Halek Posted August 25, 2018 Share Posted August 25, 2018 I wish that I had a support system here. I'm pretty sure I have social anxiety and having no one at all here to lean on is making it really hard. I'm more worried about being alone here for 6 years than I am about course work or research. MettaSutta and XVIIA 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MettaSutta Posted August 30, 2018 Share Posted August 30, 2018 On 8/25/2018 at 1:08 PM, Halek said: I wish that I had a support system here. I'm pretty sure I have social anxiety and having no one at all here to lean on is making it really hard. I'm more worried about being alone here for 6 years than I am about course work or research. Doesn't your university have a free counseling center? You don't have to go through this alone. (I have horrid social phobia myself and have availed myself of therapists, psychiatrists, and support groups). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carly Rae Jepsen Posted August 31, 2018 Share Posted August 31, 2018 On 8/19/2018 at 8:13 PM, Carly Rae Jepsen said: So I moved and I am happy of course but the first few days are tough because I am lonely in a mostly empty apartment. I hooked up with a guy last night too and it was awful lol. Why am I such an awkward person? Page 100 of grown ups complaining about their lives. Yayyy! Oh no, I swear this was in page 100. Someone deleted their posts ? Anyway so the first week went okay I guess. I'm bad at talking to people but I seem to get along with some students. Le sigh. Nothing good came out of the bolded. Be safe everybody. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ResilientDreams Posted September 1, 2018 Share Posted September 1, 2018 Writing my statement of purpose is a lot harder than I thought it was going to be. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halek Posted September 1, 2018 Share Posted September 1, 2018 On 8/30/2018 at 8:49 AM, Bodhicaryavatara said: Doesn't your university have a free counseling center? You don't have to go through this alone. (I have horrid social phobia myself and have availed myself of therapists, psychiatrists, and support groups). I'm currently signed up for a group.....but I'm the first one to sign up. So who knows when it'll start. Also, there are rules against making friends in the group. Which makes sense. But I feel like I'm grasping at straws. Everyone keeps saying "just wait it'll happen". But I've lived in so many places where I've been there half a year and still haven't been close to anyone and I'm so scared of that happening again. Adelaide9216, jmillar and MettaSutta 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adelaide9216 Posted September 2, 2018 Share Posted September 2, 2018 20 hours ago, Halek said: I'm currently signed up for a group.....but I'm the first one to sign up. So who knows when it'll start. Also, there are rules against making friends in the group. Which makes sense. But I feel like I'm grasping at straws. Everyone keeps saying "just wait it'll happen". But I've lived in so many places where I've been there half a year and still haven't been close to anyone and I'm so scared of that happening again. ❤️ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carly Rae Jepsen Posted September 4, 2018 Share Posted September 4, 2018 he did not reply to my text ? Adelaide9216 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
placeinspace Posted September 4, 2018 Share Posted September 4, 2018 Pivoting a bit but I really need to vent. I've spent hundreds of dollars on tutors and spent literally months of my life GRE studying and I barely got my math score up 6 points according to the ETS test. I'm just super disheartened and very upset that my lack of math skills will ruin my chances at top English programs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adelaide9216 Posted September 4, 2018 Share Posted September 4, 2018 I came back from Europe yesterday and I'm exhausted. I have to TA tomorrow morning.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halek Posted September 6, 2018 Share Posted September 6, 2018 I really need to find something that fills my Wednesday nights. All the friends two states away get together and I can't help but feel like I'm disappearing or something. I did try out a dnd group here. It was a pretty horrible fit. I'm in a rural area and it looks like that might be the only group looking for players here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Butterfly_effect Posted September 6, 2018 Share Posted September 6, 2018 I just read an article directed at young scientists that ends with: Does science feel like a job, or is it the case that vocation matches avocation, such that you can’t wait to get to the lab, such that it does not feel like work at all? If so, nothing can stop you and may you indeed “stay, forever young.” Does anyone actually feel that way? I think the idea that grad school doesn't or shouldn't feel like work is ludicrous... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sigaba Posted September 6, 2018 Share Posted September 6, 2018 50 minutes ago, Butterfly_effect said: I just read an article directed at young scientists that ends with: Does science feel like a job, or is it the case that vocation matches avocation, such that you can’t wait to get to the lab, such that it does not feel like work at all? If so, nothing can stop you and may you indeed “stay, forever young.” Does anyone actually feel that way? I think the idea that grad school doesn't or shouldn't feel like work is ludicrous... As written, you're post conflates work and job. Perhaps the writer is indicating that there's a difference between working at one's craft and having a job where one works, and that scientists (and others) can find a higher sense of self efficacy when "vocation matches avocation." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adelaide9216 Posted September 6, 2018 Share Posted September 6, 2018 Anxious a little bit about next class because a former classmate (and now a current student for the class I am TAing for) screamed on the first day of the course that I have done a TEDx talk. Everyone applauded. Instructor asked that I send her the link so she can send it to the class. She did not know I had done a TEDx talk, I was quite low profile about it because it's regarding my mental health journey. I'm used to have people talking to me about this, but I'm afraid it will bring students who are struggling to share personal stories regarding their mental health in university and I am unsure where to draw the line about my role regarding this since this is the first class I am TAing, ever. Wow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cheshire_Cat Posted September 7, 2018 Share Posted September 7, 2018 I have to get a crown on my tooth tomorrow. And I got my first ever ticket, and I have to go to court, and I am nervous about that. My mentor might not be here my last year, and that would really suck. I may try to rush through my dissertation and get it done this year just in case. But, that would mean leaving my friends a lot earlier then I expected and moving to god-knows-where. On the other hand, it would mean having a real job and being able to make real money. Just feeling anxious, like I am holding my breath until this whole thing ends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lemma Posted September 7, 2018 Share Posted September 7, 2018 Feeling a bit depressed and not very optimistic about the future. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adelaide9216 Posted September 7, 2018 Share Posted September 7, 2018 The semester has just started and I already feel overwhelmed (workload and extracurricular activities!) I'm used to manage a lot at the same time, but yeah, I'm a bit anxious. MettaSutta 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sigaba Posted September 7, 2018 Share Posted September 7, 2018 Bosses... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PokePsych Posted September 8, 2018 Share Posted September 8, 2018 my perfectionism is getting to me again. XVIIA 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adelaide9216 Posted September 10, 2018 Share Posted September 10, 2018 (edited) I legit don't understand why it is so hard for me to find a boyfriend. I'm smart, kind, good listener, mature, etc. People tell me I am pretty. Yet, at almost 26, I have been single my entire life. I hate this shit. Edited September 10, 2018 by Adelaide9216 ResilientDreams and MettaSutta 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ResilientDreams Posted September 10, 2018 Share Posted September 10, 2018 3 hours ago, Adelaide9216 said: I legit don't understand why it is so hard for me to find a boyfriend. I'm smart, kind, good listener, mature, etc. People tell me I am pretty. Yet, at almost 26, I have been single my entire life. I hate this shit. I feel that...my younger brother just started undergrad and he's already in a great relationship and I've had nothing but rotten luck. I mean, I'm happy for him but it's still hard. Cheshire_Cat and Adelaide9216 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adelaide9216 Posted September 11, 2018 Share Posted September 11, 2018 I feel overwhelmed and the semester has just begun. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
avflinsch Posted September 12, 2018 Share Posted September 12, 2018 19 hours ago, Adelaide9216 said: I feel overwhelmed and the semester has just begun. Welcome to the new normal. Adelaide9216 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adelaide9216 Posted September 13, 2018 Share Posted September 13, 2018 I will approximately have 12 hours of focus groups/interviews (for 48 hours of transcription) to do this term. This is the part I like the least about doing qualitative research. Transcribing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janaca Posted September 13, 2018 Share Posted September 13, 2018 (edited) A year ago, I was accepted into this multi-university "project" that organizes events and sponsors research and "collaboration" on a topic really relevant to my research. I actually found out about the project because I had a chapter solicited for a book that some faculty working with this project. Then last month I got an email from a.) Informing me that I'd been left off the listserve for the entire year and thus hadn't been notified of any events, and b.) giving the program for their final "team meeting"--because this was apparently their last year of existence--where the one rockstar student in my department was giving a presentation on the exact topics of my book chapter. And I am just venting here: but I really don't know why they h*** they bothered to tell me about the listserve and the year of missed opportunities and this d*** meeting--which was, by the time I got the email, one two weeks away, and located outside the U.S., so it's not like I could have possibly attended anyway. And then my advisors (who are also the advisors of the advisors of said rockstar student) act like they don't understand why I would have possibly wanted to at that meeting. Edited September 13, 2018 by janaca Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sigaba Posted September 13, 2018 Share Posted September 13, 2018 Veterans of the armed services, especially army veterans with an 18-series MOS, bitching about American civilians having the temerity to live their lives as they see fit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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