Elanti Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 "Why don't you just get a job?" UGH. I don't know, maybe it's because a B.S. in Psychology isn't like a degree in Engineering? What "job" should I get in my field with just a B.S.? I think the most annoying thing is one of the things that remain unsaid. A lot of my friends on FB and the like haven't applied to grad school and have no intention to (for a large number of reasons). Ever since I started working in a research lab I was inundated with "Why are you bothering? Why don't you work somewhere that pays you?". When I began participating in other non-lab extracurriculars to help my applications, I was again met with "You should get a job so you have spending money!". Yeah, let me just set aside 20 hours a week to get a job on top of the labs and classes I'm involved in. People that don't want to apply to graduate school honestly don't get it. That's why I spend so much time on Gradcafe. You guys understand and aren't urging me to get a job. It really sucks to not be able to commiserate with my close friends. elisewin 1
NerwenAldarion Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 THEML: "have you heard anything yet?" Me: No the deadline to apply is in JANUARY!!! (It was November) I got that a LOT this year. THEM: you'll get in a lot of places." ME: You do realize they only accept like 7 students THEM: Well how many apply?" ME: About 100" THEM: O.O That face was always priceless GRANDMA: Have you hear anything yet ME: No Grandma, not yet GRANDMA: You shouldn't have waited a year after college, it might hurt you ME: Grandma, that won't make a difference. Besides I had to wait, I had no money to get into grad school. GRANDMA: I know what I'm talking about ME: (thinking to myself) You didn't even GO to college. personalityresearcher 1
Canadianna Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 I got this doozy from my friends the other day (context, I've done a funded master's and will be starting my phd in the fall). While we were discussing the struggles of moving out and living independently. Friend: What you did doesn't really count. I mean, it's not like you had a full time job, you're still a student. [My head nearly exploded and after a lengthy argument I left]
PsycD Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 I got this doozy from my friends the other day (context, I've done a funded master's and will be starting my phd in the fall). While we were discussing the struggles of moving out and living independently. Friend: What you did doesn't really count. I mean, it's not like you had a full time job, you're still a student. [My head nearly exploded and after a lengthy argument I left] For the sake of my own sanity, which is almost nonexistent after enduring this app season, I have simply ceased discussing anything about graduate school with people who haven't been through this. They just don't get it.
thedig13 Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 "So what are you going to do with that degree?" "Well, hopefully, I'll become a professor at a university somewhere." "So you want to teach?" The ones who don't know that being a professor also means doing research and/or think that research is something you do using Google. Especially the ones who went to college and somehow don't know that.
Voulez-Vous Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 My father told me yesterday that I should just get an online PhD somewhere because it's the same thing. When I told him that I wanted to understand my field better, he said it sounded like I just wanted to be a student and that I could learn on my own. Sigh.
Macavity Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 "Does your husband know about this?" (After making a "moving across the country for grad school" status on FB). iPsych, GameTheory, Munashi and 2 others 5
starofdawn Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 "Does your husband know about this?" (After making a "moving across the country for grad school" status on FB). That sounds like a polite way of saying, "I can't believe your husband is letting you do this." Not to be unfairly cynical towards your Facebook friends....
Macavity Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 That sounds like a polite way of saying, "I can't believe your husband is letting you do this." Not to be unfairly cynical towards your Facebook friends.... Commenter is a conservative christian, so your cynicism is probably appropriate.
PhDerp Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 (edited) The ones who don't know that being a professor also means doing research and/or think that research is something you do using Google. Especially the ones who went to college and somehow don't know that. I only learned that professor =/= teacher like a year and a half ago. :x Edited April 9, 2014 by PhDerp
PhDerp Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 "Oooh I'm coming to visit you in Montreal!!!" Ummm...when I lived 30 miles from you, I never saw you, but now you're gonna make the effort to see me when I'm living in another country because you want a cheap vacation??? I'm actually hoping for that. I live in a boring (but pretty) little town in the middle of nowhere right now. Still, I live near enough to a lot of friends that they can visit me whenever. But they never do! I hope people use my apartment as a home base for visiting Hollywood and Disneyland. I'm counting on it. I'm asking them to! XD kittythrones and ICanHazPhdPreez? 2
PsycD Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 I'm actually hoping for that. I live in a boring (but pretty) little town in the middle of nowhere right now. Still, I live near enough to a lot of friends that they can visit me whenever. But they never do! I hope people use my apartment as a home base for visiting Hollywood and Disneyland. I'm counting on it. I'm asking them to! XD I wouldn't mind if they were real friends. If they really cared about seeing me they'd have done it while I was here, so no thanks.
kittythrones Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 My friends are all in either medical school, law school, or getting a masters in engineering...so I am sort of glad that they will be using my flat as a homebase in the UK. ****I am in NYC and most of my friends are all over the world currently****** The ones that are out in the "real world", I talk to them every day on fb so it isn't as bad. I'm actually hoping for that. I live in a boring (but pretty) little town in the middle of nowhere right now. Still, I live near enough to a lot of friends that they can visit me whenever. But they never do! I hope people use my apartment as a home base for visiting Hollywood and Disneyland. I'm counting on it. I'm asking them to! XD Goddamn PsychD, you can not catch a break.
PsycD Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Goddamn PsychD, you can not catch a break. Hahaha! It's all good.
restill Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Some context, my dad and I don't have a great relationship. Found out that my stepmother hadn't told him that I was accepted to a school with funding and a teaching position (I told her WEEKS before, so I was a little frustrated by that), so the conversation went like this (after trying to start the conversation by congratulating him on a promotion at work): "So, did you hear my good news?" "...huh?" "Did you hear about my good news? Did Christie tell you?" "No, I don't think so." "She didn't tell you?! I mean, it's kind of a huge deal, but okay...I've been accepted to earn a PhD at KSU with a full tuition waiver, teaching stipend making way more than I do now. So no matter what, I'm earning my PhD starting this fall!" "I thought you were going to MSU." "Well no, I've been waitlisted there. I haven't heard from them yet..." "Oh. That's too bad." As opposed to, "that's great news" or "congratulations" or "good job", I get "I thought you were going somewhere else". The whole thing frustrates me to pieces. /grumble grumble rant off
sqxz Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 "Well, I hope you like being out in the cold in the middle of nowhere..." My current research advisor, when I told him I was going to Illinois. He was kidding, of course, but I found this comment amusing considering we are hundreds of miles to the north of Champaign-Urbana, and it definitely gets colder here than it does there.
IR LeLaH Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 "I'm going to American University." "Oh. So which university in America?" I'm from another country, so I can't really blame my friends and family when they say this to me... Still, it is frustrating and I hate to explain it for so many times. Maybe I should make a public announcement about it. gorki and GameTheory 2
nightfarmer Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 3x a day: them: "so what schools are you applying to?" [you rattle off the two thousand schools against your will because it's the path of least resistance] them: "which one's your top choice?" you: "i don't really have one. it will depend on what offers i get and where my personal life is when it comes time to make the decision" them: ... [clearly unsatisfied with your answer] "yeahhhh... but if you got into all of them right now, where would you go?" you: "that's not going to happen. no point in hypothesizing about that eventuality" them: "where do you want to go?" you: "i only applied places i wanted to go." [why would i apply anywhere i wouldn't want to go?] and both parties leave slightly annoyed. gsc 1
Vene Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 I liked telling people I was going to go to the one that paid me the most money. At the least it got them to shut up. pianocognition, RCtheSS and GhostsBeforeBreakfast 3
firewisp11 Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 "Why are you going to grad school straight from undergrad? Don't you want to explore the world while you still can??" ^ soo frustrating firewisp11 1
museum_geek Posted January 30, 2015 Posted January 30, 2015 "Oh you have an interview today? That's weird. When I got into grad school 40 years ago I didn't have to interview so I'm not sure why you need to do an interview now. What kind of program is this anyway?" -My well meaning yet slightly out of touch co-worker's reaction when I informed her I was doing a grad school interview over the phone this afternoon
MidwesternAloha Posted January 30, 2015 Posted January 30, 2015 "When are you going to get a real job?" "You can't stay in academia forever."
MidwesternAloha Posted January 30, 2015 Posted January 30, 2015 OH, and my favorite (because I'm married): "So, how can you start a family? You'll be in your thirties!" yellowmint and Starbuck2015 2
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