sure what committee that puts me in. I didn't even get forwarded by my institution for Vanier, and had a very similar proposal. So much of this makes no sense.