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trytostay last won the day on April 10

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About trytostay

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    2019 Fall
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    PhD English

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  1. trytostay

    2019 Applicants

    I'm probably going to sign off on GradCafe for the foreseeable future! This place was incredibly helpful to me throughout this process, but I think I'm going to dedicate the rest of spring/summer to just reading, relaxing, and trying to prepare myself for the next 6+ years. (Also I should start learning French.) I do plan to check back in periodically (plus I'm sure I'll have questions or see a discussion I'd like to chime in on), but if any future applicants look back through this thread and have questions about applications/programs/etc, feel free to PM me! Hopefully I will check in frequently enough to see it and respond. I'm not sure how helpful my advice may be, but I thought I'd put that offer out there. Over the past few months, I've become really upset with the admission process and the way it makes applicants question their worth as scholars... I know my ass was saved a few times by people who were kind enough to sit down and give me pointers, so I'm happy to do that as much as I can for anyone else. I'm really proud of the group we had here this year. I'm not sure if this is common or not, but I was pleasantly surprised by the support we gave each other, and the genuine happiness we felt for others success even in the midst of our own "failures" (yuck, that's definitely not the right word). I'm really hoping this is representative of graduate students on a larger scale, but I guess I'll have to wait until the fall to find out more about that. Thanks for everything guys!! Hope to see you around.
  2. To anyone on NYU's waitlist: I've heard that a greater number of students accepted their initial offer than expected, so they likely won't be using the waitlist. Just wanted to give you guys a heads up about that, given the approaching deadline and the need to make final decisions.
  3. That’s awesome! I know they only had an incoming class of FIVE (!!!) this year. Wowza.
  4. trytostay

    Turned Down Offers Thread

    Turned down NYU! Hope it helps someone.
  5. Officially starting at Columbia in the fall!
  6. trytostay

    2019 Acceptances

  7. For me, having that full year off was crucial. I didn't feel rushed in getting my materials together, and was able to dedicate much of the fall/early winter to nothing but my application. I don't think I would've had as strong of an application if I had attempted to rush it, or if my attention was hindered by school work. Also, it was an incredibly peaceful year of self reflection. Having time away from school allowed me to reflect on what it truly was that I wanted to study, and reaffirmed to me that going back to school was the right decision.
  8. I currently live in NYC! Whenever someone talks to me about the cost of NYC, I always like to point out that it's the most populous city in America for a reason! Millions of people live here every day, and not all of them are making above 50k. It's VERY possible to live here. The difference between NYC and other cities is that your primary expense will be rent and you will almost assuredly not have the luxury of living alone. However, it isn't this completely unlivable place. It simply requires you to adjust your way of life if you want to reside here: living with roommates, having a long commute...AKA a 3 bedroom apartment in Brooklyn with two other people, essentially. It's doable. It just might not be everyone's idea of fun or how you want to spend the next 6 years. NYU's stipend is very livable in my opinion. Columbia's stipend is significantly less than NYU's, and I'd also consider it livable.
  9. @FiguresIII congratulations! What an exciting time
  10. trytostay

    2019 Applicants

    Ohhh okay. I was worried that was going to make other Columbia waitlisted people feel anxious so I just wanted to clarify that lol. Now that makes sense! Thank you!
  11. trytostay

    2019 Applicants

    Hey, how did you confirm that number? I have been told personally by Columbia faculty that it’s very rare for them to not use *anyone* from the waitlist. I know it has happened, but when I was still in limbo with them, I was told it’s “very uncommon” and that it would be “essentially unprecedented” (direct quote) for at least one waitlisted person to not be made an offer. On another note, I was accepted off Columbia’s waitlist and given an offer! So I know there is waitlist movement happening, but it’s extremely slow.
  12. trytostay

    Turned Down Offers Thread

    Declined UVA. Welp. That sucked.
  13. It’s a mix. You’ll be fine in whatever you wear, as long as it isn’t sweats or an evening gown.
  14. trytostay

    2019 Acceptances

    Ignore this sorry wrong thread
  15. I think NYU is a phenomenal program. I mean, I’m obviously heavily considered getting my PhD there! I think it’s very competitive and selective. However, the fact of the matter is I’m just not convinced an unfunded MA from anywhere is worth it. I think NYU’s MA would be moreso worth it than, say, Chicago’s MAPH, because at least it’s an MA in English. But I think the general idea is that an MA from a prestigious program will make you a better PhD applicant and I just don’t agree with that. I think taking another year, or even another two years, to do independent research and refine your interests and scholarship is more helpful. I don’t personally think people are getting turned down from places because they don’t have their MA. I think people are getting turned down because they didn’t do proper research into “fit,” they haven’t sold themselves as strong PhD candidates, or other bonkers and random and subjective reasons we’ll never be able to come up with. With that said, I don’t think getting an MA would solve any of those things. This field is not worth going into debt over. There are too many uncertainties and there is no stability for anyone. If you’ve been offered a spot in NYU’s MA, I think you can take that as a sign that you’re on the right path, you might just need some extra time to figure things out. And that’s okay! But don’t confuse that with thinking you aren’t good enough and you need to go five figures in debt to make yourself better. That’s just not true and I feel angry that so many institutions are banking on young applicants feeling this way.

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